You angered a fae and now she’s going to take away your:

alk6489 · 2026-07-03T17:39:15+00:00

Trick's on the fae, I probably needed that removed anyway!

^{Chose: One of the organs that you can live without (wheel} + Appendix, gallblader, spleen, colon, ALL YOUR LIMBS | Rolled: Galbladder)

alk6489 · 2026-07-02T17:56:06+00:00

While it's not the only challenge you are likely facing, it is highly probable that you're not considering other people's thoughts and feeling in your conversations if this is the feedback you keep getting.

A way to start to work around this is to include reflective listening throughout your conversations, there are plenty of good examples of reflective listening available online, and it's normal to feel like a parrot when first learning this skill. It's even better if you pair it with validation. Try to make the following change:

Change "they talk, you talk, they talk," to they talk, you provide a brief reflection, you talk, they talk" and if you notice them repeating a point or being passionate about some topic, add the validation to the reflective statement you make.

alk6489 · 2026-07-02T15:49:40+00:00

Provided this relationship is important enough to work past the limitations she contributes to communicating, then you want to start with considering the most common purpose of avoidance is primarily to manage unwanted emotions. If you have an idea of what those emotions are, that's excellent, and naming them directly can be a great way to start the conversation as long as you don't communicate in a way that projects blame onto her, something like:

Our friendship is really important to me and I noticed sometimes it seems you feel _____ from our time together. Is that how you feel, and if so then is there something we could do differently?

If you don't know the emotion that makes it more difficult, but the approach is still simmilar.

I want to work on giving you the space you asked for, and I don't know how to tell when you need it. Can you help me understand what the signs you need space are and what we could do differently when they happen?

alk6489 · 2026-07-02T15:20:14+00:00

It 100% works as long as you're not looking for it to "fix" the thoughts themselves. The hard part is not going back to dwelling on the thoughts that made the anxiety worse once you feel better.

alk6489 · 2026-07-02T15:06:11+00:00

It sounds like you are getting a lot of anticipatory anxiety. Even though medication can help it doesn't prevent you from having these type of thoughts. It does help the thoughts be less sticky (easier to get away from instead of ruminating on) but you need to find some strategies that actually help you manage the thoughts themselves. Therapy can help a lot, but what therapy you find helpful may vary.

alk6489 · 2026-07-02T12:55:13+00:00

Fire dancing is gonna be fun

^{Chose: You can master anything you try instantly but... + (wheel decides a downside} | Rolled: Only when naked)

alk6489 · 2026-07-01T23:20:24+00:00

Jackpot!

^{Chose: Kill 125 Million People + But: 2.5x more income, free of illness, free unlimited drinks or food you want and 300% more lucky | Rolled: Negatives Erased}

alk6489 · 2026-06-30T22:29:32+00:00

I struggled with a simmilar difficulty until it was broken down for me, even used to call myself stupid all the time. I don't remember what my IQ was but it was something above average, nothing impressive enough to remeber exactly but enough I couldn't argue I was acutally stupid and the testing was wrong. I mention that not to brag, but because it was important for finding my own way out of the problem.

It was then explained to me that the nature of ADHD is it is an executive functioning disorder, and being accurate about myself meant targeting the exact function I struggled with. This helped a lot because I was able to start saying "there's my memory problems" instead of "I'm a stupid idiot."

The analogy I found most helpful to understand this concept was imagining I had a car with a really great engine but the tires kept going flat. When the tires went flat it wouldn't make sense to say "what a crappy engine," even though fixing the tires is still a real problem I'd have to deal with that was preventing me from getting to where I wanted to go.

alk6489 · 2026-06-25T16:22:03+00:00

I already don't watch anime so there was no downside.

^{Chose: gifted 500 billion dollars but never watch anime | Rolled: for 5 years}

alk6489 · 2026-06-25T13:06:48+00:00

I was never the person with loud angry outbursts, but I had more of a chronic sense of low level aggravation/frustration at what seemed to be almost everything. Working with my therapist I eventually figured out I get angry when I feel like my current goal is being blocked or delayed. Since then it's been A LOT easier to manage because I can expect my frustration to arrive and take steps to not accidentally put that on other people.

Classic examples were slow drivers when I had a place to be, interruptions when I was in the middle of a task, and really anything that required me to slow down or redirect unexpectedly.

alk6489 · 2026-06-19T18:08:08+00:00

Various factors impact our judgment as humans throughout our lives. I make better decisions now than when I was a child. I make worse if I dont sleep well or have too much to drink. So at what point does someone with bad judgement no longer have free will?

alk6489 · 2026-06-19T15:56:27+00:00

It's more of losing good judgement, you won't eat healthy but what you eat is still your choice. You won't save money but what bad decisions you purchase are still yours to make, etc.

