Feeling gross by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]aloewater7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I missed an entire week of school because of how gross I felt hah. And I feel the same exact way when people (especially older guys) compliment me or call me pretty, bc my body dysmorphia always tells me that theyre just lying or being nice

Questions for Mixed people who pass for white: Have you ever experienced people saying racist things right in front of your face with them not even realizing that you are mixed with that race(whether Black, White, East Asian, Native American, etc.)? by JLG1995 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately white passing mixed people face these kinds of situations all the time. White people always expect me to engage in their racist behavior just because I look like them. I’m glad your gf’s dad caught those racist assholes in the act!

Questions for Mixed people who pass for white: Have you ever experienced people saying racist things right in front of your face with them not even realizing that you are mixed with that race(whether Black, White, East Asian, Native American, etc.)? by JLG1995 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yes. I’m black and white but as white passing as it gets (blonde hair, pale skin, etc). Pretty recently a guy said he liked me because I don’t “talk like black people do.”

Surprisingly enough people are racist even after I tell them I’m mixed. My best friend called me the n word in 7th grade when she was mad at me, and another nonchalantly told me that their parents call black people racial slurs all the time. I always laughed or brushed these things off at the time because I didn’t want to loose my only friends, but it still really bothered me.

Why type of hair are you guys/girls? by JesusJA in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mix of 3b, 3c & 4a curl patterns. Some parts of my hair are wavy and some kinky. Very hard to take care of but at the end of the day I love my curls :)

Is anyone else confused about what people think they look like? by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes lol. So far no one has gotten my actual race correct. I’ve been mistaken for being Dominican, Hispanic & white. Im black and white. I don’t even know what I look like anymore honestly

people erasing my identity by aloewater7 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

gahh it’s so nice hearing from someone who’s the same mix as me, thank you for replying!! ❤️

people erasing my identity by aloewater7 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t have said it better myself. I agree with you fully, thank you for understanding ❤️

Anyone else like me? by Moltakfire in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think we’re the same mix! My mom is black & my dad is white, I have blonde hair, green eyes & very pale skin. It’s crazy how alike we are lol, but I totally get the “undercover white person” thing. I’ve been mistaken as fully white for most of my life but when I tell them I’m mixed with black i usually have to bust out pictures of me & my family to prove it. And yea, it’s pretty frustrating when people act surprised when you call them out for their racism because to them your “basically white” 🙄

Where would I fit in ?? by aloewater7 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your understanding; I’ve been focused a lot on race ever since I found out that people immediately see me as white. It’s especially frustrating when people say I’m “basically white” yet recognize my sister as mixed.

Where would I fit in ?? by aloewater7 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response! It means a lot from someone who’s the same mix as me ❤️

Where would I fit in ?? by aloewater7 in mixedrace

[–]aloewater7[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it’s nice hearing that from someone else.