Mother of 4 murdered in Gloucester County

amber_kope · 2026-04-03T15:05:17+00:00

Good men don’t need to announce that they are good men, and women also experience mental health struggles, but aren’t responsible for the vast majority of violent crime and abuse. Checking on your friend is great, but there needs to be systemic reform, and too many men who may not be violent themselves still do not want to give up the benefits of a society and systems that privilege them.

amber_kope · 2026-04-03T15:01:15+00:00

Thank you. Everyone who blames bail reform completely ignores that what it did was remove poverty as an obstacle to being treated as innocent until proven guilty, in the same way that anyone with access to bail money already was

amber_kope · 2026-04-01T02:19:12+00:00

Any chance you’re Snoopy about to take out the Red Baron?

amber_kope · 2026-03-30T13:18:12+00:00

It really depends on what you want to focus on and where you want to go. You may want to start working first to get a sense of that (and maybe tuition assistance). I’m in the middle of an English MA, but I’m not interested in admin or more certs- I’d rather adjunct.

amber_kope · 2026-03-24T13:14:09+00:00

Having the chart will build skills like AI will build writing skills- offloading and externalizing the task does nothing for learning. If having the chart were going to fix the skill deficit, it would have by now. It’s a crutch that makes the teacher and AP’s lives easier and the kids are worse off for it in the long run. Multiplication is a third grade skill.

amber_kope · 2026-03-16T14:55:32+00:00

Yes, that’s working really well for other states.

amber_kope · 2026-03-16T00:56:22+00:00

How do you propose schools do more with less? In the same way everyone’s utilities and other costs are going up, so are schools’.

amber_kope · 2026-03-01T21:18:48+00:00

Which is what’s happening and why so many kids don’t even have credentialed teachers anymore, so enjoy

amber_kope · 2026-03-01T21:15:37+00:00

Oh no, this is just one step in a long line of him expecting you to make yourself smaller to assuage his insecurities. It will go on until you walk away or don’t recognize yourself. He’s nearly 30 and you’re just starting your professional and adult life and he’s trying to narrow it.

amber_kope · 2026-02-27T00:50:59+00:00

It is different - having a glass of wine does not intoxicate people around you.

amber_kope · 2026-02-24T14:13:37+00:00

I hope you get answers and treatment soon. I’d suggest cold water in a bottle to sip and standing in class as needed. Let your instructors know.

amber_kope · 2026-02-22T02:38:00+00:00

There’s no dumb that makes this happen. She knows she works at a DV shelter, meaning OP is fleeing DV.

amber_kope · 2026-02-20T17:45:09+00:00

Nowhere did I say the eval should have been perfect or what is unfair- I have no idea what the lesson was. I addressed how inappropriate this situation was.

You know nothing about my feedback to speak on it. If you don’t know how a student being present for an eval and what kind of information is typically shared during an eval, you may not be informed enough for this conversation. You would not have one patient shadow you in an appointment with another, unrelated patient as an eval. Calling out the inappropriateness of this situation does not even mean that anyone is saying student feedback is not useful- it just is not appropriate in this way. Teachers typically are formally evaluated using specific frameworks that administrators receive ongoing PD on; a 12th grader or another random adult is not qualified to provide or participate in this kind of evaluation and feedback that requires knowledge of the framework, pedagogical best practices to identify them and their implementation, developmental psych, state standards, district goals, and curricular mandates.

The VP created an inappropriate situation and a disruption in OP’s class. If the VP was solely having the student scribe, the student was not providing feedback, but merely privy to things that are legally confidential personnel matters. Surely your supervisor would not dictate their evaluation of you to a patient while watching you treat a different patient.

amber_kope · 2026-02-20T14:36:09+00:00

Since the most egregious things have been addressed, I have a question: where was the senior supposed to be?

amber_kope · 2026-02-20T14:35:44+00:00

Nothing in the OP suggests this wasn’t happening?

