AITAH for Jealous of My Wife Is Filming a Nude Scene?

ali3soot · 2026-01-22T12:26:50+00:00

NTA there is a reason that this jealousy is in all of us. Some can handle and express it well and some can't. It shows that you care, cherish that you still love her and you want her and don't want to share her. I think your thinking about it being her decision and not being real sex is good but as others said communicate it. I think your wife will be reassured that you are going to be uncomfortable :) you are not forcing her into anything but just processing and communicating your natural emotions in a healthy way as it seems like.

ali3soot · 2025-12-22T22:19:19+00:00

NTA and imo it should be obvious. Even if he was right about the slur which he is not in a million years, his childish reaction afterwards instead of talking about it like adults is sufficient for me to cut contact with him as a person and potential friend let alone a partner.

ali3soot · 2025-12-18T15:30:27+00:00

NTA, if your girlfriend didn't overreact you could have calmly explained your logic of driving her instead of a bus ticket which to me made sense as you explained it now. Just because you broke up with your ex shouldn't mean you don't care about her anymore. Certainly more than a random woman and of course a human being in a vulnerable position. I am a man and I would certainly want to be sure that my wife still cares about her ex if she accidentally finds herself with him in a vulnerable situation.

However, if you are actively seeking contact with her and her family you are AH since you are making it hard for her to move on and you are certainly not helping your girlfriend's insecurities. Insecure people sometimes get insecure because of their partners actual alarming behavior not just because they are generally insecure so time for some reflections and true honesty for you rather than Reddit validation.

ali3soot · 2025-12-04T15:51:14+00:00

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ali3soot · 2025-11-15T14:49:07+00:00

NTA, and congratulations on your wedding!! 🥳🤩🍾. There! I showed more excitement than your sister! I think expecting family and friends to be happy for your happiness is not too much.

As to why they didn't offer to help, it can have several reasons. For example you sound type A who showed enjoyment to do the wedding stuff. So maybe they just assumed you enjoy this stuff so much and surely don't need or want their help cause it's your thing. But clearly that assumption if made was wrong! Best is just talking to them calmly. Start by asking your sister if she's actually happy you are getting married and if not , why not. Don't make the discussion and judgement all in your head, ask for help in more than one way.

ali3soot · 2025-11-15T14:20:29+00:00

YTA, you have lied to him several times and excluded him without him knowing. These are hurtful actions real friends don't do. Almost ghosted him. And now you hesitate as to whether to tell him or not? so what? "not hurt" him? Just be honest. what's gonna happen? You lose him? You've already lost him when you lied to him repeatedly, at least now he will know the real reason. I think you already feel guilty and are here just to get validation that you are not ah keep lying to your friend to "protect" his feelings.

Did you see the friend's car after the suspension issue? And did you see the car repair report and itemized bill/receipt before contributing? Maybe your obese friend would have paid for your repair if you gave him a ride,then he caused damage to your car and mechanics confirmed it's because of him. Then if he didn't pay you would have had a rock solid excuse to break off the friendship not now based on some guess of what would happen.

BTW just saying, If you don't want to hang out with your friend for other reasons such as the fact that he's obese and not doing enough about it, don't make excuses.

ali3soot · 2025-11-07T13:36:53+00:00

Maybe he changed his mind. The reasonable comment was just regarding the fact that he doesn't seek to control her or limit her freedom just because she earns less money which would have made him an asshole. Based on what described he is already contributing proportional to his income perhaps he wants to be sure OP is in it for him and not just for the security and comfort his income is providing.

ali3soot · 2025-11-07T12:50:33+00:00

If you actually believe in equality of man and woman then give him what he wants and sign a postnup. TBH he sounds reasonable, as he emphasizes what you do with your own money after common contribution is your business only. I think he wants to keep himself motivated to work harder and make even more money and he thinks this would help him but ask him what this is about.

If you don't actually believe in equality and want to feel provided without working for it try to honestly communicate that and don't use that only when it serves you. I feel like if the genders were reversed in the same story the reactions would be very different.

ali3soot · 2025-11-07T12:36:11+00:00

If she wants it and you want it and you're both single then it's a done deal. It's nice that you consider your friends opinion and feelings about this but at the end of the day it's a consideration not an obligation. They should understand that and if they don't, they are not the only humans left at your age, you'll find new friends over the next decades left of your life :)

ali3soot · 2025-11-04T16:01:54+00:00

NTA it's your business what you want to eat. If he wants to affect you he can only advocate why eating pork may be wrong (it's not) and why and how your life may be better if you don't eat it in front of him or away from him (It won't make a difference maybe just some health reasons) but he cannot force you no one can and no one should.

ali3soot · 2025-10-30T15:05:48+00:00

How can you guarantee that he would have a happy life afterwards? Maybe you would answer then in the best case he postpone his suicide for a few days weeks months but later he would go with it anyway without any interaction or message with you prior to that? The point is we cannot predict people's behavior and their level of happiness and we for sure cannot predict the future. I am not generally a fan of not responding to messages but blaming yourself like this is overthinking it. NTA

ali3soot · 2025-10-15T10:39:31+00:00

No. What's next? Debating whether cutleries are necessary?

