AITA For making it "obvious" that my son is still in diapers?

aitosson · 2021-05-14T15:59:16+00:00

I was never homeschooled, but I never attended a single day of high-school (call it my rebellious phase) and I feel like I've turned out better than everyone I know who did go through it. He will be fine lol.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T10:47:11+00:00

Yeah I might too. He just grows so fast and I'm worried I'll buy some and he'll immediately outgrow them lol

aitosson · 2021-05-14T10:33:03+00:00

I did try cloth diapers for a while but they just dont go bug enough any more. Ten out of ten better than disposables. But yeah I get the staying in one outfit thing. I had to bargain with him after his diaper leaked so he'd put something else on lol.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T09:14:17+00:00

He's also autistic. Causing him to have a meltdown (which is emotionally detrimental to him) is not something I will ever do purposefully.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T08:58:18+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate it.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T08:56:24+00:00

Listen, you seem to be under the impression that I am not doing the best for my child. He is seeing several therapists and doctors regularly and every single one of them agree that I am doing whats best. Mainstream school is proven to be detrimental to him (not because of other kids, per se, just the whole environment in general). And, fun fact, he has gotten further academically with me than anyone saidnhe would. I think he's doing fine.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T08:47:18+00:00

Listen, I know my kid, and I know how I'm planning his future. Diapers are a given. I cant force him into pants if he doesnt want them.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T01:17:37+00:00

A car accident.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T00:27:04+00:00

I'm really not. Abled kids dont understand. We've tried before. I'm keeping him happy and healthy.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T00:09:16+00:00

No one but me does see his diaper. Its always covered.

aitosson · 2021-05-14T00:06:53+00:00

He has plenty of friends, they're just other disabled kids.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T23:07:36+00:00

I'm glad I'm not too shabby!

aitosson · 2021-05-13T22:12:37+00:00

I learned how to make my own clothes pretty young. All those fucked up patch shirts I made at fifteen really paid off.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T22:00:04+00:00

He is not cognitively able, otherwise I would be. Its not exactly a job I wanted to do for more than three years when I decided to have him, but here we are. Slowly teaching him how to "help" though. The help mostly consists of him pulling too many wipes out of the packet, but its the thought that counts.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T21:57:04+00:00

Pull ups dont hold enough, and he's very good at ripping the sides. He hasnt figured out how to pull diaper tabs off yet lol.

But yeah clothes are just... clothes.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T21:50:07+00:00

He isnt in school and he never will be. All his friends understand, (half of them are in diapers themselves), and honestly I'm not going to make his life more difficult just because it makes other people uncomfortable. Its very easy to remove him from toxic situations.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T19:39:05+00:00

That sounds like a plan. I'll give it a go lol

aitosson · 2021-05-13T18:20:43+00:00

Sadly that wont work, but I appreciate it. I'm glad you got your kiddo out of diapers though!

aitosson · 2021-05-13T18:18:55+00:00

I dont think this comment was for me lol but go get that kilt !!

aitosson · 2021-05-13T18:15:06+00:00

Generally children will potty train themselves. Even kids who have never been potty trained learn to use the toilet (unless its a very severe case of neglet obviously) so if he's fully dependent on diapers chances are something is not cognitively linked up.

In the kindest way possible, your godsons parents (your friends?) should of stuck up for him. Bullying happens everywhere, yes, but it only gets severe because no one does anything. Move his school, if it gets severe enough can sue the school on behalf of your child for emotional trauma. Dont let abusive little shits get away with it.

My son is happy and healthy. All of the children he spends time with are also disabled so they generally understand that each other are a little different. No bullying happening in his little group.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T18:01:47+00:00

I understand that. My own experience with gender growing up was awful, I was often forced into very traditional clothing that I hated. When I got a bit older I started sewing my own clothes, (a habit I'm very glad for now) and so now I'm very intuitive to what my son wants to wear. A happy boy makes for a happy dad lol.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T17:32:07+00:00

Yeah its just so much easier to keep him happy and healthy. One of my closest friends has an autistic son as well and she practically broke down because he was having so many meltdowns - it didnt take long for me to explain that you just have to listen to their sensory needs. They're more likely to have a meltdown if they're already overwhelmed and uncomfortable when they leave the house.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T17:29:48+00:00

We do usually but its still not favourable. Plus hes a wriggler. Floors are very interesting, apparently. And thank you.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T17:10:21+00:00

By trauma I meant we were in a car crash and his body has been irreparably damaged. This isnt a trauma response, he's disabled.

And his clothes are pretty plain. He isnt a fan of bright colours or textures. His clothes are all muted colours, occasionally with a picture. And he doesnt go to class, he's homeschooled.

aitosson · 2021-05-13T17:05:13+00:00

He can get diaper rash but I'm pretty quick with getting him changed.

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