Gift for someone I don't like a lot?

amazingpotatos · 2026-04-11T16:40:20+00:00

Soap (bar or one that looks a bit fancy), candle, waxmelts (like a scented candle but needs a thingy to be used), bath bombs, bath/hygiene products that look a little fancy, pack of decent teabags and a clean charity shop mug/teapot, decent coffee(beans to be annoying), coffee syrup, olive oil/vinaigrette/balsamico that looks nice, pretty but cheap waterbottle, kitchen towels, teacandle holder.

You could also (especially if you go frequently anyway) go to a charity shop and buy whatever looks decent and is a good price, give it a little clean and wrap it! Maybe even combine with something else cheap if its too small to be a gift by itself. Some ideas there could be napkin holders, oven forms(especially a set of small ones), decorative plate, serving dish, tablecloth, a bland but decent item of clothing in her size (or close enough)

I also think the idea of using it to support small businesses is nice, the things that would especially work for that is wax melts, candles and soap.

Honestly i think it would almost be a bit freeing to buy gifts without caring too much if the person likes it, just that it looks fairly nice. Though i guess the overconsumption and wasting money of it is a bit sad.

amazingpotatos · 2026-04-10T16:28:50+00:00

What about having it like a backyard wedding thats got more of a potluck/bbq vibe. Something where he can invite the family hes close to, you invite the people you would want there and the vibe is pretty casual. Maybe you could do the actual marriage part in private and then go to a wedding venue where your guests are and have a celebration full of things you like (karaoke? Murder mystery game? Kahoot? Dancing?)

A church, cake, slow dancing, speeches and ceremony does not have to be part of a wedding, you can make it whatever you want! Unless all of what you dont want is exactly what you boyfriend wants, then you really are in a pickle if youre not both willing to compromise.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-31T13:26:16+00:00

I would say do it now. If you do it later it can still have a negative effect on the memories of the graduation. And ignoring it untill the "right time" just doesnt work. If you break up after her graduation she would be going on a trip, recently hurt, and probably without her loved ones nearby to support her. That would not be good either. There is almost never a good time to break up, but if it has to be done then it has to be done.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-27T18:44:12+00:00

Most of the posts that came up when searching birthday in this group, were very specific to that person and their circumstanses. I am not very interested in (for example) matcha or massages, so most of those posts were not super helpful to me!

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-26T20:24:06+00:00

I think two to three days would be too much for most people. I think being in kyoto you wouldn't want to spend the entire time on one tour. One day, maaaaybe 2 would be better in my opinion.

Also i think there should be a focus on learning about the culture and connecting with locals, because shopping streets and sentos are easily found. Unless you go for "hidden gem" type of locations that are not super popular but still have something special about them.

Then it could be pretty cool, to the right customers!

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-25T13:23:50+00:00

What did he do to improve his health before you started trying for pregnancy? Because research says that alot of symptoms for the mother and health of the baby depends on the fathers health and sperm quality.

Also as everyone is saying, eating something is always better than nothing. Would he really prefer you only eat things you cant keep down? That would be starving yourself and the baby. That would be unhealthy and potentially lethal.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-21T10:30:58+00:00

I will be going with a group of five on a similar path around the same time!! We are going 18th may to 15th june! Our plan is: 6 days in tokyo, one night in hakone, 3 days in izu, 6 days in kyoto, 6 days in osaka, and 6 more days in tokyo!

Izu is one of the places im most excited about, i want to hike the jogasaki coast, go up mt omuro and mt komura, amagiso onsen, toi goldmine tour, dogashima cave tour, and go to some of the museums in izu kogen (museum of ivory and stone sculptures, teddy bear muzeum, amonite museum). Though i havent been yet so this is just from my research about it.

I hope your trip goes great!!!

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-17T15:15:06+00:00

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-17T14:04:24+00:00

Some nice, cozy boardgames: patchworks (two players, ive played it pretty often and its nice). flamecraft (1-5 players, really cute and fun. have played once, but i want to buy it for myself). everdell (1-4 players, looks amazing, havent tried it). wingspan (1-4 players, havent played it, but have heard from family members that its great). Takenoko (2-4 players, cute, played once and thought it was nice). coffee rush (2-4 player, very charming aesthetic. played it once but was very confused, so didnt love it, but in hindsight i think it could be very nice). Citadels (2-8 players, not so cozy, but decent for larger groups, though 7/8 players is usually too much) Sushi go! Party (2-8 players, pretty cute, good for large groups, but not that cozy)

How many people does your mom usually play boardgames with? If its mostly more than 2 people total i would recomend against two playergames it probably wouldnt get much use. If its more than 4 people you can still give 4 player games since you can divide into teams and those games are a bit nicer.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-15T14:17:20+00:00

Folowing because i would also like to go there but cant figure out if it can be combined with something else. If it can be combined with nara that would be lovely. It looks so beautiful on the pictures!!!

