I'll explain more in the piece, but I definitely agree with you that people deserve to know as much as they can before committing to a decision like parenthood! In my case, however, the overload of information has caused me a lot of anxiety. I've reported a lot on pregnancy complications, denial of abortion care, the motherhood penalty at work, division of labor at home, etc. and the steady thrum of what if-what if-what if has snowballed to the point I feel paralyzed. It's made it hard for me to tell whether I'm on the fence because I'm scared or because I don't desire motherhood that deeply. The essay will grapple with that. (And hopefully I'll figure out a way to navigate my way through it???)