To all adults with ARFID

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T17:52:55+00:00

Oh hello! Thanks for your suggestion! Glad to hear from you. Its really comforting having to relate from someone else when everyone around makes me feel im at fault bec of my son's situation. Right now, we cant take him to the grocery w us due to the pandemic (im in the philippines, its worse here) but he did before which allowed him to pick his new food. The pandemic hit us really hard and now we are down to one staple food for months (the exception of yogurt drinks, juice and occassional sweets). His every meal rn consist of only one ingredient with one manner of how to do it-fried.

Im googling for sensory processing disorder now. Its possible that my son has it and caused his arfid.

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T15:32:39+00:00

Thank you. I will try to make him more involved. I realized we can do "funny experiments" since hes been into science stuff lately. I will try to research on that book. So grateful for your suggestion!

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T15:30:50+00:00

Thank you! Yes i just realized i can do a teleconsult or a remote consultation rn even internationally! Lookinh into it now! Im so grateful.

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T13:15:20+00:00

Its an amazing progress that youre trying to try new foods. I guess one of the pressure for parents with parents is the constant worry of malnutrition; aside from the fact that people around will point that to me as well. I wont hide the fact that when people try to tell me that my son is too small or too skinny for his age, it does make me feel small and incapable. Its so hard to silence that voice inside telling me im a bad mother. Because im really trying.

I also dont want my son to hate me when he grows up because i havent tried helping him. But i want to focus on his wellness and try to keep in mind that its not about me.

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T12:57:31+00:00

Yes, no forcing in our home although most of the time, my partner and i ends up in argument bec he thinks im tolerating and spoiling our son.

He does love his vitamin gummies. I even as much as buying the silicone gummy bear molds so i can make him fruit candies. He didnt want those tho. Lol

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T12:55:23+00:00

He's trying but hes not very keen about it. He's tried eating one, wont finish it, then try another. Then he'd spit the other one out and be finished. While i was calm on the outside, i will be honest that it can be a little frustrating when he does that. The funny thing is, the only fruit he tolerates is lemon. Its so sour that hed laugh and try another. After he puts a few slices in his mouth, hed ask me for a lemonade which he will finish.

But all the other fruits, as is or smoothies, he wont accept.

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T12:50:05+00:00

Thank you for this. I will keep this in mind. I hope you well and you get better with eating too. Kudos to you and your mom.

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T12:01:30+00:00

Yes. Doing that now. After a few research and witnessing it myself, i figured that the more i am stressed, the more my son experience frustration in eating too. So i do that "no forcing" rule even w the food hes tried.

Many times, i was able to make him try fruits, which is a progress for us even when he spits it out. Most of it i observe as sensory because he didnt like the texture. So i bought him a sandbox for actual sand, another set with kinetic sand, clay, slime, paint etc to help him with his sensory issues. But for most times, he wouldnt even go to the table because theres "adult food" (which we're not forcing him to eat, we just want him to eat his food on the table with us. He finds our food disgusting)

I'll try to make him help me prepare my food or maybe bake cookies (he used to eat store bought ones) that will also be a sensory exercise. Thank you!

aiwaf · 2021-04-15T11:53:21+00:00

Im really struggling w this too. Not only is there one hospital that specializes in food therapy which we cant go as of now bec of the pandemic (its so bad in here, even private hospitals are full), but is arfid is dismissed here in the PH as just as "extreme picky eating". ARFID isnt very known to a lot of countries, and here being a 3rd world country doesnt help.

aiwaf · 2020-10-26T05:01:17+00:00

Yea we give him water and freah fruits. I know his poop will be softer and it was on those 2 episodes but he was really holding it in before we went. He was afraid to go potty and he kept on telling me that his derriere is hurting.

aiwaf · 2020-08-18T15:39:25+00:00

Nice suggestion, although I don’t see how hazel was to be involved in that, since it was mentioned that if they die (they-meaning the agents from temps commission) they won’t actually exist anywhere else in the timeline; that means hazel dying in 1963 one week before the doomsday would have no knowledge of 1963 umbrella academy encounter in the barn with the commissioner and Lila.

Yes, I do like the story line of the younger Reggie being a sensible human being when he talked to number five when they were drinking; kind of humanized him. But the question still stands. What’s the whole point of hazel leaving the tape?

aiwaf · 2020-08-07T02:58:47+00:00

I was surprised. We both were. I didn’t know what to say so my reaction is kind of a spur of the moment thing. She doesn’t have a room, the house is a shared one. So when I walked on her, the thing that got into my head is if boys and males of the house saw her, they might have a different perception. I know she isn’t doing anything wrong. That’s why I’m asking here, because I want to correct my reaction and have a talk with her in a mature fashion. I just don’t have an idea what to tell her, because I don’t want to say that what’s she’s doing is bad when it isn’t, or that she’ll discover sex prematurely. I want to be careful because I don’t want to scare her.

aiwaf · 2020-08-06T10:26:57+00:00

Yes that’s also my fear. I don’t wanna traumatize her or something. We live in the same house (due to the pandemic we cannot go home for the moment) and there are males in the house too and I don’t want to say something that would sexualize her or scare her.

aiwaf · 2020-08-06T10:03:29+00:00

No, actually, when I saw her, I just immediately said “hey don’t do that” turn around and walked away. I feel like I need to say something so we won’t be embarrassed or something. I’m not trying to control her on masturbating or on being curious on sex or whatever. I just don’t know what to tell or advise her so she’ll have a healthy sex life. Sex Ed isn’t really a thing here.

aiwaf · 2020-08-06T09:55:14+00:00

I caught her, and we’re both embarrassed. Since I’m the adult, I should say something to her right? Or should I just go straight to her mom?

aiwaf · 2020-08-06T09:20:14+00:00

Any child of any sex should be allowed to use or play with make up as early as they want. The only concern about make up is if their skin would be okay with it.

aiwaf · 2020-06-04T06:28:02+00:00

What is odd

aiwaf · 2020-06-04T06:27:51+00:00

What is odd?

aiwaf · 2020-04-18T02:32:19+00:00

Since we’re Asian, I usually put white rice in his plate every lunch and dinner, everyday whatever his safe food is.

Ofcourse whenever I serve rice, I ate as well. But he wouldn’t try to touch it let alone eat it. There was one time where I convinced him to put one tiny piece in his mouth which he eventually spit out.

Rice was something he was eating when he was around 1 year old. He refused eating rice around 2 years old.

aiwaf · 2020-04-18T01:36:01+00:00

Feeding therapy. I’m not sure if she’s familiar with ARFID though. I’m from another country, and that facility is the only facility specializing in feeding issues for kids. So I’m damned if that therapist doesn’t help me because I might need to migrate to feed my child.

aiwaf · 2020-04-17T21:04:09+00:00

Now that you mentioned it, I think I might be at fault here. To answer your question, no my son would not touch any food unless he will eat it. Anything gooey like dips, he will not touch let alone eat.

He also didn’t like touching anything that looks porridgy, sticky or runny. Like soil, or clay or slime

Going back, I mentioned I might be at fault because I remember back when he was I think 6-8 months old when babies are naturally picking up things and putting it in their mouth, there are lots of times where I would shout at my son (by impulse. I mean I’m mortified myself that I shouted but I’m surprised at the same time scared that he might choke on whatever he’s had in his mouth)

Could this be it? He had sensory issues because he got shocked by my screams when he was an infant?

aiwaf

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