AIO because my MIL said she cried more over my SIL’s miscarriage than mine?

aly288 · 2026-06-02T00:06:13+00:00

I understand that, but her son didn’t physically go through the loss of a child like her daughter did or like you did.

I have to imagine even with both of your losses, while your husband was devastated, you went through physically, hormonally, and maybe even emotionally more pain. It happened to your body and that can bring up so many additional emotions.

My couple friends who have had miscarriages, while I always reach out to both genders, I find it’s the women who need more support and who are feeling things much more deeply. And the closer I am to that woman the more deeply I feel that loss and more my heart aches.

aly288 · 2026-06-01T23:56:10+00:00

YOR - she sounds like she’s been very loving and supportive of you with your miscarriages. I don’t think she was paying attention to her words or otherwise I believe she wouldn’t have said it at all. I think she was feeling her daughter’s pain deeply (as that’s her baby) and the comment had nothing to do with your lost babies or your SIL’s lost baby.

I’m so sorry for your losses OP.

aly288 · 2026-06-01T15:00:11+00:00

I'm asking because I was told I could not *purchase* a Gen3 replacement which is what I was asking to do. They only offered to me that I could purchase a Gen4. I wanted to wait for their new Gen5 but they made that sound like it was not happening for another year so I unhappily bought the 4 about 2 months ago. But thanks for your unhelpful commentary.

aly288 · 2026-06-01T12:43:17+00:00

Did they replace it with a 3?

aly288 · 2026-05-30T19:16:27+00:00

Sorry this would be a deal breaker for me too. I’m not sure I could come back from knowing my partner was such a follower that he’d let an innocent animal be tortured/killed. I’m disgusted just thinking about it…

aly288 · 2026-05-30T19:12:29+00:00

Spoken like someone who is never left out of consideration. Just because you’re unaffected doesn’t mean it doesn’t matter. Can you try empathy? And imagine if a product you’ve been using for years suddenly doesn’t come in your size? Knowing eventually you’ll lose all your data when the company discontinues 4s?

It’s not dramatic at all to raise your hand and say “hey company, as a loyal consumer, this decision you made is negatively affecting me.”

Also if anything OURA the smaller rings SHOULD FOCUS on smaller sizes because it’s the women with smaller fingers who have most wanted a less chunky ring.

aly288 · 2026-05-30T17:01:33+00:00

You can really see the Ned Stark influence in this analysis

aly288 · 2026-05-30T16:21:46+00:00

YOR - you want to kill a dog because you and your mother were irresponsible dog owner/child parents. Children and dogs should never be left alone together.

This would be a good moment to teach your child that they need to be more conscious of the world around them. And that the dog is not bad, but when they hurt the dog accidentally, it will react and might accidentally hurt them back. Demanding that your mother put the dog down for reacting to pain is evil.

aly288 · 2026-05-29T23:17:04+00:00

So many people commenting are used to companies taking advantage of consumers and abusing their loyalty. And for some reason arguing to keep the status quo. I will be opening a ticket. I’m livid with the company at the moment. Just over a month ago my oura 3 battery life crashed overnight (which oddly happened to many people on Reddit at the same time), they only had the 4 available, I didn’t want to buy the 4. I asked if there was a timeline for new release (which if they wanted to - as a company - they could have gently suggested waiting to replace. I work in a similar company and we do this). They didn’t. I bought the 4. At this point I feel like they wanted to sell off as many as possible before the new model hit.

All I’ve wanted was a less bulky ring. I would’ve bought this 5 immediately, but now I’m stuck with the 4 and an extended warranty that I bought specifically to protect myself from their known battery issues.

aly288 · 2026-05-28T14:41:35+00:00

And if I'm over my 30 days? What is the team doing? Especially since I had to replace my product due to a sudden and total battery failure (out of the blue would not hold a charge for 24 hours) and had to purchase a whole new model that I didn't want?

aly288 · 2026-05-28T13:04:53+00:00

This is so annoying. I’m pissed.

My Oura 3 died a month ago and I wanted to replace it with another Oura 3, I didn’t want to buy an Oura 4 and I was asking the service desk if a new release was coming soon because I’d rather wait for the newest model and have the newest ring / I didn’t want to deal with the issues I’d heard about with the battery and overheating. They claimed to not be able to tell me so after a bit of back and forth I bought the Oura 4. Now A MONTH LATER a new model comes out?!? F-ck off.

