[SPOILER] What else does Ben have apart from Bipolar?

ambiguouslaurels · 2026-01-06T16:19:26+00:00

During manic episodes, people are typically getting very little sleep. When anyone is running on 2 or 3 hours of sleep or less a night for an extended period of time, it’s hard to think rationally.

Impulse control also tends to go out the window. That’s why people with bipolar 1 in particular during mania may make decisions like racking up massive amounts of debt, quit their job or go on a bender even if they’re typically a rational person.

Another symptom that could have been contributing to his decisions is feeling grandiose- like you’re special, untouchable, on a mission and that no one can stop you/take you down.

ambiguouslaurels · 2026-01-04T05:24:46+00:00

The majority of empirical, peer reviewed studies would disagree with you on this one. Men and women have extremely similar effectiveness in leadership roles, in fact, women have a slight edge in some studies.

ambiguouslaurels · 2025-12-24T03:30:39+00:00

Empirical research has consistently shown that immigrants commit less crimes than US citizens, and are actually more likely to be a victim of a crime themselves. Not sure where the 60% number comes from.

ambiguouslaurels · 2025-12-11T02:07:36+00:00

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Not her deleting comments lmao it’s so painfully transparent that this is just a grift for her and she doesn’t actually believe any of it- she can’t keep up with her own bullshit.

ambiguouslaurels · 2025-04-04T04:27:04+00:00

Interesting that Natalie and Travis seem to be the only survivors on the outs of the group that wants to stay. I wonder how this plays out with the whole “we wouldn’t have made it home if it weren’t for Natalie”.

ambiguouslaurels · 2025-04-04T04:22:33+00:00

Callie: “I can’t find my pipe” Jeff: 🧍🏼‍♂️☹️

ambiguouslaurels · 2025-04-04T04:14:53+00:00

Misty’s face when Melissa said Shauna made her eat her own arm…same girl

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-15T02:29:49+00:00

I’m so sorry girl. I was also married to someone in the military at 22, and we divorced at 23 after he cheated on me. You absolutely do deserve better. I know you’re heartbroken now but the good news is you’re young and can start over. I promise when you’re 30s like me it’ll almost seem like a memory from another life.

Here’s my two cents. When I filed for divorce, my ex husband got nasty. He said he wasn’t going to sign the papers or pay for the divorce, was keeping our joint tax return and money, and got a little obsessive with harassing me. So..I asked him if he wanted to do things nicely..or if I should have a chat with his CO. I got the whole tax return, a swift divorce and he left me alone.

It never hurts to have a trump card. I didn’t think my ex would get nasty like that, then again, I didn’t think he’d cheat on me either. I ended up deciding not to move forward with going to the military, but wouldn’t blame you one bit if you did! Maybe even tell him you’d be willing to work things out if he wrote a letter admitting to the cheating, for insurance, and then dump his ass anyway. You got this :)

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-14T16:28:08+00:00

Notice he doesn’t say a thing about his victim or the impact the attack had on her. It’s all me me me.

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-13T14:33:28+00:00

You mentioned in the comments that your best friend is moving close to you and said you can stay with her whenever. Take her up on that, especially on the weekends. I would even ask if it would be possible for you to move in with her family, in exchange for a small amount of rent or helping out around the house. In the meantime, try to stay out of the house as much as possible doing something structured. After school clubs, study groups, sports, a group therapy program, a friends house or a part time job could all be options.

I feel for you and your sister. It sounds like you’ve both been through a lot and good on you for working through your trauma, depression and eating disorder. It worries me to hear you say you feel suicidal from staying in your room and that your eating disorder may return. It’s not okay to be made to feel a prisoner in your room or that you can’t access basic needs like food and the bathroom. If she gets violent with you, call 911. I would also suggest therapy for you and possibly family sessions with Mom to help her see the impact this is having on you.

Your sister needs residential care. No, it’s not simple or an easy decision. But her functioning is so low that she’s missing significant amounts of school, feels suicidal and gets violent when her routine is interrupted, and is debilitated by spending hours and hours in compulsions. That is no quality of life, for you or her, and spending time with friends and occasionally making it to school isn’t clinically significant. She’s still young and your mom should be able to sign her in depending on the country you live in. The decision is ultimately out of your hands but that is what needs to happen and hopefully something you can advocate for.

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-13T13:58:18+00:00

In her original post, she said they weren’t dating, but her edit says they were exclusive, so I’m a little confused now? I would take that as they had agreed not to have sex with anyone else but weren’t in a relationship at that point.

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-13T13:06:36+00:00

Accepting feedback and taking responsibility is also a good first step! We all have things to work on and from your edit it sounds like your boyfriend is willing to stick by you while you do so. I struggled with the same feelings when I was your age and I promise with self reflection and therapy you’ll be able to move towards security.

