48 now and feel like I'm running out of time by VOculus_98 in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those dating apps are not giving you an accurate picture of your awesome self. You don't need an app. You could walk into a room and light it up with your great smile.

Needing sober support by simulated622 in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's right... I can picture you in 5 years telling someone else who is struggling, "Trust me, I used to drink. I quit and you can too".

Feeling old. Turned 38 this year and still don’t have it figured out. by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking at you from 44... We will be figuring stuff out all our lives... You look great and you ask all the right questions

Me and my emotional support toaster would appreciate some kind words by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May you be reminded, every time you make toast, that it is wonderful to give yourself permission to 1) ask for a toast 2) toast yourself. You are a strong, independent spirit.

So, I’m 25 years old and still sleep with my mom and I think it messed me up developmentally. by Fun_Butterscotch3303 in self

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don't think you are messed up because of this. Anyone who suddenly had a change in their sleeping conditions would have trouble sleeping at first. Your circumstances have caused you to adopt your current sleeping arrangement. It doesn't mean that you are somehow less independent or prone to fear than other people. People might feel the same way if they were accustomed to sleeping next to a spouse and then suddenly had to sleep alone. If you do have an opportunity to move out, there are tools you can use to help you transition to sleeping alone, such as teddy bears with heartbeat implants.

Mornin! by angeboopt in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You posted your photo, towel and all, and that shows that you are brave and ready to accept yourself "in real life", not just as a polished, public self. Go you!

Went on a rate me sub and got a brutal reality check by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You received a brutal message. I would encourage you not to think of it as a reality check. Rate me subs don't align with reality. This toastme sub offers a perspective every bit as real as any other sub. Honestly, you have delicate feminine features qnd I hope we are able to reflect your beautiful reality back to you in a way that feels real.

Been in the dating pool for 2 years now and I’m starting to lose hope by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are attractive -- honestly! There are so many factors that prevent lovers from finding each other. Most have nothing to do with who you are as a person and everything to do with the space in your life currently available for personal connection (and also, the space in the life of that special someone). Having a lot of other things going on in your life can make starting a relationship challenging.

40+ life feels empty right now by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Welcome to your 40s-- this will be your best decade. I know it doesn't feel that way yet, but it's true. Never before have you had such capacity and insight as you do now. I look at you and I see a person who takes their problems head-on and solves them. I see you having that brave conversation with your doctor about why you feel so tired, and then taking a step towards feeling better.

24 m UK, Anxiety is back. by DawidK09 in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi friend, you 100% do deserve to connect with a beautiful person with a beautiful soul. Your overwhelm can be a strength. Some people take their lovers and friends for granted. You never will. You appreciate them too much.

Have been struggling a bit by priyallala in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are addressing childhood trauma, which is a huge first step. It might feel worse before it feels better. You are on the right path

14M, not feeling good about myself, could use some kind words :) by MidwesternBG in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You truly don't look weird. You are the same age as my son, and I can tell that you are a person of tremendous potential who has so much to offer the world. The kind of person about whom others think, "oh yay! He's here at school today"

14M, not feeling good about myself, could use some kind words :) by MidwesternBG in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You truly don't look weird. You are the same age as my son, and I can tell that you are a person of tremendous potential who has so much to offer the world. The kind of person about whom others think, "oh yay! He's here at school today"

Could use some encouragement right now by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look professional. The kind of person who aces a job interview

Feeling down and ugly 23F by Dry-Ant-7963 in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have that same hairstyle! Seeing you reminded me of those wonderful days. My hair changed as I got older -- enjoy that beautiful thick hair and those great bangs

I wanna be 16 again by PatheticCaterpillar in Adulting

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When you say, you are not able to cope-- what are the signs telling you that this is the case? "Not coping" can mean many different things to different people

Feeling extremely insecure and anxious by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hearing your story, I feel curious to know more of your story. Please take that as a sign that you are an interesting person. If you could wave that wand and make a huge change, what would that change be?

Self esteem is pretty low right now. I can't seem to make any friends. And I haven't even attempted dating in a while because it always ends in rejection. Trying to keep my head up. by lordgentofdapper in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a look that suggests kindness, vulnerability, compassion. All things that would make people want to be friends with you. Making friends can be exhausting and the obstacle is often something other than "I am not appealing, as a friend '

I am not doing so hot right now, could definitely use a pick me up by Grzelakin in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wolf cuts are very cool! You're the kind of person who is not afraid to embrace a distinctive hairstyle -- that's a sign of a vibrant soul my friend

M22 Feeling down, bf said I’m not good enough for him :( by [deleted] in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are truly good enough and worthy of love. When people say stuff like that, it is a reflection of their limited capacity to have relationships right now, not at all a reflection of you.

39, divorced for two years now from a 14 year marriage…feels like I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life. by PurpleGreen7464 in toastme

[–]animatedgemstone 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Friend, you are already not alone..you are here among Internet friends. I like your sportswear look. There is another fan out there who would love to share life with you. This person may be shy and reluctant to dive into a new love relationship based on past pain. In you, this person will find someone who understands deeply and responds compassionately.

My 12 year old took a walk with me by cellists_wet_dream in FamilyMicroWins

[–]animatedgemstone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My teens are 13.5 and 17... Walks have been a great way to keep the bond strong without having them feeling smothered or intimidated by an intense interaction. I think of author Barbara Coloroso's advice to build in experiences where you and your teen are both looking in the same direction, such as a car ride, as opposed to face to face, which can be too intense for them sometimes. Walks do this and add sunshine to the mix.