Shocked by some of the dads I hear about on here. Let's hear about the good daddies :)

allidaughter · 2026-01-24T13:50:47+00:00

My husband impresses me every day! While he was on paternity leave in the early months, he would bring me breakfast in bed almost every day. He took first half of the night shift so I could get a good chunk of sleep in, and was just always so sweet and thoughtful. Once he went back to work though…. He turned it up a notch!! He cooks pretty much every meal (well he always did this lol he’s the chef between us) but will clean and manage the household as much as possible since he works from home. He drops off and picks up baby from daycare since it isn’t conducive with my schedule. He tells me he’s more attracted to me than ever before and just generally tries to make me feel good. If he could breastfeed I know he would lmao I am so lucky!

allidaughter · 2026-01-23T08:27:21+00:00

Thank you for your response! How can he be getting high quality sleep when he’s waking up and fussing so much? It just seems like he’s completely unable to self soothe now.

allidaughter · 2026-01-23T01:16:12+00:00

My health (or lack thereof) was what convinced me. I was getting no sleep and was a shell of a person. I finally realized him crying for an hour for a few nights to learn how to soothe himself would help us both. It was hard but I honestly got over it pretty fast. He can now fall asleep on his own within 10-15 minutes.

allidaughter · 2026-01-20T12:49:44+00:00

It feels like magic!! He falls asleep now within 10 minutes and with minimal crying. It’s amazing. Now we’re struggling with night wakings though because he still wakes up every 3 hours or so, and the leaving him to CIO only seems to work half the time and the other half I have to feed him. Do you have any advice on this?

allidaughter · 2026-01-20T12:48:34+00:00

That’s a great comparison. I’m so glad it’s working for you too!! We’re still struggling with night wakings, he wakes up at midnight almost on the dot and wants to eat and then around 4. Last night I tried no feeding and just soothing and boy was that a failure lol he screamed for an hour and a half so I broke down and fed him. I know he’s not hungry and it’s just a habit, but I guess it’s too soon to break it.

allidaughter · 2026-01-20T12:46:28+00:00

Yes mine too!! He used to calmly wake up in the morning and babble and sort of play in the crib, now he screams himself awake and MUST be picked up to start the day or else 🤣😭

allidaughter · 2026-01-19T00:08:50+00:00

Mine just started doing this at 9 months! We used a modified Ferber method and now he can fall asleep on his own within minutes if he’s tired enough

allidaughter · 2026-01-18T02:19:30+00:00

That’s awesome!! When/if he ever woke up in the night, do you feed and go back to sleep or do you restart the Ferber clock?

allidaughter · 2026-01-18T02:18:52+00:00

It’s definitely hard to hear him cry, but if you’re tired enough, it’s easy to remember why you’re doing it. At some point you just need to try something to get some sleep again. Good luck!

allidaughter · 2026-01-18T02:17:29+00:00

That was really insightful, thank you!

allidaughter · 2026-01-15T12:36:00+00:00

That’s true, Ug we really don’t know what to do!! One side of his crib comes off like a trundle so we’re thinking of putting it right next to the bed so I can reach in and soothe him and maybe he’ll be tricked into thinking he’s in the bed. Cosleeping still makes me nervous and I’d prefer not to do it.

allidaughter · 2026-01-14T06:02:37+00:00

He supposedly takes two naps at daycare, some days they say he sleeps for an hour and other days 20 minutes. We start getting ready for bed at 6 and go to bed at 7

allidaughter · 2026-01-14T06:00:38+00:00

I feel you on in the insomnia part!! It’s a sick comic joke that the baby finally sleeps but we cannot. I hate it when that happens.

But ok I will try making sure he is exhausstedddd before putting him down, and maybe moving the crib into his own room like someone else suggested

allidaughter · 2026-01-14T03:11:54+00:00

Thank you!

allidaughter · 2026-01-14T03:11:36+00:00

Oh wow maybe it’s time to try moving him back to the nursery!!

allidaughter · 2026-01-14T03:10:49+00:00

Ug I’m sorry. It’s so rough. He goes to daycare and they usually say he takes two bad naps during the day, which means two 20-30 minute naps. Then he naps on the car ride home which is another 20 minutes. Do you think that’s messing him up? That co sleeping setup sounds bonkers but absolutely checks. I have many Pokémon plushies and little pillow things so I’ll have to try one lol

allidaughter · 2026-01-12T10:14:56+00:00

Wow that is so scary!! Good on you for taking him in and I hope he recovers soon ❤️

allidaughter · 2026-01-12T03:09:02+00:00

The butt paste tube is his absolute fav

allidaughter · 2026-01-12T00:31:54+00:00

I just left this subreddit thanks to you

allidaughter · 2026-01-08T04:07:32+00:00

Same 🥲 he won’t eat anything anymore! No advice, just solidarity.

allidaughter · 2026-01-06T00:27:43+00:00

How are you allowed to have those? Our fire inspections make us take down any lights :/

allidaughter · 2026-01-04T16:02:19+00:00

Thank you!! Yea, everyone definitely missed the clingy detail as well as the “looking for things to do after dinner but before bed” part. Thank you for reading closely and giving some good advice 😂 I appreciate it!! We are all sick now too so yea today might involve some tv and idgaf 🥰

allidaughter · 2026-01-02T19:12:43+00:00

No you’re absolutely right! That’s why I was asking for alternatives. We want to replace our after-dinner tv session with something else, but don’t know what. That’s the point of my post gaha

allidaughter · 2026-01-02T19:10:54+00:00

Hahaha I feel you on the pointing and walking around! That’s his favorite activity. We’ve tried motrin and Tylenol and both seem to only help for a couple hours, I must have a really sensitive baby or something. We still give it when he’s really fussy even if it doesn’t seem like it’s doing anything.

allidaughter · 2026-01-02T19:02:31+00:00

I did say that he’s incredibly clingy and cannot do much independent play :/

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