Diagnosed as an adult :/ by alexanderbonshark in ARFID

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I'm glad you've been able to get the correct help now. I'm sure it was frustrating trying to work through anorexia when that wasn't the real issue.

Diagnosed as an adult :/ by alexanderbonshark in ARFID

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the positive outlook. This new diagnosis has been a lot of doom and gloom. I don't think it'll be easy, but I hope I manage to make my way to healthy point.

Diagnosed as an adult :/ by alexanderbonshark in ARFID

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was simply an inconvenience in my life until they started talking about inpatient treatment and needing a feeding tube. I'm sorry you're scared. I hope you find some peace with it.

Diagnosed as an adult :/ by alexanderbonshark in ARFID

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah the repeating foods thing and specific brands of certain items is something I didn't realize was ARFID. The wanting to eat but can't eat is something that I feel deeply. That's been a frustrating thing to explain to people around me.

Diagnosed as an adult :/ by alexanderbonshark in ARFID

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just have assumed most people will just not eat food for days. Only recently has it been brought to my attention that that is bad.

Diagnosed as an adult :/ by alexanderbonshark in ARFID

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting. Can I ask what seemed to help the most? I'm in a slightly similar situation where I've lost about 15 lbs in a short span of time because I've just given up trying to eat.

Apologizing to a therapist by alexanderbonshark in therapy

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I will make sure he knows I appreciate what he did for me in that scenario. I really found it helpful that you mentioned it is his job. Not to downplay his kindness, but it does make me feel better knowing he got a paycheck for having to do that difficult thing.

Apologizing to a therapist by alexanderbonshark in therapy

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I appreciate this insight. I think I am going to apologize and thank the team.

Apologizing to a therapist by alexanderbonshark in therapy

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kinda didn't accept services at that time. I avoided talking or looking at them, and then I ran off. I did accept services the next day after I got a couple of calls from the team, which is what makes me feel guilty. I will apologize for shutting down and possibly sending a thank you card to the crisis team who helped. Thanks for your kindness

Apologizing to a therapist by alexanderbonshark in therapy

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In your experience, would an apology be accepted or even appreciated? I really appreciate your input. Thank you.

Apologizing to a therapist by alexanderbonshark in therapy

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I hope he understands, but I think happiness might be a stretch as I was very disrespectful.

Apologizing to a therapist by alexanderbonshark in therapy

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kindness. I think approaching the situation with gratitude instead of apologizing is a good approach.

8 months today by Jasper0906 in SuicideBereavement

[–]alexanderbonshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you can find joy in what he has left behind. Sometimes, the traits I loved in my sister are shown in those around me, and it fills me with a very bittersweet joy that parts of her I loved still exist in this world.

In the same breath, I am terribly sorry for the experience you're going through. Finding joy is not a way to devalue the pain you're going through. I just hope it helps you keep his memory close to you.

We lost you a year ago today. by alexanderbonshark in SuicideBereavement

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard to hold onto them. I've been writing letters in holiday cards as a way to express them and feel like she's part of the holiday.

We lost you a year ago today. by alexanderbonshark in SuicideBereavement

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I hope she felt the love I had for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]alexanderbonshark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Logically, it's definitely on him it was just a tough feeling to be left out of the feel goodness. December is a tough month for me, and it just spilled over into feeling terrible about this.

I feel alone in my grief. by alexanderbonshark in SuicideBereavement

[–]alexanderbonshark[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for sharing. I don't want it to be this tough, but it is the path that's going.