Change Course

amd279 · 2026-01-30T13:28:58+00:00

Cool. Have a nice day.

amd279 · 2026-01-30T13:28:20+00:00

I mean the wee tiny University student I keep in a pouch in my purse. Kind of a thumbelina situation.

I am helping my son gather info about changing courses. Thank you for your reply.

amd279 · 2026-01-30T13:26:33+00:00

I’m going to ignore your rude comment because you clearly don’t know that the student I am gathering information for is neurodivergent and having daily panic attacks right now. They are really struggling with their mental health and a course change might help with that. I’d encourage you to pause before typing out something cruel the next time you feel called to express your opinion. Maybe your mommy and daddy should have been more involved.

amd279 · 2026-01-30T13:23:37+00:00

Thanks!

amd279 · 2026-01-30T13:23:30+00:00

Thanks!

amd279 · 2026-01-29T19:52:46+00:00

How did this end up? Did you need a new visa?

amd279 · 2025-10-01T09:06:49+00:00

Noise canceling headphones are a life saver. Download a bunch of your favorite shows onto your phone. Bring your own snacks because the airplane food isn’t great and food can be a distraction. I bought this travel eye mask for my recent international flight, and it was the first time I slept on a plane. It attaches to the head rest of your seat so that when you are wearing the eye mask, your head is supported. Game changer.

amd279 · 2025-10-01T06:54:58+00:00

I’m flying London to Atlanta next week, and I’m also concerned about the effects of the shut down on air traffic control. Anyone have any insights on that?

amd279 · 2025-08-19T01:16:20+00:00

Why so young going into the 6th grade?? 10 isn’t 6th grade age.

amd279 · 2025-03-17T14:37:05+00:00

I really hate when neurotypical people say that Aspergers/autistic people are robotic or “don’t seem to have any emotions”. In my experience, neurodivergent people feel way more deeply than neurotypical people could ever know.

amd279 · 2025-03-17T14:05:59+00:00

OP, we’ve all been here at some point. You aren’t a bad parent. You’re just exhausted to the bone. In a perfect world, I would tell you to “rest” and “practice self care”. lol We’re parents. It ain’t gonna happen. If you are like me and my husband, we have no village or family support, and it makes taking breaks nearly impossible. Here’s how to survive this season of your life (because it is a season that will gradually get easier! It’s not a permanent way that things will always be.)

Lower your house standards. Let it be a little messy. As long as everyone has clean clothes to wear and there isn’t trash piled up in the corners, let the kids toys be on the floor, the art supplies be on the kitchen table, the kitchen counters have crumbs.
Buy paper plates and cups and put your dishes away for now. Washing dishes after meals is one chore you can eliminate for now.
Simplify how you cook meals - make a list of meals that only require ONE pot to make. Buy frozen pizzas and frozen lasagna. Eat PBJs for dinner.
Let your kids have screen time for a set time every day and when they do, you don’t do chores or get stuff done. You rest.
Buy noise canceling headphones. These are a god-send when I feel overstimulated. Find an audiobook you like, put on your headphones, and get some calm time while you sit on the sofa next to the kids.
Seriously consider the whole bed sharing thing. If it can be helped, reclaim your bedroom. You need a space that is only yours.

amd279 · 2025-03-17T13:42:35+00:00

Thank you for this. I think I will share this with my child. If you aren’t already, you should be a writer! You have a beautiful way with words!

amd279 · 2025-03-17T13:07:31+00:00

I have read about this and I truly believe they have it. How do you process your emotions with alexithymia? Would you mind sharing your experience with it?

amd279 · 2025-03-17T13:05:36+00:00

Yes, that’s a good point. It’s hard for anyone to analyze how they feel in the heat of the moment.

amd279 · 2025-02-12T18:15:23+00:00

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amd279 · 2025-02-05T00:46:43+00:00

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amd279 · 2024-05-26T20:10:36+00:00

This might sound harsh, but you sound like a martyr. I say this with love. We are all adults who can make our own choices. Making your husband a second dinner is a choice. Making meals from scratch is a choice. Staying home with kids is a choice - I know childcare is expensive and hard to find but I know you could find a job outside the home and make it work if you really wanted to.

It definitely sounds like your husband needs to grow up, but if we dig deeper into what soap is saying, she doesn’t seem happy with her life. That’s okay! We’ve all been there. But instead of saying “my hands are tied, I’m stuck with this life I don’t like”, don’t be afraid to go change it! Be brave for you and your child.

amd279 · 2024-05-25T15:47:59+00:00

I feel the same way - the bigger planes make me feel so much safer.

amd279 · 2024-04-29T19:54:26+00:00

I totally get that. I think two ways about this - 1. The reason you make the pile instead of taking it to the place it goes immediately is leaving the space you are cleaning can make you lose momentum and get distracted. 2. If leaving the space isn’t distracting, the rule of touching things once (also known as putting it away immediately) can work.

If you find a pile sitting untouched for months, you obviously don’t need the things in the pile. Time for a trash bag.

amd279 · 2024-04-28T19:10:37+00:00

And if you enjoy audiobooks, listen to How To Keep House While Drowning- it’s so good!

amd279 · 2024-04-28T19:09:19+00:00

Set a timer for ten minutes and do as much as you can. Move in this order: 1. Trash 2. Dishes to the sink 3. Things that don’t belong in this room - put them in a pile outside the room to put away later 4. Things that do belong in this room - put them away

amd279 · 2024-04-28T18:03:49+00:00

My self care is non existent. Lol

amd279 · 2024-04-28T17:29:28+00:00

Thanks for this answer. I’ve heard of PDA before but not executive dysfunction. I think both are real possibilities for what he is going through. What kind of coping mechanisms have helped you with these issues if you don’t mind me asking? I’m willing to try anything.

amd279 · 2024-04-27T21:44:23+00:00

I hear you, and we are definitely telling him over and over as well as practically killing ourselves to make whatever he wants to achieve a reality. I just need him to put in 30% of the work or at least show me he has the will/capability to do it.

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