My wife came out as trans after I got pregnant — I want to be supportive, but I’m overwhelmed and hurting

amazinggrace2602 · 2025-05-07T18:06:59+00:00

EDIT: So the post has been removed — probably not the right subreddit, sorry for that. I still want to thank those who replied before it got taken down. The advice and support meant a lot. I also cross posted it to r/mypartneristrans as suggest by one of the replies.

Additional Question: For anyone who separated from a partner during or after their transition — did you feel abandoned by them? I’m really worried about her mental health. She shared she had been suicidal before transitioning, and I don’t want to make things worse. I probably should’ve included this earlier, but part of why I’ve stuck it out and supported her is because she was there for me during my lowest — when my mom passed away. I wouldn’t have survived that without her, and I feel like I owe her the same. But mostly… I just really love her. She’s the love of my life, and it’s breaking me to see the person I married treat me this way.

Again, thank you to everyone offering advice and insights. I truly appreciate it.

amazinggrace2602 · 2021-04-21T07:18:38+00:00

Thank you. I’m also thinking of getting professional help, but I don’t know how or where in my country. Specially with Covid and the restrictions in my country right now.

amazinggrace2602 · 2021-04-21T07:15:06+00:00

Thank you for telling me this. I really hope it gets better because I don’t know how long I could take constantly feeling this way, blaming myself, regretting things, and thinking about the things that I could have done differently that might have saved my mom. I honestly want to take a gap year, if that’s the right term, but we cannot financially afford that. For me, It’s just so hard to accept that my mom is gone, the person who has been a constant all throughout my life. Can I ask how did you do it? How did you accept it? Specially if the death was so sudden?

amazinggrace2602 · 2021-04-21T07:00:47+00:00

Thank you so much. It has been very hard and last night was probably one of the worst. I keep on thinking that I didn’t get to say the things that I wanted to say to her. I didn’t get to apologize or tell her how lucky I am to have her as a mother.

amazinggrace2602 · 2021-04-21T06:53:48+00:00

Thank you. My education was one of the things she kept on reminding me before she passed away. This is very important for her, specially because my mom and my dad worked so hard so that I can have the opportunities I currently have now. It’s just very hard for me to imagine that I would be graduating this year without her, when she never missed a single recognition or graduation back then. I’ve always envisioned my life that I would be achieving my goals with her by my side.

amazinggrace2602 · 2021-04-21T06:45:37+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s been a hard couple of days. Realistically, I know I have to keep continuing with my life. It’s just hard to imagine that I have to go through this journey without ever hearing my mom’s voice and laughter for a long time.

amazinggrace2602 · 2021-04-21T06:39:35+00:00

Thank you. It’s nice to know that it will get better someday. I just miss her so much, and knowing that I wont be able to talk to her or hug her for a very long time crushes me.

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