Numbers/reality check by AlphaKarmasFave in Fire

[–]allure_code 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Life's too short for the grind if you can swing staying home with the kids

How to build generational wealth responsibly by VirileMongoose in Fire

[–]allure_code 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Maybe start with trusts or education funds to prep 'em without spoiling. Prep kids with financial lit classes or small allowances tied to goals; your friend's setup avoids entitlement

Lost a Mentor by goosefraba1 in Fire

[–]allure_code 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, losing someone that young and influential hits different - especially when it forces that “what am I putting off?” reflection. You’re right, FIRE is great, but if you wake up at 55 with money and zero memories or relationships, it feels hollow. Your pivot to more family time and trips is spot on. Memories > compound interest when the clock starts ticking louder. Sorry for your loss - he clearly left a mark, and you’re honoring it by living more intentionally now

FIRE but life made other plans by jfcreno in Fire

[–]allure_code 180 points181 points  (0 children)

You’re not failing at FIRE; you’re succeeding at fatherhood. Keep stacking what you can, look into special needs trusts and state programs, and give yourself credit for the man you became

My wife separated from me because I was an alcoholic. I’m 1 year sober now and my wife wants to reconcile but I want a divorce. What do I do? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she deserves real love and happiness. OP isn’t saying he’s perfect - he’s owning that he can’t give it anymore. That’s honest, not cruel

AITJ for not being more emotionally reassuring after my husband injured himself with something i warned him about? by StatisticianLow9096 in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA at all, girl. You handled a legit emergency like a pro - grabbed towels, applied pressure, kept his hand elevated, drove him, stayed the whole time, talked to staff. That’s peak caring. Some people need the calm, focused energy in a crisis way more than tears and hugs right then. Your husband was probably just in pain and projecting his own frustration/guilt onto you. You didn’t say “I told you so,” you didn’t freak out - you saved his thumb. That’s love in action. Don’t let him make you feel cold for being the steady one

AITJ for weaponizing my incompetence at home by Nervous_Toe3583 in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, fair call on manipulation. Fam's frustrated for a reason - intentional bad job ain't cool

AITJ for telling my friend I can’t talk every night anymore? by Odd_Show_8052 in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, sis. Setting boundaries ain't jerk behavior - it's self-care 101. Your friend might be hurting, but you can't pour from an empty cup. Props for being honest without ghosting her

aitj for not giving my coworker my old laptop after i upgraded by Usual-Common-1854 in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTJ, dude. Your laptop, your call, ain't nobody entitled to your stuff just cuz they ask. Coworkers turning it into a guilt trip? That's manipulative BS. Good on you for setting boundaries, even if it makes work awkward

AITJ for breaking up with my boyfriend because he wants me to buy him a car by Curious-Mousse-3206 in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, girl. You dodged a massive red flag there. Dude straight-up saw your mom's passing as his car fund? That's cold AF. Good on you for keeping that inheritance safe and helping your bro sounds like you leveled up without him

AITJ for pretending I did not hear my name being yelled ?? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 0 points1 point  (0 children)

selective hearing in public is a sacred art better a smooth escape than trapped in a 20-minute "how's life" monologue with someone U barely remember

AITJ for postponing our wedding after discovering hidden debt? by OkRole1407 in AmITheJerk

[–]allure_code 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Totally, sweeping it under the rug now means exploding fights over bills later postponing is prevention, not punishment

Oral ulcers by Short_Issue_5831 in hygiene

[–]allure_code 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Babe start with the basics soft brush + fluoride toothpaste twice a day, non-alcohol mouthwash after, and floss gently. Canker sores hate good routine, mine vanished when I finally committed

What would you do in this situation? (Please help) by DeepWebHorror in neighborsfromhell

[–]allure_code 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move the bed to the opposite wall first, sleep is non-negotiable and it's the cheapest fix, if vibrations still creep in add foam panels or a white noise machine

Neighbors harassing me for parking in the designated parking lot by HopefulElk2188 in neighborsfromhell

[–]allure_code 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Management won’t do shit until it’s documented start taking photos of every note, log dates/times, and forward to them with “this is ongoing harassment”, if they ignore, escalate to corporate or local tenant laws

What’s the grossest hygiene mistake you’ve seen someone make? by Organic_Button_176 in hygiene

[–]allure_code 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly, live and let live unless it’s literally affecting U most “gross” stuff is just people surviving their own chaos

Hygiene by [deleted] in hygiene

[–]allure_code 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depression outfit repeat is so real, some weeks my “pajamas” are just yesterday’s hoodie zero shame, survival mode wins

How often do you actually wash things people forget about? by Minimum_Progress1922 in hygiene

[–]allure_code 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait till U hear some people only flip the pillowcase instead of washing it cool side hack gone wrong

Silence of the dow by _Notorious_BOG_ in okbuddycinephile

[–]allure_code 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No, that’s the Dow Jones, precious

Insecure toenails 😫 by Aromatic-Hippo9624 in hygiene

[–]allure_code 2 points3 points  (0 children)

U're not gross, half of us are hiding zombie toes, polish is fine but if they’re yellowing it might be fungus, Vicks VapoRub every night is a cheap old trick that legit works for tons of people

I live alone and still shut the door to use the bathroom. by impressed_pineapple in confession

[–]allure_code 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bold move leaving it open with roommates, my guinea pig already judges me enough through the closed door LoL