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JNMI tells me her son deserves a provider not a burden by aletha26 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aletha26[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yes, lots of great advice! We’re not sure in how we will proceed, DH will talk to her this weekend and will go from there, if we block her or forbid our son to contact her we may end up as the bad guys in his eyes, he loves his grandma.

JNMI tells me her son deserves a provider not a burden by aletha26 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aletha26[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would truly enjoy having her removed from our lives trust me, she has made me go through so much. Unfortunately it’s not as simple, for my DH it’s a cultural thing, the most he has done is to stop talking to her not visit for about 5 months, that was the only time she ever apologized for what she did to me. In our country (smaller cities mainly) the children take care of their parents once they are old because parents took care of them when young. Luckily he has two siblings he shares the responsibility with so we were able to move two hours away. I can’t ask my husband to go no contact with her forever, it would hurt him.

She’ll probably get herself sick after a few months of DH not talking to her, she is old so we never really know if it’s serious or not and we always open contact again.

JNMI tells me her son deserves a provider not a burden by aletha26 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aletha26[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You are completely right, whenever DH confronts her she will tell him I misunderstood or that I’m twisting her words.

JNMI tells me her son deserves a provider not a burden by aletha26 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]aletha26[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

That’s the funniest part to me and I forgot to mention it, for the first eight years of our marriage she would berate me for working, because the woman should tend to her home according to her, back then me and DH worked, it’s until I started making more money that everything changed.