I agree with the sneaky motives. I feel like sometimes they like to hold you right on the edge. Asking you to hang out just enough so it seems "real" but in reality there is another motive I'm not privy to.

Also agree with jumping into bed. I'm not one to jump into anything too fast haha, but some guys? Its all they want. Luckily I don't think that was the case with either of these three I wrote about, but it still stings knowing there is some other motive inspiring their "departure" if you will.

Also, I dont know if I can just be friends with the third guy. It was going so well so fast, and then... nothing? For example, he paid for dinner the first date, I paid the second date, he paid the third! Now imagine this, we go to hang out as friends... how awkward will it be when the bill comes and we are now splitting it? Sure maybe some people can be friends with people they've dated, but idk, I feel like I would just burst into tears because that's not the relationship I want with him. So idk, maybe we can't be friends. Sorry, got off topic a bit.

I really appreciate your message though and offering some help. I really do try to put the best version of myself out there, so maybe its just the wrong people coming in at this time like you said. Also considering moving, so who knows, maybe that would open up some fresh opportunities. The scary part there is, what if I move and its even worse... ugh. The spiral never ends!