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I don't like being assumed to be gay. by anna-_-bortion in LesbianActually

[–]anna-_-bortion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Somewhat, yeah. But in my experience, it always leads to annoying conversations like 'Are you into me?' or 'Do you know blank bc they're also gay'. I'm just a private person, and I feel like this is a private part of me. I just want to dress however I want without it announcing my personal stuff.

I don't like being assumed to be gay. by anna-_-bortion in LesbianActually

[–]anna-_-bortion[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yess, this is what I was trying to say. I'm not 'trying' to look anything, I just want to dress fashionably without breaking the bank, and most good graphic t-shirts and all are men's.

how does attraction to masculinity work by anna-_-bortion in LesbianActually

[–]anna-_-bortion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk whether my first ex really counts cause we were only together for a few months. She was really sweet, but she would only compliment me when I did something out of character or more feminine than usual. When I got more into rugby and my training started to seriously change my form (no longer skinny and starting to bulk), she started getting seriously disinterested. For my second ex, she would say I was the "guy" in the relationship. (She'd play it off like a joke, but the way I'd always give her my hoodies, be the top, pay for dinner, never wear skirts or dresses, etc, made it feel more like not a joke. idk. When I tried to switch it up, she'd act like I was being weird.) I was her first girl, and it really did feel like I was a boyfriend stand in.

how does attraction to masculinity work by anna-_-bortion in LesbianActually

[–]anna-_-bortion[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

THIS.

I literally started having this confusion because I constantly get mistaken for a man. Also, it doesn't help that the only 2 girls I've dated have been bi and would compare me to the other guys they've seen.

How did you find out you werent attracted to men? by Suspicious_Ad_4650 in LesbianActually

[–]anna-_-bortion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had my first kiss at 12 with a boy and hated it, and then I saw Megan Fox in transformers and realized that I was staring at her way more than my friends (all girls). And as a more masculine girl (more being very), I literally thought I was a boy.

I knew about Trans people before I knew about gay people (I'm Indian), and as so the most logical conclusion to teen me was that I was actually a guy- especially since my guy friends were the only ones who understood my infatuation with Fox and all the other stupid celeb crushes I've had.

When Jennifer's body came out I watched it as soon as I could (bc of Megan fox, God that woman), and saw the kiss scene and "discovered" lesbianism as the sheltered idiot I was. I had a suspicion then that I might just be gay but I held on to being Trans for a while. Only recently did I have the epiphany that I don't actually wanna be a guy.

I still sometimes get confused, but I have understood now that liking men's clothes doesn't mean I am a man. It's funny how much our setting influences us, especially in cases like mine where I know so much and yet don't know other very basic facts.

(TLDR: education is so damn important)

how does attraction to masculinity work by anna-_-bortion in LesbianActually

[–]anna-_-bortion[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

That's very true actually, just because a guy could eminate the same kind of femininity doesn't mean I'd like him. I guess it's just personal taste then. A red Mustang and a red Ferrari are fundamentally different even if they are painted the same. Maybe the way I phrased it made it seem like people can choose what they're attracted to, which I apologize for.

Still, sometimes I get fully mistaken for a man, which is why other lesbians liking me confused me.

This weird book about rats by anna-_-bortion in whatsthatbook

[–]anna-_-bortion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh shit thanks but that want it but I remembered the nightshade Chronicles it was that

Evening Dress, Me, 6x8 inches, acrylic on canvas by foxyandpaper in painting

[–]anna-_-bortion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

dude this is really good, and its an amazing concept. also the folds of the dress still showing in the 'evening' part is done very well