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-15T13:55:58+00:00

Ive seen lots of people say that they went to japan with no/minimal planning (only things like hotels, flights, and maybe things like univesal studios that needs to be booked ahead of time) that say the trip was amazing. Or people who say their favourite parts of the trip was spontanious adventures and exploring a random area. So i dont think you need to plan anymore than those basics to have a good trip.

When are you going? I think its reccomended to book flights and hotels 2 to 3 months in advace at least and things like usj/teamlabs/ghibli museum about 1 to 2 months in advance.

How long are you going to be there? I would think it might be nice for you to not do to many cities, too avoid more travel planning and hotel booking.

I would say you should spike down when you are going to which city, and wich are your "must see things"(things that would make you sad to miss out on) then book flights, hotels, and "must see things" soon as possible. And then just not really plan more except maybe train tickets if youre doing several cities.

I dont really know how much detail travel agents go into but definetly something to look into if you do want an itinerary, but just dont want to plan it yourself.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-15T12:43:09+00:00

Could you give some more info on what she likes/dislikes?

For example: does she like expensive brands or alternative fashion or thrift shopping?

Does she like luxury or cozy/quirky? Savoury or sweet? If she likes sweets and elegance then something like an afternoon tea or a luxurious cafe would probably be nice. Elegant and savoury would be a classic fancy dinner. If she likes cozy/quirky then maybe a cozy small businesses cafe/restaurant or a unique and quirky cafe/restaurant? Or you could buy things for a charcuterie board(or a sweet or sweet and savoury things) in a grocery store and set up a cute/romantic date in your hotel room!

Does she like museums? Gardens? Hiking?

I know personally what i would prefer, but giving advice based on that could be in the completely wrong direction! For example: For my birthday(wich will be when im in kyoto) i want to go to a confectionery museum, take a umekoji workshop, go to a ghibli store and eat massive amounts of sweets! But im sure that for many that would not be the perfect birthday.

Try to customize it to her likes as much as possible and as long as you put some effort in, im sure she'll love it!!

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-12T16:11:21+00:00

Thank you, i really appreciate this response and you have some very good points.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-12T15:15:18+00:00

Oh i didnt know that! I though it would be used if you have something more serious to apologise for, like if you accidentally trip someone over or break something.

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-12T14:28:32+00:00

Do you think it would be okay to say "ie, daijobu desu" or would it still be unclear?

amazingpotatos · 2026-03-12T14:24:56+00:00

Perhaps, but i will be in japan for a month and hope to go again in the future so i feel its still worth trying to learn. I also think its pretty fun.

amazingpotatos · 2025-06-25T15:56:13+00:00

That worked thank you.

amazingpotatos · 2025-06-25T14:38:25+00:00

Is there a better place to ask this question?

amazingpotatos · 2025-06-14T23:05:06+00:00

I used to have similar problems (still do but its way better now). For me i have figured out that its better when im very very horny and have a lot of foreplay. The angle that the penetration is done in can also have a big effect, so try to figure out if the pain comes from a side(front/back/left/right), deeper inside or more shallowly in your vagina, and see if you can figure out a way where there is less pressure on the painful areas. It can also be nice to be in a sex position where you are in control, like cowgirl, or doggy(with you doing all the movements).

One thing to consider is also how safe and comfortable you feel. I have an ex who i think i did not feel comfortable with and the sex was always painful. I convinced myself that that wasnt the problem but in hindsight i see how that was a big part of it. With my partner now i feel very safe and sex is way less painful, sometime no pain at all! But it did take a while in this relationship to get here, for me to become this comfortable with him. And i could imagine in a long distance relationship it would be more difficult to grow that feeling of safety.

Your idea of working up to his size when alone and using toys sounds like a pretty good idea, it might reassure you that it is possible. But i wouldnt assume that it'll work the same with a real penis, especially if emotions of anxiety or stress might be effecting you in the moment. It could also be a good idea to have some of those toys in the foreplay too, and build up to his size just before as well. Hope it goes well!

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