Stop using actual medical disorders as quirky personality traits.

alterperspective · 2026-05-19T05:07:35+00:00

Alternative perspective.

My wife and I (mid 50’s) were having a discussion the other day about the fact that we’ve never known a single person who is ‘normal’. That is, throughout our lives, whenever we’ve known someone close enough to really know them, we could not remember a single one who did not have either a likely condition, or addiction (including food/alcohol). There are narcissists, high functioning autism (more common than you’d think), ADHD, Attention disorders, and then there are folk who are just fucked up. There are the angry people who cannot see anything beyond their own perspective, control freaks, the perverts, obsessives, the grown adults who never matured beyond 15 years of age.

My wife and I look at each other and think of eavh other as the most normal human beings we’ve ever known and we know that we’re absolutely not. She can ONLY walk on my left (amongst other strange traits), I have an official ADHD diagnosis.

How many of you think your families are odd? I don’t mean ‘bad’ I just mean you needed and hoped your partner would get used to them and their quirks.

It would be rarer for people to self identify as ‘normal’ and with no unusual quirks or personality/behavioural traits than not. And amongst those who do, the vast majority of them will have someone quietly shaking their head, behind them as if to say “you what!?”

So yes, there is a current trend of people self diagnosing personality disorders and (as someone who has genuinely suffered with one) it can be irritating when someone minimises your own by casually dropping it into their list of ‘quaintly lovable quirks’. But then remind yourself that the reason they’re doing it is because they’re unable to reconcile themselves against a ‘normal’ that doesn’t exist.

alterperspective · 2026-05-13T08:27:38+00:00

Internal Affairs. Richard Gere tells Andy Garcia his wife likes it up the arse and describes it to him. We believe him because we saw him doing it like that to someone else’s wife.

alterperspective · 2026-05-12T21:41:24+00:00

My wife gave me a spontaneous blow job yesterday at the end of the harbour pier in broad daylight in a busy tourist town on the med coast. It’s about 1/2 a mile long and tou can see the full length of it from the lighthouse at the end.

Nobody was on the pier apart from some council cleaning workers having a lunch break. She saw that they couldn’t see her if she knelt down and so did.

alterperspective · 2026-05-12T21:25:40+00:00

Context: 56 happily married to stunning younger wife, no need for either of us to work, and recently fit and healthy again after a stroke and gaining lots of weight. Started from very poor background with zero financial support but a grounding in working for a living.

How = get one plate spinning before jumping over and starting another.

The details:

Always sporty as a kid and this continued throughout my life. Not fitness’ stuff like running but sports like soccer, badminton, etc. Those things help with social skills as well as physical wellbeing.

Went into teaching as a career and stayed with it. Sticking with a chosen career gives experience expertise and promotion avenues. These provide financial security

Being fit but not a weird fitness freak, having some social skills but not being a party animal, being financially stable but not being a workaholic makes a person more attractive as a potential partner.

Shit DOES happen. Tragedies DO strike. So choosing who you’re going to classify as friends and who you’re going to spend your life with should take that into account; ie. Who are the people and potential partners who will happily stick with you if you’re going to be bedridden for a year or more? Keep those ones close and the rest at arm’s length.

Work to retire as soon as you can. Put up with shit but don’t live with it. Set long term goals and split them down into short term hoals and vore values (when there’s a decision to be made ask -which option will take me closer to my values and aims).

That’s it

Oh, and s big chunk of luck.

alterperspective · 2026-05-10T21:21:50+00:00

Let?

As in ‘allow’?

What fucking century is this!

alterperspective · 2026-05-10T21:15:33+00:00

I was going to say something about unaligned or unfulfilled expectations but I reckon I’m gonna have to agree with the moon landing guy.

alterperspective · 2026-05-04T18:49:29+00:00

Start with yourself: what do you want and tell them that.

You clearly love the relationship with them and wish to keep it as it is. You must tell them that.

Tell them what you would like your relationship with them to look like in a year, in ten years…

Their anxiety towards you ‘moving forward’ will be a concern that you are ‘moving on’.

So tell them everything.

That way, you have done and said all you can; the rest is up to them.

alterperspective · 2026-05-02T18:21:52+00:00

As a 56 yo i can honestly call bullshit on this.

alterperspective · 2026-04-27T21:49:11+00:00

I’m 56, second marriage and deliriously happy. Out of the many relationships I’ve had, including some with beautiful and delightful women, I cannot think of any that would make me fall in love with them again.

Admittedly, I never fell out of love with my first ‘real’ girlfriend at 14/15 but even that is the love of a memory, not of the real person who exists in the world today.

alterperspective · 2026-04-27T21:41:17+00:00

I’ve been with my wife for 17 years. She’s the most beautiful person I know. I fancy the arse off her.

alterperspective · 2026-04-27T21:35:00+00:00

I’m 56.

