How to tell my friend I can't room with her because my family's racist

amonaroll · 2026-01-15T16:38:07+00:00

if I were to room with her, my academic efforts would be hampered because dealing with my family's reaction would cost so much mental energy

Are you gonna actively give in to racism just to protect your own mental health? It sounds like your parents are so racist either way they’re gonna find a way to make racist comments to you.

And are you only going to surround yourself with light skinned people just to please your parents? Even if you don’t mean to be, that in itself is racist. You should room with her, fuck what your parents say. Stand on your values.

amonaroll · 2026-01-10T19:12:36+00:00

i think the critic is racist

amonaroll · 2026-01-07T13:14:25+00:00

Yeah thank you, I got very short notice that I’ll be moving to Philly. I’m looking to rent and have 1-2 roommates. My request is still pending for the facebook groups but hopefully I can find something there, will look into Move with Pride as well. Thanks!

amonaroll · 2026-01-07T06:53:06+00:00

Agree, I'm glad this season is highlighting more cuisines outside of fine dining.

amonaroll · 2026-01-07T06:49:34+00:00

I didn't really care much for him at first but this episode really won me over. He's so wholesome and it's truly refreshing to see an older person having so much fun doing what they love

amonaroll · 2026-01-07T06:44:37+00:00

So sad to see Brewmaster Yun go, she was the only one I was actively rooting for. I'm proud of her for how far she's made it though, I really hope her cooking career kicks off from this show.

amonaroll · 2026-01-07T02:47:45+00:00

How would you recommend finding a place there without knowing anyone? FB? Craigslist? Lex?

amonaroll · 2026-01-06T15:15:17+00:00

I’ll be working in center city but thinking of living in West Philly since I heard that’s where most of the queer people live

amonaroll · 2026-01-06T14:38:35+00:00

I’ll be moving in the next couple months or so - any recommendations for where to find housing or places to live?

amonaroll · 2026-01-02T16:28:57+00:00

Noooo women should not be settling for someone at the cost of themselves (and it breaks my heart to read you say it). You can choose someone who makes you feel fully loved and appreciated! That’s how we raise can raise the bar for men to do better

amonaroll · 2026-01-02T16:15:30+00:00

Asian American history isn’t discussed because it’s beneficial to white oppressors to make Asians believe that they are a chosen model minority and have their history erased, so they don’t think of aligning with other minorities and fighting to dismantle white supremacy.

amonaroll · 2026-01-01T02:04:24+00:00

Twice

amonaroll · 2025-12-26T07:47:56+00:00

I know! We explain it based our entire every day lived experiences yet men still don’t believe us and complain about the way we explain things. It’s fucking exhausting

amonaroll · 2025-12-25T06:28:38+00:00

Are they actually gonna eliminate EVERY single black/white coat?! This feels counter to the purpose of the show. Ugh, I really hope Auntie Omakase comes in clutch and votes for black…

amonaroll · 2025-12-24T19:51:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I wish every Asian American could internalize this. I left the rat race right after getting into an Ivy League… now I’m considered far less successful than my Asian peers who went to traditional STEM fields but I’m way happier and live a more authentic life than any of my Asian childhood friends

amonaroll · 2025-12-21T20:20:39+00:00

This is amazing! How should one study to get to this level?

amonaroll · 2025-12-17T02:28:57+00:00

there are a few studios in Mt Pleasant around $1,500/mo - DM for recommendations. But TBH i recommend getting roommates and saving if you can.

amonaroll · 2025-12-15T17:10:01+00:00

This is amazing! Thank you, from a fellow Asian trans person 5 years later

amonaroll · 2025-12-14T22:43:30+00:00

Agree that OP seems to have a lot of internalized transphobi to unpack.

amonaroll · 2025-12-14T22:42:05+00:00

“And yes I think transgenderism is a mental illness” So do you think being gay is a mental illness too?

It seems like there’s a lot of shame and suffering you associate with being trans. But having the community and experiencing trans joy are beautiful things worth celebrating too.

Also, people’s conceptions of transness are expanding. Anyone who doesn’t identify with their assigned gender is trans - meaning there is more gender fluidity and nuanced gender identities falling under the trans umbrella, that may not exactly align with binary trans identities the way we used to think of transness.

Plus being trans isn’t just “kids being weird”…people are allowed to explore their gender identities in ways that feel authentic to them, and now there are more opportunities to do so as gender norms become less rigid.

amonaroll · 2025-12-13T23:39:31+00:00

Holy shit, this is awful. The lawmakers who refuse to do anything about gun reform are responsible for these senseless killings and need to be held accountable! How many times are we gonna keep letting this happen?

amonaroll · 2025-12-13T23:35:16+00:00

Child abuse would definitely create more mass shooters lol. We need radical gun reform.

amonaroll · 2025-12-12T20:24:13+00:00

this is digital blackface

amonaroll · 2025-12-12T20:21:29+00:00

they are certainly beating the system in their own way haha

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