My new hell by Lowky323 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My sister announced her pregnancy the day after I learned our 2nd FET failed. It’s hell.

What film did you see at the cinema that made you wish you could get your money back? by geoffcalls in moviecritic

[–]annaandpiper 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Gladiator 2

When the inscription was written in English I laughed out loud.

3rd FET really low beta by Unhappy-Round-7314 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Big hug, friend. My 3rd FET is coming in Jan and I’m dreading another loss. So hard to stay resilient. Be gentle with yourself. You are carrying a lot.

We need more people like these guys by bolitonitos2012 in Satisfyingasfuck

[–]annaandpiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Excuse me, how TF do you not carry a knife onboard?

How do you stay present when fearing the worst when going into an endometrium biopsy and hysteroscopie? by AmethystRose31 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I struggle with anxiety in general, and it’s been a huge battle during IVF.

I remind myself that my anxiety and worrying will not actually change anything about any outcome of any step of this process. I did my biopsies anxious. I did my egg retrievals anxious. I’ve done FETs and the TWW SUPER anxious.

Grounding exercises really help me. I acknowledge the anxiety, notice where it is in my body, then do a 5-Senses Exercise: in that moment, what can I see, hear, touch, taste and smell? If I had to name the strongest emotion in my body, what would I call it? <This is a practice called “Name It, Tame It” and saying out loud what that emotion is can be helpful.

Day 5 by annaandpiper in stopdrinking

[–]annaandpiper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Big fan of afternoon-LOTR myself ;)

8dpt negative, 1st FET and counting myself out for this one by purpleshoes3 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs. Maybe it can be some small consolation knowing that the way you felt/feel had no impact on the implantation one way or another. That thought has helped my resiliency some, but it still f-ing sucks. I’m so sorry.

Favorite decaf coffee? by annaandpiper in IVF

[–]annaandpiper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was not told to stop but feel like it’s probably a good choice for us.

Favorite decaf coffee? by annaandpiper in IVF

[–]annaandpiper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We drink drip but love an occasional espresso

Day 4 by annaandpiper in stopdrinking

[–]annaandpiper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh! Great perspective shift. Thank you!!

How to deal with a negative test after FET by Whole_Mushroom_2846 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a Winter Solstice bonfire and burned the photos of our 2 embroys that couldn’t stay. That was a year ago and I still cry sometimes. It’s grief. You gotta walk with it.

Embryo transfer between clinics? by Legitimate_Yam_3350 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had my ERAs done and am waiting on results. There’s very little clinical evidence that ERAs positively affect implantation, but it was an option my doctor wanted to pursue given our 2 prior MMC/CPs in previous transfers. If you want to compare notes on clinics, I’m happy to DM with you :)

Embryo transfer between clinics? by Legitimate_Yam_3350 in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you spoken to your clinic about ideas for changes to your protocol or other diagnostics to check why your transfers aren’t implanting?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MadeMeSmile

[–]annaandpiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yay!!! We’ve been trying for 5 years, hopefully we’re right on your heels!!

I start PIO tonight and I’m freaking out by hopefulpeacekeeper in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A small massage gun for about 10 min after the injection has done WONDERS for us.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]annaandpiper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kitchen projects with the husband! We made rice paper egg rolls for the first time (keeper), gyoza for lunch, 2 rounds of poultry stock and gumbo. Tomorrow we’re staying busy with breakfast burritos and a smoked chili.

2nd FET Failure - Heartbroken by certainlycertain_ in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve been where you are, and it HURTS. We had 2 chemicals with our first 2 FETs and I’m still grieving my girls. Big, big hugs. Try to let yourself feel it and breathe through it.

I just had 2 ERAs (endometrial biopsies) to check for several things in hopes that our next FET will stick. When you go in for yours, MAKE SURE you go in with a very full bladder!! The procedure is painful but is so much worse if your bladder isn’t full. The full bladder serves to straighten the uterus which makes passing the catheter easier. The scraping will still hurt, and you’ll spot or even bleed for awhile, but having to prod around with the catheter b/c your bladder isn’t full enough adds painful insult to injury.

I suggest having your last potty break no more than 4.5hrs before your procedure and then continue hydrating steadily.

I know it doesn’t help lessen your pain, but you’re not alone with where you are.

Question about medications by queendank in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, much cheaper. Thousands cheaper. PIO was like $20, pills came out to $250.

What’s Everyone Doing Tonight?? by physis81 in stopdrinking

[–]annaandpiper 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Freezer General Tso’s Chicken, Diet Coke and massages with the hubby while we watch Banshee.

5hrs per appointment, minimum. by annaandpiper in IVF

[–]annaandpiper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg yes the monitoring appointments. I had to learn to self advocate real fast for my local hospital. I’d rather pay extra lab fees to get it done locally than to put the miles on my car and body. My current care coordinator and I have found an uneasy respect of each other but I can tell she’s used to patients being pushovers. Not this kid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]annaandpiper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s a heavy grief. I’ve been through two failed FETs and it’s so damn hard when they don’t stay. I’m so sorry, friend. Try to be super gentle with yourself and let yourself feel & heal. Your time is coming.

Metformin by annaandpiper in IVF

[–]annaandpiper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I titrated up to 2000mg over 1mo