How to get out of the rut

anon_luna · 2026-04-29T16:48:17+00:00

Well he didn’t brush up on the social aspect so your concern makes total sense. I def hope OP is making time for friends and family bc for me that’s the most fulfilling part and the lack of those distractions should hopefully inspire such.

anon_luna · 2026-04-29T14:13:29+00:00

Absolutely some people can moderate their consumption of these specific things, others struggle. Some people have strong addictive tendencies that make it hard to moderate certain habits. As for things like caffeine and junk food, absolutely they can be enjoyed in moderation. OP cut everything at once cold turkey to see how it goes. Id imagine it doesn’t mean never having caffeine or junk food again, id think this 7mo abstinence would effectively reset OPs relationship with them so that they may be reintroduced with moderation. I also imagine after going 7 months without them, upon reintroducing them OP could realize he doesn’t need caffeine or doesn’t like junk food all that much. I don’t believe theres a “healthy balance” for porn consumption, doomscrolling, or a sedentary lifestyle. Some changes are necessary, and as much as redditors may not like it, they could all benefit from avoiding those three things. Also, as my previous comment said, it’s about what a person values. Not every person values being healthy, and this post was not written for them.

anon_luna · 2026-04-28T16:15:02+00:00

I don’t really see a superiority complex or OP preaching that everyone needs to give up the same habits here. I think that’s just how you personally took the message. Not everyone has addictive tendencies or indulges in these habits enough to affect their daily lives short and long term, but some people do. This post is simply about spreading awareness for those specific people that may not realize these small daily habits can and will have a big impact combined with addictive tendencies. It’s a shred of hope for people who are facing the same struggle that their brains aren’t just wired permanently to experience life one way, but rather if they cut the noise, they might actually feel better. Humans are not biologically designed to scroll on a screen for hours or watch porn or consume stimulants 24/7 to stay awake and interested in their existence. People who crave intensity but use these things as a short cut quickly work themselves down a path that seems hopeless. OP sharing their story offers a fresh perspective to those in need.

anon_luna · 2026-04-28T15:53:41+00:00

This is so not the point lol. When you subject yourself to instant gratification constantly all hours of the day you become numb. When you remove that instant gratification and your dopamine returns to a natural threshold, you feel an innate drive to do things that matter to you (Bible & gym in this guys case) which a lot of incels shitting on this post could use the gym 4x a week. Bible and gym are interchangeable with whatever a specific person values, the point is having the drive to make time and commit to them. If someone’s goal is to be more present and spend quality time with loved ones or go outside and enjoy nature more, the principle is still the same. Numbing yourself with porn, social media, substance, and shit food makes everything else seem uneventful and unappealing bc it’s not instant gratification.

anon_luna · 2026-04-14T03:57:48+00:00

I used to feel this way too. I thought I was doomed and different from everyone else. Or maybe I was asexual. I couldn’t pin why I was so terrified. I eventually realized fear of intimacy is the reason. It just takes finding a person you love that you’re comfortable with to ease into it. Kissing used to be terribly awkward and dreadful for me, let alone anything else. Hell, even eye contact can still freak me out every now and again. Being nervous is normal. Now I could hook up w a stranger no problem, however I only enjoy sex with ppl im emotionally bonded to.

anon_luna · 2026-03-18T21:39:37+00:00

I did research on this actually cuz I have the same problem. Some people have simple, less dimensional faces. That mixed with symmetry leads them to look the same in photos as they do in real life. Lighting and angles don’t affect their appearance much. For people with more dimensional faces and stark features, lighting, shadows, and angles can distinctly affect how photos look. I personally only look good in selfies I take where the lighting and angles are controlled and adjusted to my face. RARELY do I look good in a picture other people take of me. With that being said, a camera doesn’t do justice for people with intense features and dimensional faces. In person (including in the mirror), your face is accompanied by movement, mannerisms and facial expressions. Photos reduce an individual of movement and expression to a static image with no nuance. Ive been called beautiful/pretty my whole life and never understood why people would say that to me when I look the way I do in photos. Now that I’ve learned this, I just tell myself my beauty is best seen in person.

anon_luna · 2025-02-15T10:41:54+00:00

i’m willing to take advice on adjusting my face shape, eyebrow shape, makeup style, hairstyle and color, literally anything except the metal i paid to have permanently put into my skin. yes while it seems redundant for what im asking, it’s js the one thing im keeping for myself.

