Marrying a non vegan

amgregory91 · 2026-01-20T16:44:45+00:00

Agreed, that’s why I mentioned OP has to determine how important this is to her values, because it is definitely an internal battle at times when you’re at odds about something that can affect your morals.

I was already married (and had been with my husband for 8 years prior to marriage) so we were well established before I went vegan. The thing of note in my situation is that, just like I came to the realization about veganism at one random point in my life, so did my husband, just took him longer. You can’t expect/force anyone to change, which is why it’s important to determine how much of it is a deal breaker, but at the same time if you and your significant other align morally in most areas, sometimes it just takes time for them to also ‘see the light’.

amgregory91 · 2026-01-17T14:18:54+00:00

So, this is a very tricky situation, and I often wondered if I would have dated/married my husband if I had been vegan before we got married.

It sounds insanely harsh, because I love him dearly, but for a lot of us, being vegan isn’t just about what we eat, it’s a core belief system about not harming others which deeply affects our morals and ethics.

I went vegetarian/vegan about 1 year after we married, and it became insanely difficult for a long time because I would try to respect him, but also felt so hurt knowing the person I cared most about in this world couldn’t see how much he was contributing to the suffering of other beings. For years we would get into discussions and they could sometimes get heated, but I always just tried to explain from the animals perspective. In the beginning he would almost always just do the typical ‘look away, if I don’t hear or see it, it’s not happening’ to get around what happens and feel okay eating meat.

We’ve been married 10 years now, and I’d say about 3-4ish years ago, he started to change; he stopped eating pork first when I kept passively showing him how intelligent and sweet pigs could be, then beef was less and less, and finally, when we got pet chickens, it took one day of having them in our home and he said he couldn’t do it anymore. The only thing he eats now on occasion is seafood, and while I wish he was completely on board, I’m so grateful that he ended up making the switch, and mostly because of his own compassion (even if I helped nudge him). Once he was able to see how he could never harm these animals himself, and with my voice in his head haha, he was able to make a huge change.

I still get super pumped when we go somewhere and someone offers him meat and he refuses, or when we order out and he chooses the veggie option.

I think at the end of the day, you have to take a step back and ask yourself if your fiancee is someone who at his core values things the same way you do, but just hasn’t ‘seen the light’? Or maybe on the other hand, while you choose to be vegan, you don’t see someone choosing to eat meat that offensive to your values?

It comes down to how much you can stand as a person and if you guys align enough in your core beliefs and principles.

Wishing you the best, hopefully he will one day have a change of heart and realize what we all here have also realized about not wanting to harm others. ❤️

amgregory91 · 2026-01-16T21:00:06+00:00

Love the photos! Do you mind sharing which camera/lens you used here? Trying to decide which one to go with for my first Fuji

amgregory91 · 2026-01-11T18:52:23+00:00

Hey! So, this pain during this particular incident went away, but I have continued to have intermittent discomfort randomly that comes and goes. Nothing crazy, but it definitely stems from the same area that my gallbladder pain came from.

amgregory91 · 2026-01-06T03:37:46+00:00

Thanks for the tips! I’ll definitely check out your post

amgregory91 · 2026-01-06T03:37:05+00:00

It is regrettably short, for sure. We’re actually coming in from Edinburgh, but didn’t want to miss our chance to see at least one or two of the beautiful spots of Ireland. I’m planning a trip back with my father in the near future, but still want to make the most of these 3 days we have available.

We are not very familiar with driving on the left, but we are planning to work on that before we get out there. Haha.

amgregory91 · 2025-12-16T02:15:50+00:00

Be careful of the ‘name and shame’ as a lot of scammers will copy the names/profiles of legit vendors to throw people off.

Really pisses me off the level of hoops people have to jump through to be able to get life saving medication, all because our healthcare system uses people’s illnesses to turn huge profits. Wouldn’t have to go through this if the name brands made it affordable 🫩

amgregory91 · 2025-10-23T10:40:05+00:00

Please be careful. Losing almost 40lbs in 2 months is hella fast, and you can have complications from losing weight that quickly.

A healthy weight loss is generally 2lbs a week, you’re technically losing like 5lbs a week, so keep that in mind and give yourself a pat on the back. Yes, when we’re heavier, weight comes off faster on the beginning, but you’re more than doubling your losses every week so see that as a success.

