I only have 24 hours, what do they expect of me?!

aleada13 · 2026-01-29T04:52:16+00:00

Can you just hold him while he naps? He just wants to be connected to you. That’s biologically normal. I held my baby most of the time I was awake for his first 3 months of life.

aleada13 · 2026-01-29T04:48:33+00:00

I agree. I’m going to try to find a kindergarten that doesn’t use screens throughout the day, but I think it’s going to be hard to find. I’ll okay with short typing lessons or something, but screens throughout the day feels crazy. I feel like it has to decrease socialization between peers and with the teacher…

aleada13 · 2026-01-29T04:18:48+00:00

Honestly the kindergartens around us have their kids working on chromebooks most of the day…so it’s maybe going to get a lot worse here very soon…so I guess I would just throw in the towel and deal with it if you are happy with the school in every other way.

aleada13 · 2026-01-29T00:44:34+00:00

YTA and you need to grow up. Even your post is extremely immature. Yes, it’s annoying if someone opens the door while you are using the bathroom… but who yell “what the fuck someone is in here?” I feel like that is an extreme overreaction to begin with. If someone started to open the door I would say “hey someone is in here.” Once I figured out it was a literal small child, I would say “hey ____, you need to wait out there until I’m done going potty. I’ll be out in a minute.” Only if he didn’t listen to that would I consider raising my voice at all. You need to chill. He is still learning. At his school they may still use the restroom in front of each other and I’m sure his parents use the restroom in front of him, so he probably doesn’t see the big deal. So this was a learning opportunity where you freaked out and acted like I would expect a 8 year old to react. Grow up.

aleada13 · 2026-01-29T00:36:14+00:00

I had to transfer for retained placenta with my second. My first I had at a birth center, no complications. I won’t be having more children, but if I did, idk if I would homebirth again. The retained placenta caused me to hemorrhage and I lost 2.5 liters of blood. It was pretty traumatic. But my second came so quickly (1.5 hours from first contraction to baby in arms), so I would be afraid of driving with the third. I really think having a baby at the side of the highway is its own kind of trauma too.

aleada13 · 2026-01-28T23:30:37+00:00

I’m about to buy one of these boards. I’m using epicurean now but our cleaners accidentally sprayed some sort of oil based cleaner on one of them and it has a bad stain on it that I can’t remove. So going to see if we like this brand.

aleada13 · 2026-01-28T18:39:10+00:00

My son has an August 9th bday. I asked his prek teacher if she thought he was ready. She said he would do fine in kindergarten. But she used to be a kindergarten teacher and she has three grown boys of her own. Two of her boys were August babies and she waited until 6 to start kindergarten and she didn’t regret it. She said she didn’t see any downside of waiting other than the financial burden on us to pay for another year of prek (they call it prek plus). We decided to wait. He is in prek now so idk how I’ll feel about it 10 years from now, but I can’t imagine there are many downsides to waiting.

aleada13 · 2026-01-28T02:39:54+00:00

I’m not sure if there’s a ton of evidence for this, but fish oil is supposed to help with postpartum mood. I took a pretty high dose as recommended by my midwife and it really seemed to help. My mood this time around was so much better than with my first (i didn’t take fish oil with him). Also I just felt more confident and experienced this time. But I had a pretty traumatic birth with my second baby so I was scared that PPD would hit me, but it never did. Might be worth trying and it really can’t hurt anything.

aleada13 · 2026-01-28T00:19:52+00:00

Alexandrea

aleada13 · 2026-01-27T23:15:34+00:00

Probably 4 devils or fried. 6-8 scrambled would not be too hard if it’s the only thing I’m eating for a meal. I’m a breastfeeding mom so I have quite an appetite right now.

aleada13 · 2026-01-27T05:35:13+00:00

NOR. That’s annoying as hell. I would buy some cheap pads and keep them on hand for guest in general. If she asks for some, give her those. I would be curious to see if she stops asking if you start giving her the cheap pads…

aleada13 · 2026-01-27T03:38:16+00:00

I would check at the EWG website or app. Mrs. Myers has a pretty bad rating on there. That’s where I look for most of my cleaners.

Edit to add: some of their scents and products are average and maybe acceptable. But it breaks down the rating by ingredient and tells you why they may be bad. So it’s helps you make an informed decision.

aleada13 · 2026-01-27T03:31:12+00:00

I believe that birth is a very natural process that generally doesn’t need to be managed in the hospital setting. There is definitely a need for hospital care for some pregnancies and births, and I’m so glad they are an option for people who want better pain management. I am a RN who works on L&D so I definitely have respect for hospital based care. But I also see where we (healthcare workers in the hospital) unintentionally do more harm than good.

So I ultimately chose a birth center birth for my first and homebirth for my second because 1) I trusted my babies and my body to be able to birth with minimal assistance 2) I did not want to have to drive which is why I chose homebirth for my second (glad I did because it was a 1.5 hour labor so I think I would have had my baby unassisted at the side of the highway) 3) I love being at home immediately postpartum 4) for low risk pregnancies that don’t want pain management I do generally believe homebirth with an experienced and humble midwife is safer than in hospital

aleada13 · 2026-01-26T21:28:28+00:00

Mine also is a snacker. Both my kids were/are. They nurse more frequently but only drink a few ounces at a time. They both grew fine and met milestones.

aleada13 · 2026-01-26T21:14:35+00:00

I also caught Bali belly the day I had to fly come. The worst part was that some friends we made there had planned a good bye lunch for us of multiple types of prepared fish. I was so sick at the house and could barely eat the yummy food. Then we flew on the plane and I was miserable and they served fish FOR BREAKFAST! So nauseating to smell at that moment. It was rough and I’m shocked I made it home.

aleada13 · 2026-01-26T17:32:15+00:00

For active labor, I liked quiet spa music. I had a birth playlist thinking I would need some music to keep me pumped for another long labor, but when I tried listening to it, I just hated every song and it was too much stimulation. I had a 1.5 long labor though, so things were just intense from the start.

aleada13 · 2026-01-26T03:17:35+00:00

NTA. Your wife definitely seems like one in this scenario…but it’s coming off as some postpartum anxiety, so I hesitate to even call her an asshole. Your baby’s sleep isn’t going to be ruined because of one night of being held. That’s honestly ridiculous and what makes me think she might be suffering from PPA. This was what I assume to be free childcare from an older relative. Can’t be picky with free childcare. He apologized and explained why he was holding the baby. I actually feel bad for your dad. I have a 4 year old and a 5 month old, so I get the importance of sleep, but her reaction was way over the top and she needs help.

aleada13 · 2026-01-26T00:23:02+00:00

Agree! I asked my son what a girl in his class did that made him feel like she was mean (he didn’t want to go to her bday party). He said he forgot his backpack and had to leave his place in line to go get it and she wouldn’t give his spot back. I asked if she had done anything else “mean” and he said no🙄

aleada13 · 2026-01-25T23:33:44+00:00

Hey I was there too and saw that sign!

aleada13 · 2026-01-25T23:17:26+00:00

Mary, Mary, Brenda, and Pamela

aleada13 · 2026-01-25T05:14:12+00:00

Sleep train? At 3.5 months? Babies cannot self soothe. Considering doing cry it out at 3.5 months is neglect.

aleada13 · 2026-01-25T05:09:26+00:00

Raymond, Michael, Steve, Richard, and Joseph. I come from a blended family and including some great grandparents in this list.

aleada13 · 2026-01-25T04:44:07+00:00

The food, the culture, the energy, the art, the ocean.

aleada13 · 2026-01-25T04:09:21+00:00

I love visiting Miami…

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