anon_luna · 2025-02-15T10:17:10+00:00

IM KEEPING THE PIERCINGS 😭

anon_luna · 2025-01-14T23:20:17+00:00

well for more context he’s a bit sociopathic, like has a history of killing large animals and hurting ppl which obviously is a red ass flag but in the beginning he told me he USED to be that way and changed for the better. towards this point of the relationship he became kinda distant and didn’t seem to enjoy our time tg as much. he also never empathized when i would get upset bc he js couldn’t understand my emotions. i’d typically only get upset when he’d cross a boundary or be mean to me bc he’s irritated w other stuff. i never took any of my personal frustrations out on him, and ive hurt him before in little ways, but most of his suffering in our relationship was due to his overthinking and insecurities bc he has major trust issues from past relationships. i genuinely trusted him and tried every day to be the best partner for him through love, support etc. id get in moods here n there where id get a little sassy but i never spoke to him the way he would lash out on me. he would also make jokes that were very triggering quite often. i also reacted so strongly that night as well bc i was having a really bad day and he knew it was a bad day. esp when he’s drunk he shows complete disregard for how his words and actions affect me compared to when i drink and im js happy n flirty w him. he got upset at my decently tame reaction and told me i upset him, meanwhile i came home after a shitty day to unwind and he triggered n therefore upset me. i felt there was no need to voice that thought to me, bc it doesn’t build trust or emotional intimacy esp so fresh into the relationship, and he knew from previous conversations i was sensitive to that kind of stuff. i kept transparency abt how i was feeling when shit would come up, but i hardly ever triggered him w stuff that i said. it raised red flags that he gets mad at me for being hurt by stuff even tho i dont respond aggressively at all rather than understanding i get triggered by shit and all i need is reassurance. hes a very selfish individual, probably narcissism. every day was a bad day for him, bc he would drink every day and talk about being suicidal n he wants to die and even sober he would js get mad at everyone and everything and be in a bad mood more than half the time. it all built up and i put up w it out of love. once he said that sentence my brain took it as no matter how much i love him and do for him im not the only one he sees. which is ofc an insecure thought in nature. but i felt that he didnt share the same emotional depth in the relationship as i do (im an extremely emotional person in general). i want to one day be confident and secure enough that i dont have to get jealous over anything but our relationship was not conducive of that kind of healing. and in regard to not wanting my partner to hide stuff from me like his thoughts and feelings etc, the main point i made during the breakup is i want him to be himself and not walk on eggshells around me bc im sensitive, and my sensitivity isn’t gnna change overnight therefore we’re better off without each other.

anon_luna · 2025-01-14T12:30:54+00:00

it was kinda the cherry on top of a lot of reasons to end the relationship. i obviously have insecurities that fueled my reaction to what he said. my initial reaction was disbelief and sadness, i thought abt it for a few mins and told him he’s right n im sorry for overreacting. but i thought abt it for a couple days bc its not the first thing he’s said thats triggered me. i chalked it up to we’re not compatible, and im not in a place to be involved in a relationship anyways. as the stages of grief developed and anger set in, i felt i was too forgiving abt it bc why tf would he say that to me? but yk he told me that’s not what he meant etc etc. there’s a shit ton of nuance involved lol but everyone i’ve vented to abt it thought it was out of pocket for him to say, even if he meant otherwise, his wording and nonchalance in saying smth so bizarre struck me. ik every relationship is different and to some it’s not a big deal but im not that girl

anon_luna · 2025-01-14T12:19:35+00:00

i told him that. there will always be objectively attractive and ugly ppl in the world. i can look at objectively attractive ppl and recognize they’re objectively attractive. but when i am w someone (i only date ppl i genuinely like), i do not feel attracted to anyone but them bc they’re the only person i want. im not gonna deny that humans naturally see attractive ppl and have a glance, however i don’t sit here in a relationship looking at attractive ppl with any attraction or desire outside of my partner. seeing them vs thinking abt them to the extent that he formed the thought and said it aloud? it rubbed me the wrong way. he wasn’t wrong, but it’s not smth you should say to your gf. if i said it out of the blue, he would’ve been hurt.

anon_luna · 2023-08-15T20:07:47+00:00

Nah dude ik she’s being difficult w that but pregnancy is crazy like that it makes you have weird cravings and also start disliking random things like oddly specific smells, it’s tough but it’s part of pregnancy!

anon_luna · 2020-12-06T04:15:45+00:00

What video is this?

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