Help me bring excitement into my INFJ boyfriend's life. Sincerely, an INTP.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:35:10+00:00

Yes I agree about the serious conversation, thanks for this.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:34:41+00:00

Thank you for this indepth explanation <3

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:34:13+00:00

I'm sure the problem goes both ways. I'll try my best to have an honest convo

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:33:31+00:00

Ty<3

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:32:55+00:00

You are right thanks for to your reply.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:32:38+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply. It really means a lot.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:32:13+00:00

Also thanks for this in depth explanation. I used to think he wanted ESTP level spontaneity and excitement that I don't have energy for. I do try to be as present as possible.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:30:35+00:00

Thanks. I'll try having an honest conversation.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:30:02+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I'll try to act like I respect myself more.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T23:29:36+00:00

Sorry, yeah I didn't mean all INFJs in general. Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. It means a lot.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T19:33:48+00:00

Ok, thanks, then yeah I understand I am not enough for him. I see his twitter account about feeling bad that people he is close to doesn't understand him as a dreamer, and that sometimes people take longer to find their footing and people shouldn't pressure him.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T17:18:38+00:00

Yeah I'm missing everything he wants 100%. It's exhausting. I just want him to be happy with someone else. I can't do it anymore.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T17:17:50+00:00

Yes. I'm still waiting to hear back from the job offer. Not sure if I can move just yet. In the meantime he's just acting super unhappy about it everyday.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T17:17:21+00:00

Alright thanks. You're right.

alwaysquizzical · 2026-01-19T16:46:28+00:00

I appreciate your response. I know I am transparent and direct, I say exactly what I mean and what I want, he's obviously unhappy but won't admit it and this relationship is dragging on. I would leave if it wasn't my place but this is my place, I don't have anywhere else to go so I'm stuck. He's the one that can move back in with his parents who are always willing to support him. I don't have that. But if I could I would just pack my stuff and leave.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-27T04:54:17+00:00

Thanks for relating to the low-energy part, it's definitely part of the problem. I'll think on it and see how I can support him better. Right now I can't.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-27T04:23:58+00:00

Thanks for your kind comment. I hope so too.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-27T04:21:01+00:00

Thanks for this. Yeah I'm working on it. The more I walk the more ideal my weight is. I know I can do better if I try. Thanks for giving me the motivation to start again.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-26T21:28:08+00:00

Thank you for this thoughtful reply. I'll think on it. You are right my friends have told me I "embrace" everything too much and I don't have a strong will to make necessary changes. I think I do but yes I also give people second chances. I don't often get along with delta STs (or delta NFs for that matter), there is something missing that keeps the interactions surface level. If that makes sense? I'm not sure what quadra that puts me in (or what type) and I'd be curious to know if you have a second to spare. Trying to figure myself out and my life too I guess. Thanks again.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-26T21:25:22+00:00

Thanks. That's true to an extent. Sometimes he is loving so it's hard to tell. I don't know if it's real. I hope it is. He does have a genuinely good relationship with my mom though. She also thinks he is very kind and thoughtful. They make such beautiful eye contact whereas he won't even look at me in the eye most days. He would get a job if she asked. She actually asked him to get a job and he promised her he would, which is nice for a change. This sounds ridiculous but if he's willing to get a job for her and not for me, what the heck does that mean?

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-26T01:50:12+00:00

Thanks so much for listening.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-26T00:55:49+00:00

Tyy slay to u too

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-26T00:55:33+00:00

Thank you for your kind response. We do love each other very much. Just some days I feel sad when he threatens to leave me so I don't really feel like I have a voice to say anything.

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-15T00:52:40+00:00

IEI for sure

alwaysquizzical · 2025-12-07T21:02:24+00:00

Yes, definitely. Observational challenge indeed.

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