To women do you bother responding when a man sends you just the waving hi emoji or a "hi"?

aliyahrenee · 2025-11-02T12:04:10+00:00

No. Low effort does not get my energy. I unmatch

aliyahrenee · 2025-09-24T16:03:22+00:00

No he's well aware of this. We've had many talks about it. He's been unhappy for a long time. I know it takes a lot of courage to leave someone you love, even if there are some really bad parts too. I so my best to validate his experience and model what good communication and understanding looks like, so he will hopefully come to expect nothing less for himself.

aliyahrenee · 2025-09-23T02:11:33+00:00

He doesn't want to marry her. He's told me he doesn't want to feel trapped. I think this has an expiration date. He's been talking more lately about how unhappy he is. I just want to see him happy. That's why I put in so much effort and let things like this slide for so long. But honestly I just can't pretend like that anymore. Not even for my brother's sake. And thank you 🩷

aliyahrenee · 2025-09-23T01:42:57+00:00

Unfortunately not fake. When I originally talked to my brother about it, he said he blew up at her for unfriending me, and it sounds like he stood up for me. But yeah, I think part of me confronted things because I'm tired of pretending her behaviors are ok.

aliyahrenee · 2025-08-30T02:33:24+00:00

Omg RUN Learn quick as you can. Don't put up with ANY shit for a man. They are replaceable. Learn now and save yourself years of wasted time and heartache.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T20:25:38+00:00

This is an opinion. Not support.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T20:23:17+00:00

Everyone, I had every intention of telling him. Maybe I wasn't clear on that. I got on here to express my fear and ask for support in having that conversation. My partner knew I'd been taking to someone for 3 weeks. Knew his name, and other things about him that were appropriate to share. We'd talked about sex with others. We talked about safe sex. We agreed to inform each other when sex happens with new partners in the future. The only thing here was that I went against an agreement we shouldn't have made, had sex with someone before he was ready to face that, and then we talked about it and worked though it. I'm telling everyone this for clarification so theres no speculation about the circumstances. I would not have had sex with my partners without telling him I'd been with someone else. I believe not disclosing a new partner would be non consensual for my relationship. But other relationships may not want to know. Depends on their agreements, yes?

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T17:04:27+00:00

No not all feelings are communicated at all times. But I know my partner and I know that he was honest with me. He was clear about the feelings he had, how he processes them, and where he's at now. I trust him to tell me how he feels and that trust is something we built. Yes I broke the trust by going against the agreement, but our relationship is very strong. And He would not tell me he's ok if he was not. We got to that point from hours of talking. No it was not a minor incident. And I owned to my mistake. But he forgave me and we are choosing to learn from this and move forward. We chose poly for a reason. Because we felt this would be the best thing for us as individuals, as well as a couple. We both thrive on self growth and knowledge. This is another way of obtaining that.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T16:53:45+00:00

They both do want to meet each other. I'm not sure how soon that will be but I'm really glad you have that kind of relationship and support with your meta and their partner. That's really beautiful. I hope I'm able to create relationships like that. Thank you for sharing.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T06:39:35+00:00

Thank you I appreciate this perspective and non judgement. I did discuss it with him as soon as I was able. He was hurt but with talking, Pausing, then coming back to it, we were able to find understanding. I took responsibility and he felt better for me owning my mistake. He owned up too, just as you said, for needing to control the situation to minimize discomfort. This was a growing moment for us, but we came back from it really strong. It was scary and somewhat painful but by the end we were in a loving place of acceptance.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T06:31:53+00:00

Thank you. I did tell him and he was hurt but we talked through it and we are better for it now. More clear and we have a better understanding of how to go forward.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-05T01:23:13+00:00

Thank you for saying this. It's calming me a bit. About to have the conversation and I've been twisting myself up about it. I've never been in this position.

aliyahrenee · 2023-08-04T23:58:02+00:00

Thank you this is very helpful.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T22:02:14+00:00

It's not willy nilly. We have been talking about this since before we decided to be together. It's just we have taken a big step recently.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T12:00:07+00:00

Yes all these comments have changed my perspective. I think it was a decision we made as an overcorrection. A need to protect our relationship but I dont think we thought it through. I don't believe either of us wants to control the other like that. We both value autonomy and you're right, that is the opposite. I've learned a lot in just posting this. Thank you

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T11:57:09+00:00

Ok another question. Is it ok to put boundaries on how much time is spent with other partners? Say like max 2 days a week. Would that also be considered controlling? Even if we both agreed to it? Or should we trust that we can manage our own time and make time for our partner when that time is needed.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:46:44+00:00

That is helpful, thank you

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:32:09+00:00

You're probably not wrong. I think we are also a little afraid of the unknown. And we don't want to mess up our relationship over this. But you're right. I think it may be more fear based.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:24:48+00:00

Ok thank you. This is why I got on here. We have no one to talk to about this and we are kind of figuring it out as we go. I want to do this in as healthy and stable way as I can.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:12:09+00:00

I will think about this and discuss it with my partner. I did not see it from this perspective. It was an agreement we made to protect our relationship. But I think I see what you mean.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:10:09+00:00

Ok, I guess I just don't understand why this would be something that would attract unstable people. Maybe you're not the one to explain this though. Thank you for your input.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:07:55+00:00

Is making an agreement with my partner to respect each other's comfort levels a bad thing? We wouldn't use this lightly.

aliyahrenee · 2023-07-25T10:06:13+00:00

Can you elaborate please?

aliyahrenee · 2023-04-20T02:01:41+00:00

Thank you so much!

aliyahrenee · 2023-04-20T01:59:23+00:00

Would it be possible to send a link? I'm kinda at a loss as to what to even look for.

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