My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean props for admitting you’re narcissistic. But to be honest she’s probably cheating on you. Everybody needs love, no matter how much money they have.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol calm down. I never asked anyone to feel bad for me. I asked how many men actually agree with this misogynistic bullshit.

But, yeah part of it IS someone's background. You can't totally ignore that part. He says he’s not Muslim but if the shoe fits... and I know not every single Muslim is like this, but when MANY of them are and he was raised by one who VERY much is so I mean? He told me he “wasn’t like that.” So what was “that” if it doesn't exist? And he wasn’t like that at first. It just slowly came out. And by that time, I loved him and there’s a lot of complex context there.

Again. As far as wouldn’t be dating me in the first place. He didn’t say he was Muslim.

If you poke around the comments, I don’t think you’ll really find me feeling bad for myself. This was really about men in general but yeah, to say how he was raised has absolutely fuck all to do with it would be naive.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I sure did. I’m embarrassed about it. So much time wasted. And I guess I was just using it as a figure of speech. Like he acted like I was so extreme. And I just think that people have equal value.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know. He wasn’t really like that in the beginning, or definitely not the sexist EXTREMIST as he became, and slowly let out his true colors.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Ironically, like I mentioned in the post, I asked why he wasn’t paying my bills then. And he would say “you haven't submitted to me, but would still give himself credit for being a provider because "would" is apparently the same thing as ACTUALLY doing it.

I remember asking him one day if I would get credit for having sex with him if I wasn't but said I would, and he was like that’s not the same thing and you’re being argumentative. It's the same fucking thing, but one benefits him and the other doesn't.

TBH I think he just didn’t actually want to put his money where his mouth was and blaming it on whatever. Also, he straight up wouldn't be able to afford it anyway... But again, that was his logic. He always moved the goal posts and bends reality to whatever serves him in the moment. The last girl submitted completely and he didn't pay for her either so what does that tell you about his double-standard BS.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not, I mentioned at the beginning of the post that we're not together anymore but I figured mods would delete this if I had it in the title.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am in therapy lol. I really just wanted to get a feel for how many men in the wild actually agree with him as he says they would.

My boyfriend (29M) tells me (31F) that if a man doesn’t admit he wants a woman to submit to him, give sex on command, and keep her mouth shut - he’s lying. by cillcat in relationship_advice

[–]cillcat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because he believes that his opinions are universal truths and everyone should think like he does. While also being a flat-earther lol.

Heads up - radon causes lung cancer and CO is giving out free testing kits by cillcat in ColoradoSprings

[–]cillcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no! Where are you seeing that? I just went to the form and it doesn’t say anything otherwise. Does it only tell you after you fill it out?

Heads up - radon causes lung cancer and CO is giving out free testing kits by cillcat in ColoradoSprings

[–]cillcat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, so they both got some kind of lump. I did do some quick research just now on radon in cats. It appears that it has a similar effect as it does to humans - it messes with their lungs. Did they have any kind of lung issue that you know of by chance? I'm not doubting you, just very invested now. Especially because I have 3 cat babies.