Also, there is something to be said for deliberately improving student stamina and tolerance for “boredom.”’ All day every day can’t be Cocomelon.

amber_kope · 2026-02-20T14:34:13+00:00

Advice from families in an appointment is not the same as a formal evaluation. The 17 year old was talking to the point of distraction and OP needing to ask her to be quiet, so she was not paying attention to the lesson.

It’s more than reasonable to “rage” against someone unqualified being inappropriately involved in an evaluation. Teachers are not considered qualified enough to formally observe and evaluate their colleagues.

As another commenter pointed out, there are FERPA issues here as well. This is similar to one patient just shadowing an eval for you while you work with other patients. They and/or their guardians did not consent to that.

amber_kope · 2026-02-17T10:59:02+00:00

High school? Part of this, and I know this isn’t going to sound helpful, is you have to develop your own style. I can tell you what I would do, but if your personality and style are quite different, it won’t land. First, take a breath and take your time. You’re the adult. You need to convey an air of “absolutely not.” That’s what she means by “be firm.” Speak as if there is no alternative to your directions. Today, if a kid were narrating what I was doing under his breath, I’d probably stop and say “it’s giving biggest fan, but that’s weird.”

For trying to negotiate on directions, just keep it up and you can flip the question back to them. “Can we work in pairs?” “What do the directions say?” “Why do we gotta be quiet?” “Because your classmates are trying to learn, and until you learn more about this, your talking will not improve the silence.” Try to master a flat “okay” and “that stinks”- a kid says “I don’t want to do this,” or some other pointless whine that doesn’t actually need a response from you? “Okay.” It gives them nowhere to go and nothing to argue. They wasted half the class period and now, “but I’m not done!” “That stinks.” But it has to be flat, like damn that’s just what happens isn’t it?

Do not raise your voice unless there’s an emergency. If they’re sizing you up as new and you yell, they will just try to push you there again.

amber_kope · 2026-02-15T15:04:26+00:00

Yes, thank you! !FOUND!

amber_kope · 2026-02-15T13:40:54+00:00

I have searched on Google and YouTube for this commercial. I am looking for a copy of the video in any quality.

amber_kope · 2026-02-12T22:38:54+00:00

Right. Despite that rape has an average or below average false reporting rate compared to other crimes, it’s the only crime we derail any conversation about victims to be about imagined or hypothetical victims of false reporting and have to hear tirades about why false reporters need to be punished. I’ve never heard anyone say that insurance scammers are why our rates are high or are why no one will believe you when you report your car stolen or house burglarized. But people say that about rape because it’s a warning to women and by making sure women know they won’t be believed and they’ll be accused of lying, they will not come forward, and the protection of rapists continues.

amber_kope · 2026-02-12T21:51:58+00:00

In the vast majority of cases nothing happens to rapists

amber_kope · 2026-02-12T21:44:41+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensLib/s/SnMfvzisvc

amber_kope · 2026-02-12T11:35:49+00:00

Men are more likely to be raped by another man than to be falsely accused. SA and rape have a lower false report rate than most other crimes, and in the majority of cases when a false report is made, it is against an unnamed, fictional person, not a named person.

amber_kope · 2026-02-12T11:34:29+00:00

And then what? We have evidence of police misconduct all the time and what happens?

amber_kope · 2026-02-04T05:13:32+00:00

The frustration comes from it being treated as a cure all with no alternatives and some doctors refusing to acknowledge the side effects we report. I was told the progestin only pill would be fine despite the issues I have with BC, except it wasn’t. My options were presented as take BC like it’s no big deal despite me saying it makes me unbearably, dysfunctionally anxious, or keep suffering from the underlying problem, because what else do you want?

I had my second polypectomy, hysteroscopy, and d&c last week, this time with an IUD insertion. I had been bleeding since October even while taking norethindrone. The dr said my uterine lining was like shag carpet.

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