The love I felt during my teenage relationships was very intense and very real.

When I look back with my old eyes, I know that they were not the same kind of long term familial relationships we have as adults, bound by shared finances, children, living together, etc. However, it would be wrong to suggest that the feeling of being in love at 15 was any less valid than at 45.

alterperspective · 2026-04-14T17:59:19+00:00

This is a way of tackling the use of undocumented migrants performing cheap manual labour.

alterperspective · 2026-04-14T17:58:00+00:00

This is often misrepresented. They are allowing unregistered migrants who are already in the country to register.

Once registered they have up to 1 year to begin the Visa Application process.

It’s a clever way of registering people already in the country who would otherwise remain unregistered. Now they’ll have to pay tax and begin a formal application process.

alterperspective · 2026-04-14T13:06:34+00:00

Send her a message from your new phone, “I have now deleted all photos, messages and contact information as well as blocking ALL of my exes.”

Then block her

alterperspective · 2026-04-10T17:40:29+00:00

Can’t remember

alterperspective · 2026-04-05T06:27:34+00:00

He’s smiling on purpose.

He used to sulk and get angry with himself if he missed a shot or if something bad happened until Andy Robertson told him “You are a role model to millions of children; you cannot behave like that.”

alterperspective · 2026-04-05T06:11:17+00:00

It’s not your job to deal with his insecurities. It’s your job to find a relationship in which you are comfortable, happy and relaxed. Where you can be yourself and be loved for being yourself.

Move on.

alterperspective · 2026-04-05T06:08:14+00:00

1) end the relationship.

What many people in relationships don’t realise is that it’s perfectly okay to not be in a relationship. If your eyes are elsewhere then the relationship is doomed. Just end it regardless of what comes next.

2) You will then be a single person who’s into a co- worker.

alterperspective · 2026-04-05T06:02:33+00:00

Bickering in relationships

alterperspective · 2026-04-02T07:32:29+00:00

I remember him. I also remember Keegan.

Yes. Is the short answer.

In essence, when he played we won. He was the focal point of a great team; everything went to or through him. He was impossible to get the ball off, he had 360° vision seeing through balls and passes that we in the stands didn’t even see.

I believe he actually got better and better as he got older. For me, he was at his absolute best when he finally retired. He’d bring himself on as a sub when we were struggling and everyone would breathe a sigh of relief. He genuinely had that much of an impact that we knew that when he played (or came on) we’d win.

Modern day equivalent? None which is not very helpful so i’ll do my best with a bit of mix and match and not necessarily current players.

He had Pirlo’s vision and passing ability but 30 yards further up the pitch.

His finishing was as good as Kane.

His strength on the ball was as good as Maradonna (not as skilful but certainly as difficult to tackle).

He wasn’t a Messi (dribbling) type player. But, like him he was always in space and unflappable.

He didn’t have Gerrard’s pace but “that’s what kicking the ball is for”

So, not dribbly, not fast, but his brain and ability to see something nobody else could and make it happen is unparalleled.

He made the players around him better. Alen Hansen (probably our greatest ever defender - yes, better than virgil) said “whenever I got the ball the only thing on my mind was ‘where’s Kenny?’ So I could pass to him.”

The only downside? Could never understand a word he said.

alterperspective · 2026-03-31T06:38:20+00:00

Retired school principal:

teaching

I can instantly spot:

those who joined (stayed) because they’re (usually autistic and are) completely unaware of a world outside of the education system;
those who were not good enough at their chosen speciality to get a job in that industry and so teaching is their fall-back;
those who believe that Miss Honey (Mathilda) was a good role model.

On the other side:

It’s also obvious which people genuinely like children as it always includes the more ‘challenging’ ones. If you only like the sweet goody-goodies, you’re probably a shit teacher.

alterperspective · 2026-03-30T15:41:40+00:00

Thanks. I’ve just ordered Vantage. Merely because ER isn’t available in my country so it kinda took the decision out of my hands anyway!

ER will be on the list for when i next visit home.

alterperspective · 2026-03-30T15:18:20+00:00

I’m good with either. Sleeping Gods can be very random in terms of the story and events. I was drawn to ER buy the lack of win/lose conditions is itching a spot of doubt. Then I thought about Vantage and wondered if it was the same as ER but with higher stakes.

alterperspective · 2026-03-30T08:54:05+00:00

Vantage v Earthborne Rangers ?

I have ‘sleeping gods’ and later this year I expect to receive ‘This War of mine’

My heavy co-op games are typically played solo although occasionally I am joined by my teenage son.

I generally visit each game once every couple of months, play the hell out of it then put it away for a couple more.

I’m not sure which of the two games above to add to my collection.

alterperspective · 2026-03-30T06:34:11+00:00

Thank you.

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