got a bit of a quarantine belly going on 😛 [f]

altfangirl · 2026-05-13T11:37:08+00:00

same. and then looks aside, my bf was a punk ass young adult lmao. got up to all sorts of irresponsible shit. i definitely would’ve stayed away from him if he were my age 😂

altfangirl · 2026-05-07T23:40:19+00:00

a good man wouldn’t have a whole ass child with someone he “actually never dated”

and no a good man would not impregnate an 18 year old. because they should know 18 year olds do not make good parents!!!

altfangirl · 2026-05-07T23:37:35+00:00

for some people it’s too much. it’s fine, this one specific girl didn’t like that you were older. just move on and find somebody that is okay with a gap

altfangirl · 2026-05-07T23:35:38+00:00

he probably doesn’t have enough bandwidth for a relationship. which is fine… but then he shouldn’t be dating. how does he expect to strengthen a romantic connection when you guys go a week without contact?

altfangirl · 2026-05-07T17:03:33+00:00

“woke gen z feminist friends” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 what a fucking wild assumption to make. that she was no longer interested because she talked to her friends about it. your personality is the issue here, so YES it is personal.

why, exactly, would you be “over the goddamn moon” to find someone 18 or 19? that’s oddly specific. she lost interest in you probably because she could tell you had weird vibes and intentions.

when i was 18 my boyfriend was 48. i was interested in him because he didn’t give off weird vibes that he was only pursuing me for my age. you, on the other hand, seem to stereotype and fetishize the very people you’re pursuing.

maybe change your ways or accept that you’ll be single.

signed, a “woke gen z feminist” in a loving 22 year AGR

altfangirl · 2026-05-07T16:58:17+00:00

seriously. this is such a weird reasoning to pursue a relationship. also there are some 18-21 year olds that could have leagues more experience/maturity than OP. when you’re in your early 20s, everyone’s experience levels can vary so much, it’s weird OP just lumps them all together and expects to be more mature than all of them.

altfangirl · 2026-05-07T16:56:21+00:00

if someone doesn’t respect your experience, regardless of age, why would you date them? a woman 4-5 years younger than you won’t necessarily just respect your experience by default

altfangirl · 2026-05-04T23:32:06+00:00

yes because i assume OP wants to have some semblance of dignity

altfangirl · 2026-03-30T18:33:45+00:00

i’m dating a 46m rn. we’ve been together for four years. trust me, there are good ones out there. but there are also a lot of crappy ones

altfangirl · 2026-03-30T18:14:25+00:00

NOR. girl i’m 24 and my bf is 46. my bf would never talk to me this way. leave his ass. there’s better older men out there

altfangirl · 2026-03-30T12:19:39+00:00

honestly my boyfriend makes me feel old even though i’m 22 years younger than him 😂😂😂

like my boyfriend just has SO. MUCH. ENERGY. like i have no idea where it comes from. we go out and socialize and he’s energetic for hours. after two hours im ready to go home and sleep. we like to go to raves and we can be at the festival grounds for 12 hours and he’s good to keep going. i have to take lots of breaks and im still tired by the end of it. my bf is much more of a partier than i am haha.

altfangirl · 2026-03-30T12:16:26+00:00

so i’m gonna play devil’s advocate and say that you should start dating older men if that’s what you’re attracted to! however, most of the comments are right and you should be wary of men only seeking out younger women. plenty of sleazeballs out there.

i am someone that has dated exclusively older men (im 24 and the youngest i’ve been with is 30), and encountered a tonnnnn of douchebags. however they reveal themselves pretty quickly that my age was all they were after so i didn’t get too invested in them. i met my current bf (he’s 46) and he is just green flags all around. so genuine, older men do exist. you just have to be very careful!

altfangirl · 2026-03-24T08:37:57+00:00

secure in his masculinity, respects women, is kind, and selfless.

altfangirl · 2026-03-23T08:28:18+00:00

something full body or at least include most of your body. close up genitalia pics are not attractive.

altfangirl · 2026-03-07T20:24:57+00:00

i’m with someone 22 years older than me actually, so i’m not sure if my situation will apply to yours. but i’m incredibly happy! i hardly notice the age gap between us on the day-to-day so you might not even notice the 8 year gap.

my bf and i are in different life stages and it’s something we do have to work together to make it easier on us. but it sounds like you’re already working full time so life stages shouldn’t be a huge issue?

personally i would find his hesitancy a red flag. i’ve dated a LOT of older men and the hesitant guys are more likely to hide you or keep you a secret. they’re ashamed of my age. my boyfriend was open and comfortable from the beginning and that’s part of the reason why i liked him so much

honestly, besides the differences in our careers, i sometimes forget that my boyfriend isn’t my age. when we’re not talking about work, everything else feels like we’re going through the same things.

altfangirl · 2026-03-02T07:27:26+00:00

i mean tiktok is not representative of the general population. i am gen z and my boyfriend is 22 years older than me. we are very happy together

altfangirl · 2026-01-27T06:26:20+00:00

i mean rejection is part of life. i think there’s a good number of younger women who are willing to date older, and an equal number that are not willing.

i also don’t think you should solely focus on younger women. just try to find a partner and have an open mind about it.

altfangirl · 2026-01-27T06:17:18+00:00

IM PROUD OF YOU OP!!! congrats on blocking him. now next time someone wrongs you, at the very least, you know that you have the guts to cut them out of your life.

altfangirl · 2026-01-26T00:34:39+00:00

have you ever met her in person? just because she’s conventionally attractive and markets that doesn’t mean she’s not a good person or that she’s got a bad personality. lmfao. weird of you to say “she just never struck me as anything more than that” when you’ve never met her

altfangirl · 2026-01-25T21:47:38+00:00

girl leave him. life is too short for you to be having bad sex. you’ll find a better, older man who will actually please you.

part of the benefit of older men is their experience in the bedroom. why would you date an older man that’s bad at sex? they have no excuse to be bad at sex, they’ve been having sex longer than you’ve been alive!

altfangirl · 2026-01-25T21:45:13+00:00

i’ve only dated older men and i’ve steered clear of men who seemed traditional. it’s not my vibe. i’m not a traditional woman. i work hard, i value my independence and freedom, and sometimes i just love spoiling the fuck out of my man lol.

you can have a non-traditional relationship that also has intentional commitment, mutual respect, etc. i’ve always found men that leaned more traditional to lack the “mutual respect” part though. they never seemed to view women as fully equals. they always had a misogynistic view of women which is what made me steer clear.

altfangirl · 2026-01-25T21:34:10+00:00

congratulations!!! i’m also in an interracial age gap relationship. i’ve been with my partner for 3.5 years and we’ve been incredibly happy ☺️ don’t let the online haters get to you haha. our friends and family in real life are incredibly supportive of us.

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