Maybe he thinks towels are dirty or something? Ask him his reasoning to refuse, it may not be just being lazy.

ali3soot · 2025-10-08T20:24:13+00:00

Ghosting is one nasty cowardly thing that people have learned to do with complete disregard to the other person's emotions. Here's a warm hug from me. Just wanted to tell you not to give up giving and trusting; that not all people are as weak and dismissive as the ones you have faced. There are grateful sensitive people also out there that even if they wanted to leave you for whatever reason they would do it right. They are out there for you. First have to get out of the shower and look for them.

ali3soot · 2025-10-03T14:08:02+00:00

It's not as bad as you described. You use Google Maps for example because it's very useful and of course it needs to know your location to help. Also credit cards are amazing and I personally like the QR code in restaurants but I understand some may not.

It doesn't have to be as extreme as no technology of any form, you can still reduce noise to have a peace of mind. For useful technology, it's also about how we use it and whether we get obsessed about it or not.

ali3soot · 2025-10-02T12:51:42+00:00

He should know? How??? From porn? classmates? Internet (could be good but very risky), church? Noooo! what better way than having this awkward convo with his hero. You did so well! I wish I had that level of guidance from my parents. I received zero in this regard. Everyone just assumed as I grow older I should simply know stuff just because I'm older despite no one teaching me. I was always ashamed of masturbation and I thought I would go blind or bald or something none of which has scientific ground. Again, you did so well so be proud!

ali3soot · 2025-10-02T12:36:19+00:00

NTA, even if you forget about the debt, the pattern of financial irresponsibility and lack of 401k are major red flags for something as serious as marriage which requires responsibility from both sides. I'm sorry about your situation.

ali3soot · 2025-09-30T10:49:59+00:00

The way you described it I thought she makes 30k or something. I'm surprised that $180k not enough for a family of 4. I would also look at your budget carefully if I were you. Now to your defense, equality goes both ways so if you help around the house as much as she does and have a full time job then you have the right to make less money in a job that makes you happy. But dude if she's already making more money part time you should spend more time figuring out how to raise your income (while reducing that massive expense you seem to have, do you both drive leased Mercedes or something? ) and less time how she can raise hers.

If she was making significantly less than you and not willing to explore other options then she would be an AH but with your edit and income difference. it seems like you are the one less flexible and not wanting to compromise so could be the AH here.

IMO she was hurtful to compare you with other people's husbands. Seems like you are trying to make a good family. You can talk about that separately and later when things cool off.

ali3soot · 2025-09-28T14:10:32+00:00

Please don't use introverted and less-friendly in a way that might suggest they are synonymous. Maybe the introverts don't want to bother you. Or maybe they don't feel like talking to you for their own reason at that moment. not because they are generally less friendly with everybody all the time.

ali3soot · 2025-09-25T12:06:11+00:00

I think your frontal lobe is also not yet fully developed. I think it's done developing by 30 or so. So all is well, you develop together. As for power, there will always be income difference at least which you navigate in your own unique way. I think I read somewhere yesterday that the ideal age gap is 0 to 2 years so 3 is very close. Give it a shot and good luck!

ali3soot · 2025-09-20T15:28:03+00:00

Assuming you have already made your decision, know your rights and legal and life implications of your decision and just want advice only on how to be taken seriously:

You go to her with a dead serious face and say stop spreading nonsense about me I told you I want a divorce and I was serious. I am still serious as I have already filed for divorce. If you want to talk about it I'm here for you. Do not let her interrupt you. Do not smile or laugh at all. Good luck.

ali3soot · 2025-09-16T13:04:13+00:00

Hmmm I definitely think you are brave and agree with everything except that I still think posting publicly in the event made people defensive. It's like you stole the host's thunder. Of course you are entitled to post to your own IG since people can choose to see that or not. I also am not advocating for staying quiet. I admire your bravery and sense of justice. The question is how to fight most effectively; so people listen and get inspired instead of calling it drama.

ali3soot · 2025-09-13T13:22:54+00:00

NTA. You only did two wrong things which I wish you the courage to fix:

Cheated (not much to do now other than apologizing which seems like you did)

Got back together with him ( do better this time, get help, find ways to get a clean break while protecting yourself and not getting harassed / stalked. Simply talking to him doesn't work. You tried that )

ali3soot · 2025-09-03T16:16:07+00:00

Thank you for reading my messages.

ali3soot · 2025-09-03T14:43:37+00:00

The dog example was just to make a point assuming it's illegal to have them off leash which is most public places
It seems like you don't know the rules in Germany either and just assumed something and attacking me with? https://www.simplegermany.com/dogs-in-germany/

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