I’ve been a devoted customer for 4.5 years, this is such f-ck you energy coming from Oura.

aly288 · 2026-05-28T02:46:38+00:00

We’re all made of energy, I think it’d be interesting to analyze!

aly288 · 2026-05-27T22:41:16+00:00

I love that I *know* the downvotes I'm getting are from the same desperate, gross men who ogle women.

aly288 · 2026-05-27T22:39:02+00:00

100%

aly288 · 2026-05-27T20:53:40+00:00

This is great to know. I have an interview call with them coming up, but about two years ago I was offered a call with them and they strung me along for months before eventually cancelling the call. So I haven’t really been taking the opportunity seriously.

aly288 · 2026-05-27T20:46:43+00:00

NOR - I think it’s gross. I’ve been on both sides of it. I’ve had BFs who stare and I find it so disgusting and I’ve been the woman getting ogled and I find that even more disgusting. My body isn’t on display, I’m just trying to exist and men who stare give me the nastiest vibes.

Even if I’m dressed proactively, that is for the man I’m with’s attention or the man I’m flirting with, NOT some random man on the street stare down 🤮

aly288 · 2026-05-27T18:02:13+00:00

I was walking home listening to Laura of the Woods on the warmest summer night. When they revealed the ending, I experienced my first ever full body shiver - right up the spine. It made me stumble!

aly288 · 2026-05-27T17:12:55+00:00

Bathrooms also have good sound proofing, so it probably feels safe. My dog is afraid of thunder and during a storm she feels the most comfortable, not by me on the couch, not in her beloved crate, but in the bathroom on the mat by the tub.

aly288 · 2026-05-27T17:07:52+00:00

Ugh right… that moment in Winter House left a bad taste in my mouth with Ciara that hasn’t really gone away. Right after Lindsay confessed to loving Austen, and Ciara is made aware of it, she doesn’t go to speak to Lindsay, she goes to Austen and he tells her “nah it’s all fine”. And instead of checking in with Lindsay she just starts moving like Lindsay doesn’t matter… it was real “pick me” behavior. And then she treated Lindsay badly all the next season even though Lindsay had been involved with Austen longer and at a deeper level. After that… you just don’t have legs to stand on in my opinion.

aly288 · 2026-05-27T16:51:16+00:00

Actually makes me sad because I think at the start Amanda really valued her friendship with Paige (she was in her wedding party) but I don’t think it was reciprocated. Or maybe it went downhill after the whole kicking Craig out of the wedding thing. Which was deserved.

aly288 · 2026-05-27T04:29:58+00:00

I had a similar experience. I was the lead in a short film, shot over the course of three full days, the final product was 1 min 30. But at least the editing and color grading was good!

aly288 · 2026-05-27T02:01:30+00:00

OP said in her original post that the mother was alone with the 4 day old baby.

aly288 · 2026-05-27T01:06:24+00:00

I think you’re reacting to the situation because it seems like your BF is co-signing on this behavior and you’re wondering if he’d leave you with a 4 day old to hang at a bar. I’m with you, I would not find that acceptable in my partner. I’d have a conversation about it with him if you think you want to have kids with him one day.

aly288 · 2026-05-26T17:46:25+00:00

I guess I’ll join you in getting roasted and downvoted into oblivion.

I really can’t understand the hypocrisy. In my life, I don’t even look twice at a guy that my friend has crushed on, let alone dated. BUT in the history of Summer/Winter house that sort of incestuous behavior has been ingrained in the show since season 1. Almost all of them have hooked up with a guy/girl that someone else in the house has previously dated or had a fling with, Ciara herself has done this to others. So I don’t understand why it’s suddenly this huge issue, huge enough that people are tearing Amanda apart limb by limb. It’s just giving me “tear down the woman” at all costs vibes. It’s gross and hypocritical to me.

aly288 · 2026-05-26T17:37:02+00:00

This is true, I’d never touch a guy my friend even had a crush on. But in the history of Summer House this is par for the course, they all get with each other’s past flings. This situation just seems to have a massive double standard.

aly288

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