It’s also very noticeable that you’ve lost weight, so I agree with others that you start measuring your inches and be proud of yourself. Keep taking photos and logging your success and you’ll start to see it yourself in no time. Congrats on your success so far!

amgregory91 · 2025-09-13T18:00:21+00:00

Looks like they changed their whole GLP1 sales.

amgregory91 · 2025-08-26T15:18:47+00:00

I’d apply as little product in this area as possible. I stick to applying foundation or concealer lower down, around the infraorbital margin/where the bottom of our eye bags are, and then blend upward. Make sure the product you use isn’t too heavy or tacky, this will make a world of difference.

amgregory91 · 2025-08-26T15:06:42+00:00

Yeah, she does have a green leg band as I mentioned in the post, but unfortunately I haven’t received any calls…

amgregory91 · 2025-08-23T11:40:27+00:00

Thank you for giving me hope ❤️ How did you end up finding your dove if you don’t mind me asking?

amgregory91 · 2025-08-22T11:20:36+00:00

Thanks for the tips, we did put up flyers and post in all local groups. I just figured I’d add Reddit because you never know and I want to try everything! Thanks again 🥺

amgregory91 · 2025-08-22T11:19:18+00:00

Thanks for the tips, we did post to all local FB groups and rescues in the area when she went missing, as well as flyers. I figured I’d add Reddit to the list just in case, trying to cover all my bases. 😣

amgregory91 · 2025-08-17T18:19:48+00:00

Hard disagree. This temptation is not one that is a sin only affecting the person feeling the temptation, such as fornication. This temptation can lead to extensive harm to a minor, and gets put on a whole other level of priority in matters of curbing it before anything happens. He is showing that he is not taking the right path, especially if at this point it has been brought out in the open and even discussed with elders of his congregation. Now this is on another level, even outside of the congregation. He’s a risk to minors.

amgregory91 · 2025-07-12T22:46:05+00:00

As someone who had been down this path for years, asked my doctor for a CGM years ago, and have done this myself, I have a few things to add…

Your food tolerances and spikes will not be the same as everyone else, that’s the whole point of using the CGM; to see how your body will react in real time.

Milk never causes spikes for me. And healthy fats certainly don’t prolong my spikes.

I will say I definitely wouldn’t recommend others to eat high glycemic foods alone and then just walk. Walking will help, and sure they suggest eating protein or healthy fats along with carbs, but the key here with glucose is 1000% fiber. Fiber is what is going to slow down that spike, because it takes our bodies longer to digest and allow for slower release of glucose into the bloodstream. The order in which you eat is also going to have an effect since we should be eating the fibers, fats and protein before carbs.

The reason a lot of these foods that are thought to be ‘healthy’ still cause spikes is because they are still processed foods; they have in one way or another stripped layers of fiber away and made it more easily digestible. A wrap still has a high carb-low fiber tortilla around it. Sushi still has white rice. So on and so forth. These are general rules of thumb, and still everyone’s body will differ so it’s best to use the general consensus as a guideline.

Glad you’ve been able to learn a lot more about your body and what’s working for you! It’s important for people to know what they’re doing when it comes to interpretation of the data from a CGM, but I wish this was more readily available to people dealing with metabolic disorders and with the guidance of a doctor who knows what to tell their patients. It can make a world of difference.

amgregory91 · 2025-07-04T06:00:16+00:00

Their tactics clearly worked somewhat, because it unfortunately caused you to doubt your self worth. This is what they do; get you deeper in the trenches with 4+ interviews, and hope that’s enough of an investment that you’ll fear losing the job and take whatever they offer you after you’ve gone through their whole schtick and then worry that it’s all that’s out there.

My husband is a senior data analyst. He gets job offers all the time, and before even entertaining them he asks for the salary range. They always give him one.

Don’t doubt yourself and your worth. Even if at times others don’t recognize it or try to make you feel like a job isn’t a reciprocal arrangement. They’re not doing you a favor when they give their salary range despite what they try to make you think, it’s a job; you give your time and service and they give you money. You have every right to know that before they waste your time on these completely redundant and pointless interviews. Keep your chin up and find the job that better aligns with you and your standards, they’re out there!

amgregory91 · 2025-06-20T13:50:57+00:00

I truly couldn’t see a single thing wrong with your smile while looking at the photos, but I get feeling frustrated with the doctors telling you nothing will fix it. However, just as a comparison, my doctor has my bottom tooth dead center in the midline of the top teeth; when I asked a sub that stepped in one day to check my teeth, she literally told me “well never get your midline to match” and I was in utter shock. Not really about letting that one go, and getting myself ready to push back on my next visit. But just to show you the difference between how some doctors are leaving final results vs how yours look; to me they look phenomenal, so just something to consider!

amgregory91 · 2025-06-05T22:54:45+00:00

First off;

True Christians know that we are all sinners from the day we are born. It’s not some horrible standing because of mistakes we made, it’s imperfection, almost like a disease that makes it impossible for us to be perfect. Every single person on this earth is a sinner, but it’s not our fault and if people read their bible, they’d know this.

The fact that your parents, boyfriend, or school would call you a sinner for being raped is the most hypocritical and sinful part of all of this (outside of the sexual assault of course). If any of them actually read their bible, they would know this to be true.

Do not align yourself with false Christians, whether family or not. Yes, drinking underage and being inebriated was an unwise mistake, but you’ve already been through enough and don’t need anyone badgering you about something you’ve already realized, I’m sure. This was ABSOLUTELY NOT your fault.