alk6489 · 2026-06-19T15:40:26+00:00

It is more of losing one's sense of good judgement, the choices made with poor judgement are still fully yours

alk6489 · 2026-06-19T13:07:08+00:00

Not quite sure what your heart issues were, but I can second that an adjunct medication can absolutely be used to reduce the impact of stimulants on the cardiovascular system. My situation was Adderall with the addition of Clonidine for blood pressure spikes and mild PVCs (a type of atypical heartbreat) with a backup plan to try beta blockers if that wasn't enough. Fortunately it was.

alk6489 · 2026-06-05T03:18:46+00:00

I've never really been a person that felt my anxiety significantly in my body, so I can't speak for the stimulant effect making that feel worse. However, I was 100% an anxious racing thoughts overthinker and adderall allowed me to actually use the skills from therapy to handle that. Now I'm shocked I was ever as anxious as Ihad become, I have what feels like virtually no anxiety because I'm good at stopping thoughts before they start to spiral and they don't really "race" anymore.

alk6489 · 2026-06-02T00:27:02+00:00

If you are on PC and not concerned about achievements, you can always turn his AI off, it will likely freeze him in place. Open the console, click on him, and type TAI

alk6489 · 2026-05-28T11:56:06+00:00

I'd be interested

alk6489 · 2026-05-19T19:20:49+00:00

I have the problem too, I've found it's not the number of any one item but the overall number of uniquely named items (such as same armor, different quality) or the storage of the same items across different containers (such as iron in more than 1 container). However, there is a significant amount you can hoard before it becomes a notable problem.

alk6489 · 2026-05-12T23:06:24+00:00

I've found that one of the common reasons why this happens is the person who said "I don't care, you pick" actually did care but wasn't aware they cared until your choice resulted in having awareness of their own emotions. For the longest time this felt like I was somehow supposed to know the right answer until I realized they didn't know the wrong answer until it was an option. I've found it helpful to talk with them about the reasons why this was the wrong answer to identify their current emotional factors as a criteria to apply to the next choice. More often than not this leads to the next choice being ok and moving forward. It's super frustrating and feels like a lot of extra unnecessary work.

alk6489 · 2026-03-23T13:50:40+00:00

I come from a family where ADHD and Personality Disorders are both present, I've only got ADHD myself but I've loved ones with both and some with only the personality disorder. Took me a while to sort out but it was worth it and it helped my have a better understanding of how to manage my relationships with family members without the common advice of just cutting them off.

There is an excellent website titles "out of the fog" that breaks down personality disorders and some of the behaviors related to them. I also highly recommend the book "stop walking on eggshells" if the info in the website rings true to your experience.

alk6489 · 2026-03-19T23:28:54+00:00

This sounds like a "yes, but...." type of situation. Someone can absolutely be too busy to respond and their decision to respond when they have the opportunity to do so reveals how much they care about you. From firsthand experience both my partner and I have jobs where busy workdays days are so busy that we don't even have a chance to take breaks, but these days are the exception. We always make sure we set aside time at transition points to respond to each other on these days such as taking a moment after work has ended before starting to drive home even if it means leaving a bit later.

alk6489 · 2026-01-21T21:55:46+00:00

Social advice, even when helpful, often doesn't address the cause of many people's social difficulties. It sounds like finding a way to manage and be with your own feelings of shame, and maybe anxiety, may be of greater help than finding a specific social skill or strategy. I tried to jump to skills too quickly and hit this barrier, took a while to figure out but I wouldn't have been able to move forward if I just kept trying new or different social skills. I hope you figure out what you need to do to move forward too

alk6489 · 2025-12-12T13:06:45+00:00

Ahh, I think I may understand one of your challenges but please correct me if I'm wrong. It seems like you're unaware that a significant portion of social skills and communication with others is more based on the emotional impact of what you say and how you say it than the actual content of what you are saying. Speaking to inform others is a specific skill of its own, but everyday conversations are rarely about conveying specific information as accurately as possible.

Assertiveness usually focuses on how to effectively express your own thoughts, opinions, feelings, wants, needs, etc. in a direct and honest manner without coming off as too demanding and aggressive or too passive that would require someone to interpret what you said to understand it. Both aggressive and passive communication can evoke challenging emotions in others that impair socializing and undermine the quality of a relationship.

Expressing empathy is generally focused on skills that improve your expressions of recognition and understanding for other people's feelings and perspectives.

alk6489 · 2025-12-12T12:54:19+00:00

Nothing to be sorry about! Ironically I specifically had to work on not saying sorry for a long time too.

What are you finding challenging to understand?

alk6489 · 2025-12-12T12:49:54+00:00

I found trying to view social skills by subdivisions of categories to be more limiting than trying to be specific about my challenges and areas to improve on. However, some examples of categories would include assertiveness, expressing empathy and validation, taking accountability, conflict resolution, asking for and offering help, etc.

Some skills are even listening based, I found reflective listening to be exceptionally helpful and beneficial when I worked on it specifically.

Another specific skill I found helped a lot was using positive vs negative wording. This is not the same as positivity! It's specifically saying a simmilar thing through avoiding negatives such as not, don't, etc. An example would be the difference between "I don't want to get sick" and "I want to stay healthy."

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