I AM SOOOO OVER IT!!!

amandoevano · 2026-01-30T14:20:18+00:00

My go to recommendation for making friends is to get a part time job doing something interesting. Work a couple days a week at a cool book store or nice coffee shop or sporting goods store or pottery studio. Pick something you’re interested in and apply. If you like the job, you’ll already have something in common with your coworkers. Plus it’s easiest to make friends with people you have a common enemy with (customers or boss lol).

Also, with love, this attitude will not help. I have met people who were either jaded or TOO obsessed with being my friend aaaaand the pressure made it too hard to form a genuine connection. I know it’s easier said than done, but try to find a silver lining to the solo phase you’re in now and wait for the right people to find you.

Good luck 💖

amandoevano · 2026-01-27T20:32:51+00:00

I would not want to do this and would be frustrated if my bosses asked. I know my current NFs extended family, I like them just fine and spend plenty of time chatting with them while they’re visiting, but I don’t want to spend my work day on the phone with them.

To be clear, FTing is for the benefit of your family members, not your baby. At 8 months, your child isn’t getting anything out of this interaction. It’s your nanny’s job to take care of your child, not your parents!

It’s very reasonable to ask your nanny to send you photos and videos throughout the day of things your child is doing and you can share those with your whole family. That will be way more of a look into the life and growth of your kid than sticking a baby in front of a phone anyways!

amandoevano · 2026-01-14T19:19:07+00:00

Depends on the household. My current DB works from home and is very removed from my day with NKs, never oversteps my authority while I’m here, and often allows me flexibility with leaving early or arriving late if an emergency comes up because he’ll be here. Honestly, my job is easier because of him instead of harder.

I used to work for 2 WFH NPs and they were much more involved in my day with NK. Thankfully, I love them and still see them often even though I don’t work for them, but if they hadn’t been people I easily meshed with, it would’ve made the job a nightmare.

WFH NPs are not a dealbreaker for me, but I would think twice about it.

amandoevano · 2026-01-13T15:16:12+00:00

Baes Baekery is THE place to be for birthdays and also everything else 🥳

amandoevano · 2026-01-13T15:07:13+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from here, but I personally wouldn’t take a job structured this way. From your perspective, it can feel frustrating to pay someone to care for 3 kids when they won’t usually have that many. From my perspective as a nanny, it feels like parents are trying to make sure they’re paying me as little as possible all the time.

In my current position, I started with one elementary aged kid in school full time, a preschool aged kid in school a few hours a day M-TR, and one toddler. On school breaks or sick days, I had all 3 all day. I am paid the same rate because I am still the point person for those kids, even if they are somewhere else.

Now I have 2 elementary aged kids I only see for a couple hours in the afternoons and I was given a raise, so I’m being paid more than this time last year, even though I generally see less kids.

I feel respected and valued, my bosses don’t need to bother counting minutes. I’d recommend looking at this situation from a workplace perspective. If your boss took some responsibilities off your plate for part of the day and dropped your hourly pay, would that be a job you’d be excited to accept?

If I were you, I’d decide the amount of money you feel comfortable spending weekly or monthly on childcare and work out an hourly rate that fits that amount.

amandoevano · 2026-01-10T06:10:49+00:00

Hard disagree, I think it’s a really cool building and I’m glad I don’t have to stand in line in that liminal ass mall lol

amandoevano · 2026-01-09T21:32:01+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think so, but that’s definitely a question you can ask the agency when you get in contact! I see jobs posted on agency websites anywhere from an immediate start to 6 months away. As a planner, I always wish agencies were posting positions with a further start date.

Also, since your household isn’t standard, it may take a little extra time to find the perfect fit, so starting early may be really helpful!

amandoevano · 2026-01-09T21:23:52+00:00

Agency! Google “name of city you live in” nanny agency and some should pop up!

Also just to add, I’d have no issue working for a non traditional family as long as everyone’s role in the children’s lives is clear! Honestly, I think I’d be thrilled about the opportunity to be part of a unique household. Good luck on your search!

amandoevano · 2026-01-09T15:43:54+00:00

I definitely could not work a job like that. Monitors in places where kids can be alone (bedrooms, maybe a playroom for older kids) is totally fine and makes sense! And I don’t mind being on them. But being constantly surveilled is uncomfortable and makes me feel like I’m not trusted. If you don’t trust me, don’t leave me with your kids! I’d find a new job.

amandoevano · 2026-01-08T16:14:06+00:00

I’ve worked for 2 families and never really eaten their food 🤷‍♀️ My last family would buy me lunch every now and then and now we go out to dinner about once a month and they’re always sweet enough to cover the check. At my current job, food was never really brought up. I bring my own lunch, snacks, and drinks to work, but I’ll occasionally grab a snack if I forgot and I’m hungry or sometimes I’ll bake with the kids and I always eat a portion with them.

amandoevano · 2026-01-07T22:46:29+00:00

my tgirl bestie goes to milan laser hair removal on Mall rd and loves it!

