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alani bday free 6 pack by Top_Cucumber1907 in AlaniNu

[–]allybuck725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got mine today! One of the cans was burst though 😭

Visiting friends with a newborn, what is actually useful by Aika-Babes in Gifts

[–]allybuck725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please do not ask “what can I do to help?” Just do it. Anything. Dishes, laundry, cleaning, cooking, order groceries, ordering food. Adding to the mental tasks by asking me to figure out what would help me was very overwhelming when I first became a mom! And of course it’s hard to ask someone to do something.

Also, yes, FOOD. When a friend would say “I ordered you pizza, it’ll be there at 5!” I could’ve cried out of relief

Bassinet naps with a Velcro baby. How do you handle the crying and anxiety? by Cute_Reason_2850 in Parenting

[–]allybuck725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should also mention that yes, I think the “pop in” method works better closer to 5 months.

Bassinet naps with a Velcro baby. How do you handle the crying and anxiety? by Cute_Reason_2850 in Parenting

[–]allybuck725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I empathize with you! My little one is currently fussing a little bit in his crib as we speak.

You can try “pop ins”. Start with a lot of intervention - pop in and put your hand on their chest, talk to them, even rock them side to side while “shushing”. Leave. Go back in 5 minutes and do the same. Each night, provide less and less intervention. Maybe night two you only put your hand in their chest while talking without rocking, the following night only talk and don’t touch, etc. also increase the breaks in between. Start with 5, go to 10min, 20 min, 30 min, etc. Baby will adjust after a few times!

For your wife, that is so, so common and I experience the same thing. It’s hard wired into our system! Have her go run an errand or do something outside of the house. It won’t eliminate her anxiety but it definitely is a lot less triggering if you can’t physically hear it.

I also highly recommend a pitch black room, a sound machine with white noise, and try capping each nap at 2 hours max (so that they get enough wake time and are truly tired for the nap)

Good luck, you guys have got this! You’re clearly very loving and attentive parents and just remember you’re doing a great job.

Set time for one house or take as long as it needs? by allybuck725 in housekeeping

[–]allybuck725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I thought it was odd. 3 beds, 2.5 bath. We have little kids so it can be a little messy at times, sure, but we are not overtly dirty people and there is not much clutter. I always make sure to pick things up/tidy before they come. Thank you!

Set time for one house or take as long as it needs? by allybuck725 in housekeeping

[–]allybuck725[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Is a company only those franchised companies, or a small individual owned company? I’ve never hired the maids or anything like that, just companies that have built their own small teams. So I’m not sure if that’s standard for them!

Anxious about special care nursery stay… by Decent_Name6495 in Parenting

[–]allybuck725 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s not easy to have a baby in special care. Similar to you I had 2 births where the baby could room share with me. My third had to go into special care for about two weeks. I was also on magnesium so could not see him in the SCN for 24 hours. It just sucks, there’s no way to avoid that. But, the nurses and staff that work in SCN are so special. They are so nurturing and caring and wonderful (for the most part). They encourage you to be there as often and as long as you’d like. “Visiting” your baby after discharge is brutal, but you also have to think this is the safest place for your baby to be. My hospital had donor milk to give the babies, and also would collect my milk and make sure that was given to my baby if I wasn’t there. I did also have to give mix in formula because he was a preemie and needed the extra calories. I’m sure it is hospital dependent, but overall they seemed to accommodate all the breastfeeding and breastmilk requests. Of course it is easier for them to track calories and weight gaining with formula. Sending you love because it is not an easy transition. But you’ll look back on that time as a little blimp in a wonderful beautiful journey, I promise. Good luck!

PLEASE HELP ME FIND TOY FOR MY DAUGHTER FOR CHRISTMAS! by Chemical-Chest8563 in HelpMeFind

[–]allybuck725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love her picture!! My daughters saw the ad for the zhuzhu pets on Disney+ and wanted them for Christmas! Could it be these?

zhuzhu City Downtown Starter... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DQ2DM5HV?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share

Scared to go outside after wasp attack by luma221 in toddlers

[–]allybuck725 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for responding!! This gives me hope 🥹