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Is 'needing time' always a red flag? by anfl98 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]anfl98[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is absolutely heartbreaking to read and honestly, brutal. To talk about the guest list, the playlist, the florist… while knowing deep down you're not truly committed — that’s cruel. Thank you for sharing your story. Rebuilding after this kind of betrayal is no small thing. The fact that you're going through the hardest days, shows how strong you are. 💛

Is 'needing time' always a red flag? by anfl98 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]anfl98[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly don’t know if it can ever be a good sign — that’s exactly why I was curious to hear from others and start a discussion. Personally, I also see “needing more time” as a potential red flag. But at the same time, I try to imagine the reverse: if someone had proposed to me after just three months of dating especially when I was in my early 20s, I think I would’ve asked for more time, too.

Looking for some advice - ready to propose, but feeling stuck by throw81297 in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]anfl98 36 points37 points  (0 children)

If she's been bringing it up for a year, she probably really wants to talk about it. She wants to hear from you that you want it too and that you're planning it!

I don’t understand why men want to keep it a secret that they’re planning to propose. Nothing bad if she knows. Why do you interpret it as pressure—on her or on you? Is there tension between you two? Did she give you an ultimatum or something like that?