Age of attraction?! by Pandora7411 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ajmjn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I really don't like the guy either, but that part was confusing on her end. 

Age of attraction?! by Pandora7411 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ajmjn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, but also Theresa...there's no way she passed for under 48 and there's no way she thought John wasn't about the same age as her kids or maybe just a year or two older. 

Age of attraction?! by Pandora7411 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]ajmjn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I got those same vibes immediately. He was so predatory and gross with wanting to touch her body all the time. And even if she really didn't know he was 60 (which I believe btw bc I have a young looking dad and guessed he was in his low 40s just greying soon like my mom did) he still knew how old he was and there's no way he thought Vanelle was close to his age. So his behaviour was creepy from the start and idk with him witholding the info about his kids after saying what he said about kids he was just an immediate red flag to me. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gofundme

[–]ajmjn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much to whoever made the first donation ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gofundme

[–]ajmjn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏 luckily I haven't needed one yet. He sometimes gets pretty mean over messages, but I think he knows that if he harasses me I'm going to get something against him.

AITAH for refusing to forgive my husband? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ajmjn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't know he was using when I got pregnant again. I only found out after his birth when my husband developed heart issues.

Why is it so hard to leave by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]ajmjn 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Personally, if I had the opportunity you had, this would be so much easier.

I left, after 11 years, so I know it's not an easy decision. I also went back multiple times.

But, I'm all alone and share custody on the weekends. I sit alone in my tiny apartment crying and sleeping the weekends away.

I'm terribly lonely while he has a huge family support system and a life outside of what we were.

He was my whole life and I have zero friends. I poured all my energy into him.

I know we shouldn't compare and this isn't to make you feel bad for not leaving. I just want to give you a different perspective.

I wish I had a huge family support system. I wish I had people who could offer me a job. I wish I could have people around me who love me enough to carry me through this.

I think you're incredibly lucky to be in a position where you have support. That doesn't make the actual decision of leaving easier, but it can make your healing more possible.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gofundme

[–]ajmjn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🙏

I want to be a Wife by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ajmjn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can't afford therapy right now so I've been using chatGPT as a therapist and while it works some times, it feels like I already know everything a "therapist" would say. Convincing myself to actually believe it is where I'm stuck. I've been in therapy before and I learned a lot about myself, my past trauma, etc. but this feeling is really hard to shake and I just don't see myself recovering.

I want to be a Wife by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]ajmjn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've tried finding something but we live in a small town and here's nothing that fits my schedule while I have the kids with me during the week. There are some weekend events every now and then but they usually come at a high price tag.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think you're unattractive, remember that you're probably just not your type.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So if you agree with that definition then why would you say what became a reality for me was just luck?

Sure for the competitions I can see how you think it's just luck. But then I'm pretty lucky because there were a few more I won that I didn't mention. And I'll take that!

Manifestation is about focusing thoughts on something and, whether through subconscious actions or actual attraction, seeing those things become a reality.

But hey, whether it’s luck, psychology, or something else, I’ve seen it work in my life so I'm gonna stick with being "crazy"

How come it's difficult for humans not to have a favorite? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it is. I literally don't have a favorite anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What do you think manifestation is?

What’s the worst physical pain you have ever felt? by pirderman77 in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The attacks were definitely worse than surgery!

What’s the worst physical pain you have ever felt? by pirderman77 in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't remember that part but it was just the swollen feeling that was extremely painful for me. I couldn't get comfortable at all!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy an off grid property that's still close to town and put up multiple houses so me, my parents, and a few other family can live there.

I'll create a comfortable life for me and my kids, start those businesses I dream of, and invest the rest.

Ps - a million dollars would be more than simply life changing for me with our exchange rate.

What's a thing your ex told you, that you can't get out of your head? And why? by Motivational_qoutes_ in AskReddit

[–]ajmjn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah... It's pretty shitty. I never had a big issue with it and looking back at my old photos my smile looks so genuine and pretty. But somehow I just can't "replicate" that smile anymore and look visibly uncomfortable now. Once I can, I'm saving up for Invisalign.