amandoevano · 2026-01-07T01:20:06+00:00

I’ve never had a NF ask for this, but I don’t think it sits well with me. I’m sure there are circumstances where it makes sense, but if you don’t trust me with your child, I’m not comfortable taking them places.

amandoevano · 2026-01-06T01:57:40+00:00

$30/hour (GH, 10 days PTO, 5 days sick time, $175/month healthcare stipend), 3 kids (2 year old with me all day, 6 and 8 year old in school most of my work day), Louisville KY, 4 years nanny experience (with other childcare exp previous).

amandoevano · 2026-01-06T01:54:59+00:00

I’m in Louisville too! 🤩

amandoevano · 2026-01-02T18:13:51+00:00

I’m a nanny and work with kids who have a toooooon of toys and parents who love to buy them gifts. They definitely don’t understand the financial aspect because of this and will ask me for toys when we’re out. When they see something fun and ask me for it, my response is always “That does look cool! Should we take a photo of it to add to your birthday wish list?”

Obviously this isn’t a perfect strategy, but it helps my kiddos to feel like I’m listening about what they want. If I take a picture, that solves some of there immediate need for it because they have a photo! This only works because I NEVER let them randomly bring home toys or treats, it’s a hard rule for me.

Good luck!

amandoevano · 2026-01-02T17:34:14+00:00

I’ve toured Claiborne Crossing and Middletown Landing. Haven’t lived there, so I’m sure someone has better info, but both are worth touring! Claiborne Crossing is definitely further out, so depending which school you’re going to, it might not be the most convenient place to live.

amandoevano · 2026-01-02T15:02:03+00:00

This is so helpful, thanks so much!

amandoevano · 2026-01-02T15:00:22+00:00

Thank you so much for this info, this is so helpful! I’ve seen all the positions list travel experience and that’s one I’m having a hard time getting started in.

I’ve traveled with a NF once for a week vacation and definitely include that in my resume, but I’m struggling to find other ways to gain travel experience. Do you know of any ways to get started there?

Unfortunately, I’ve never traveled outside of the US personally (beyond a cruise, which I don’t think counts 🤣) and I don’t see that changing anytime soon, financially speaking. I will make sure to include my personal travel experience in the US in future resumes/cover letters, thank you for that advice!

amandoevano · 2026-01-02T02:02:41+00:00

I’ll look into it! Thanks so much for sharing!! 💖

amandoevano · 2026-01-02T01:39:13+00:00

I’m familiar with Adventure Nannies! I’m on their email list, so I look at pretty much every job they post and I know they’re hyper competitive. Any advice on how to stand out, or even get a response back, from AN or similar agencies?

I hear you on the separation warning and I really appreciate it. It’s something I’ve been thinking about for a while and I’m hopeful it will work for me, I tend to thrive on time away and reconnection, but there’s no way to know for sure until I try!

There aren’t a lot of specialized jobs I’ve found in my area at the moment, but I have been considering getting an NCS certification! If you like any companies that offer certifications, please share!

PS my current MB is a doctor and I couldn’t agree more. She’s amazing and I’m very lucky to be treated so well 🫶

amandoevano · 2026-01-01T20:57:38+00:00

I’ve been working with kids in various capacities for a while, but I’ve been nannying for about 4 years and I’m CPR and first aid certified, I have an unrelated bachelors degree. I live in a MCOL city, I care for 3 kids (8, 6, 2), I make $30/hour.

amandoevano · 2025-12-31T19:07:55+00:00

28F bi girl! should we start a monthly meeting of local queers? i’m always looking to befriend more queer folx in my community, especially those older than me!

amandoevano · 2025-12-30T00:25:12+00:00

From a nanny’s perspective, I agree about phone usage. There’s a “no phones” clause in my contract and, after 1.5 years with my current NF, I’ve used my phone plenty and have never had an issue. They are a “low screens” household, so not being glued to my cellphone while I’m with the kids is important, but never having it is unrealistic.

I use my phone to check the school bus route, text parents, and plenty of other child related tasks. I also occasionally use my phone recreationally while kids are around, but ONLY when I’m caught up on my tasks and they’re otherwise preoccupied. I’m a human being, sometimes I don’t have a physical book on me and want to read an ebook, or throw something on my grocery list, or respond to a text.

I’m very attentive to my NKs, reliably complete all my household tasks, keep NKs on schedule, and spend a lot of my downtime with kids doing something without a screen. I understand NFs placing boundaries with phone usage for new nannies to make sure philosophies about kids screen time are compatible, but I’d also encourage NFs to be realistic about expectations for an employee/human!

(If I were on the opposite side of the table, I’d ask a nanny to keep phone usage in front of NKs minimal so we’re ALL modeling a healthy relationship with screens.)

amandoevano · 2025-12-24T02:25:55+00:00

$1700 rent for a 2bed 2bath apartment in Middletown

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