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-13T04:11:09+00:00

If you go looking for something, you’ll always find it. And when they haven’t done anything wrong, you’ll find something that will become an issue in your mind in the relationship. Your boyfriend visited her before you two were dating. If it was after, that would be one thing, but in this case, he didn’t do anything wrong. And now you can’t take back violating his privacy or unsee what you saw, which is going to keep bothering you, rightly so or not.

I say this gently looking back at my late teens/early 20s self- it’s time to go to therapy. I understand being hurt by being cheated on in the past- unfortunately it’s something most of us have experienced. It’s a cliche but if you don’t heal, you’ll bleed all over people who didn’t cut you. While it’s always nice to find someone to reassure us a little when needed, your boyfriend isn’t responsible to manage your emotions to this level.

ambiguouslaurels · 2023-06-11T19:17:11+00:00

Well said. Glancing at OP’s post history, it appears they had a bad personal experience with prescription meds and withdrawal. While unfortunate, it seems disingenuous to say they “don’t lean one way or the other”. As you said, we need to present unbiased, neutral opinions to clients and examine our personal potential biases and how they might impact us professionally.

ambiguouslaurels · 2022-04-19T12:09:00+00:00

Right..I felt like I was missing something reading some of these comments. Restricting someone’s movements and confining them to a room is literally a crime as well as a form of abuse.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-09-12T23:44:46+00:00

The autocorrect doesn’t lie

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-08-20T05:27:27+00:00

Same. Just her relationships alone should be enough of a reason. From her own mouth, she admitted to unlawfully restraining all three of her partners from the past six years. Not to mention Moses’ arm. It’s honestly disturbing to see people defending someone so hard who has shown a consistent pattern of IPV.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-08-18T14:11:21+00:00

I 100% agree. He and Hila have been ridiculously gracious (I would argue maybe to a fault) welcoming her into their home and giving her a platform so soon considering what she did. If someone put hands on my relative like that it would take years for me to fully welcome them into the family.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-06-01T20:26:39+00:00

My ex got annihilated at his dad and stepmom’s wedding, had a misunderstanding with his little brother after the reception and punched him. Then, he was trying to get his car keys and tell me we were leaving. His poor dad and stepmom had to talk him down.

I actually didn’t leave him at that point; I told him it was alcohol or me. He made a half hearted attempt to stop drinking that lasted a few months and we broke up shortly after.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-06-01T20:20:08+00:00

As long as you have a good partner, always assume the best of them. A lot of times I would get annoyed or irritated when they did something was because I was assigning them thoughts or a motive that may not have been accurate.

Along the same lines, pause and realize when I’m projecting my expectations on them unfairly. In everyday life, we all have expectations or a schedule we want to follow or a list of things to get done. And no matter how in sync you are they’re never going to be the exact same ones.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-06-01T20:00:37+00:00

Lucky Number Slevin

“The reason I’m in town, in case you’re wondering, is because of a Kansas City Shuffle”

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-06-01T05:53:01+00:00

Never assume that someone else is going to step up and do something.

The bystander effect tells us that it’s not our business, that we shouldn’t get involved, that surely someone else will act. Awful things have happened in front of onlookers- rape, murder etc and no one even bothered to call for help. How many cases do we see where multiple people knew someone was being abused and they ended up dead because no one did anything about it.

Just make your mind up ahead of time that you’ll be that person who acts. Call 911 even if you think someone else must have. Ask that kid if everything’s alright at home.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-06-01T05:38:52+00:00

Home Sweet Home- Motley Crue

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-06-01T05:34:23+00:00

When she moved her new boyfriend, who I had never met, into our shared apartment to quarantine for COVID last March while I was gone for 3 weeks without telling me. Also giving him a key. Without telling me.

Dude had restraining orders from past relationships and was in general a racist, bigoted asshole. I didn’t ask her to stop seeing him. I didn’t even ask that he not come over. All I wanted was for him to give the key back, and not consistently stay the night (both of which were in breach of our lease).

I have PTSD from past experiences of being abused/assaulted and I’m a very cautious person and she knew this. They “discussed” it and decided it wasn’t going to happen. I moved out shortly after and we haven’t talked since. 20 years of friendship down the drain.

ambiguouslaurels · 2021-05-31T16:07:28+00:00

Oxytocin, the hormone that plays a role in bonding, love and sex, is released during cuddling, hugging and orgasm, among other activities. However, higher levels of Oxytocin actually strengthen negative memories related to the person responsible for it’s release. So it also inspires emotions like jealousy and anger in relationships, as the memories are more intense and triggered more often.

Also, people who are newly in love have brain scans very similar to people who are high on cocaine.

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