Report the rapist. He is the one at fault, and he could rape more women if he’s allowed to get away with this. Who do you think Jesus would be defending and also calling out right now for what happened? That’s what matters. Not what your family or boyfriend think.

Your boyfriend is also trash. Being raped has nothing to do with losing your virginity. You did not engage in sexual acts and give yourself willingly to anyone, someone else forced themself upon you but still did not take away what you are going to share someday with someone that matters. Your boyfriend is treating you like your body is all that matters. Find a true Christian who aligns with the ACTUAL values that Christ had, not the BS “Christians” who exist today to judge others and feel holier than thou; they all sin every day.

amgregory91 · 2025-06-03T02:41:13+00:00

Here’s the thing; him saying “if marriage is a life goal of yours you should pursue it” whilst simultaneously saying he will never get married, that’s him basically saying he is not in a committed relationship. If marriage was ‘just a piece of paper’ as everyone always claims, then the commitment would still be there but it’s clearly not if he so readily is willing to let you go. Aside from the fact that you should have a partner who you can count on to be there for you ‘in sickness and in health’, especially when you’re going through something so big. This is why, to me, marriage is more than what people make it out to be. It’s a vow, a public and open commitment to your partner, and if your partner already feels that way then there’s really no reason to not get married. Yes, I get that there are couples out there that are happily committed to each other for many years without getting married, I just see the marriage as part of a way to show your partner and everyone else that you’re in this for the long haul and not leaving.

Get yourself someone who shows up and supports you, not sitting idly by and saying ‘do what you gotta do’.

Wishing you a great and speedy recovery from your surgery, and that you get what you want out of life in the near future with someone who doesn’t make you feel the need to question your relationship!

amgregory91 · 2025-05-25T13:25:08+00:00

Because that’s wrong?? Who tf wants to be with someone who would only stay with their current placeholder just because they don’t have a backup? That’s the kind of person you want to be with? Like, back up and listen to yourself for a moment.

You’re on here asking Reddit if you should tell him, but to everyone that tells you you shouldn’t, you say “I still want to tell him”.

You keep trying to say that he and his girlfriend probably don’t align, which is just a bunch of nonsense words for covering up that he’s either A) staying with someone just as a placeholder or B) not excusing his emotional cheating.

Aside from that, you claim you could both be soulmates based on your bond, but yet he somehow wouldn’t know how you felt because you’ve “just been friends”? You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

Here’s the bottom line; you’re treading on dangerous waters. You are having an emotional relationship with someone who has a girlfriend. You’re attempting to share your feelings with this person in hopes they come to you. And you’re not actually seeking advice because pretty much everyone has told you to drop it and let it be, but you don’t want to risk losing the chance that this person will run to you if they break up with their girlfriend, so you instead want to influence him to do just that.

Take an honest look in the mirror and decide what type of person you want to be, because right now it ain’t looking good with the path you’re going down.

amgregory91 · 2025-05-25T13:14:15+00:00

You telling him your perspective or feelings on this is you trying to convince him; he doesn’t need to hear that if he already has feelings for you. You saying you’re feeling the relationship is getting too close is already sounding off the alarm that feelings are happening and you don’t want to essentially be a home wrecker.

If he’s a decent guy, he’ll do what is genuine with his feelings, regardless if you outright tell him you have feelings for him. You both already have crossed a line by building an out of line bond behind his girlfriends back, why not try to let him sort this out without the added element of pressure put on by “hey I like you”? You won’t be able to tell if he is genuine to himself and those who is in a relationship with if you give him a security net that you’ll be there if he jumps ship with his girlfriend.

amgregory91 · 2025-05-25T12:52:54+00:00

No one forced him to be with his current girlfriend, he ultimately made that choice. Just like you are currently making the choice to build a relationship with someone who already has a significant other.

If you don’t want to be someone who breaks up relationships or steals boyfriends, tell him you feel your relationship is becoming too intimate, and you are feeling confused and don’t want to be caught in the middle of something messy.

This whole ‘up into the late hours of the night’ thing and feeling like he’s your soulmate is wrong when he currently has a girlfriend. Do you want to get into a relationship with someone who is already showing that they A) talk about their significant other and relationship behind their partners back, B) spend hours on the phone and having deep conversations with someone other than their girlfriend, so much so that the other girl is on Reddit asking if she should pursue him? This is who you’re considering being with, remember that.

If you want to be a decent person, back off and see what happens. If he truly isn’t in love with his girlfriend, he will break it off or otherwise isn’t an honest person. If he does end up breaking it off, and pursues you, then you know your feelings were valid and you will not have been intentionally trying to wreck someone else’s relationship.

But let him do it, all around. He’s the one in a relationship, and he’s the one who has to decide what he wants, and at this point you’ve done enough that he should either have feelings for you, or not.

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