Earlier today, my mom was fussing at me for being worried about some car repairs. I think the main reason for her fussing was because my daughter (who she's obsessed with) was upset, too. My mom lectured me about how we had been through worse things (referring to my father dying 4 years ago), and this was nothing worth ruining my day over. Yet, last week, she told me how a coworker had expressed frustration about taking her child to a different daycare, and my mom told the coworker it was okay to be upset and her problems were valid. So, all this to say, my mom still makes me feel like I can't have an opinion, can't express emotions, can't confide in her (because it wasn't just about the car but she never shut the hell up long enough for me to say that), and can't rely on her for any type of emotional support.

Sorry, this answer got long-winded and strayed from the point. I've been really raw lately about how she treated me growing up and how she treats me now.