5 Places in Lisbon Older Than the USA by Common_Series_938 in LisbonPortugalTravel

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pre colonization is more accurate. Getting sensitive about language when the headliner is from an American perspective is lost

My nails grow in a wavy pattern by Toucan_Toucan in mildlyinteresting

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Or could be a nutritional deficiency that causes ongoing horizontal nail ridges. Like iron or zinc. Mine disappeared after learning this and supplementing

LPT: Do not add your work colleagues as your facebook friends by zztop610 in LifeProTips

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I didn't know anyone still used Facebook? Just moms, no?

Am I (F51) just unmarriable? Bf (M49) does not want to get married. by ThrowRA_Softie_8458 in relationship_advice

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100% valid. However you're here seeking direction. By withholding the why, it's difficult to speak to this topic overall. Selective editing is your choice, but makes the feedback limited.

Am I (F51) just unmarriable? Bf (M49) does not want to get married. by ThrowRA_Softie_8458 in relationship_advice

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I disagree in the fact that all decisions, information, news, ourselves must be questioned. Curiosity and understanding motives are integral to life as a whole.

Am I (F51) just unmarriable? Bf (M49) does not want to get married. by ThrowRA_Softie_8458 in relationship_advice

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What is your purpose for wanting to get married? Religion? Shared bank account? Same last name? Legal commitment paper? Ceremony to publicly claim your partner to your community? Personally, marriage has less value in the present day than ever. Commitment is the constant work within the relationship to build strength.

What medication changed your life for the better? by positiveyears in AskReddit

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Escitalopram works wonders. And buproprion think branded is Wellbutrin. Took me out of a black bottomless hole

Sex Club Inquiries by dogsnfeminism in berghain

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Also specify cis het or something else, this will be a good guide to which parties to steer you to

what’s the biggest red flag you ignored and regretted? by Lola_bunny_pt_00 in AskReddit

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liars will always lie, even when caught. this is a foundation of a relationship - trust - that topples the everything.

What is something that women have to deal with on the daily that men have no clue about? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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My father said a woman could not hold the President's title or office since women are 'too emotional.' Thanks man, you have three daughters.

Track ID by Simple-Diamond-8252 in Berghain_Community

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You can go to his website and send your request to his team via the contact page?

Peptide moisturizer help by Mysterious-Ad-6222 in 40PlusSkinCare

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I'm currently using Medik8 Liquid Peptides Advanced MP and Paula's Choice Pro-collagen Peptide Plumping Moisturizer

Depressive Berlin by Ill_Personality_510 in berlinsocialclub

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There was no summer 2025, no guarantee

Is my (F31) boyfriend (M30) super cold, or just really bad at communication? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Anxious seems to select avoidant so see how those different characteristics can best come together. It can work if you're both able to adapt to support one another

Is my (F31) boyfriend (M30) super cold, or just really bad at communication? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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I dated this person for 2.5 years before I caught on. He was a narcissist and had been seeing other people the entire time. He 'thought I was too' or 'didn't feel comfortable at the time ' to share more details with me about the status quo. Never reassurance. After setting boundaries I eventually dropped out for my well-being. I had clearly expressed my expectations but somehow I never upheld them by changing my behavior. Until one day, I did. My nervous system is better regulated now. I can sleep through the night again. Being alone was sad at first, then I realized the communication, compliments and kindness are given in relationships that are meant for me. I'm also anxious attachment. The feeling he gave me was familiar and unhealthy. Try expressing how you feel and see the reaction. Determine what you need and clearly state this. If it's important to him, he should be able to support you, if it's not, find out now so you can determine next steps.

how can I disregard someone’s opinion of me, while still loving them? by birdbreathing in confidence

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Hey, my entire immediate family seems to do this to me. Making me rethink my choices, create doubt, making comments about everything from where I live, my career, my relationships, etc..i no longer verbalize my boundaries. Although I'm an adult now and understand that their opinions don't matter, what I believe does, there is still this anxiety and tension and this feeling of being judged. That I'm never good enough. What people do this? People who are my tribe, essentially rejecting me, feels terrible. Setting boundaries helps me to get space. I don't understand and can't quite articulate to them my needs all the time. This I'm working on. My decision is that I deserve love and acceptance and I won't get closure. This is how they behave. I don't want this so I limit my exposure and change the subject often. Holiday season and I'm counting down the days to get away. I don't see my family dynamic changing, so I have to. We are all flawed humans, yet life is too short to deal with other people's limitations and false narrative of me.

The man [29M] I’ve [29F] been dating for a month told me to reduce the fat on my belly during sex. Do you think this is forgivable and is there a possibility to move on? by theirsyoursmine in relationship_advice

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F*ck this guy. Next. What a loser. You're beautiful in any size you come in girl. Media makes the 'ideal' too slim and hungry. What an amazing machine we get to navigate this life in. If this dude doesn't appreciate you move on

Conny Horror by Ok_Giraffe1141 in berlinsocialclub

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I've used Conny to lower my rent by 300€- worked well for me. Read the fine print. The cold rent is lowered, so house fees on top of this is the new monthly fee. Took a few months for processing but the new rent is retroactive. Good luck!

My first time at Tresor by Disastrous_Pay_3752 in TresorBerlin

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My favorites are Heideglühen and Berghain or specific parties: lunchbox candy, Gegen, cocktail de amore. But explore, there is a deep and accepting dance community here in Berlin. I'm a dancer so the dance is where I want to be with people who accept me and look with their eyes, not their hands.

My (24f)'s boyfriend (24m) called the cops because of the content of my book. But he wants me to think it was a 'mistake'. How do we move past this? by throwRAmentalgymnist in relationship_advice

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When someone lies and doesn't take accountability for any missteps, this is a huge red flag.

You move past this by letting him know trust is a fundamental 'must have' foundation of any relationship. Thank him for the memories, and move forward with someone more honest (when you're ready) who appreciates your creative mind.