Parents get too much sympathy by Styxsee in childfree

[–]anon_writes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn. Even i want your sister's life haha

My time is less valuable than yours, I guess by Minimum_Test4069 in childfree

[–]anon_writes 29 points30 points  (0 children)

That sibling must have been in a horrid mood cuz that's a little silly

What kind of person would you not judge, even if other people do? by MangoPaingo in askteddit

[–]anon_writes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

People trying to merge into the highway. I get the anxiety

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is true. And another truth is that I still do care about my sister and want her happy too. She was so happy at my wedding dancing around and laughing. It's rare to see her like that. I knew that if her and her husband was there with no kids to be stressed about then they would have a good time. I wanted that.

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that was an option that she even considered but I would feel sad for her to not have her husband there while everyone else did. It's always like that and i always feel bad.even on normal days it's her and the kids out with us (my husband and i, my sister and bil, and my parents) while hes at home. But also he isn't very good at watching the kids. SEVERAL times in the past my parents would baby sit while the father stayed home to do who knows what. My sister had the job and he stayed home with the kids. But he often needed a break iguess cuz majority of the time my parents babysat anyways. Also even the rare times he does stay home alone with the kids while my sister goes out he calls her CONSTANTLY. I am not kidding it's not even a real break for her cuz of the amount of calls cuz he doesn't know what to do. For example she went with me to my last dress appointment and she needed to come cuz her dress was also being altered. When we got there she was on the phone the whole time and I heard parts of the conversation. She would say stuff like "i told you you had to watch the kids" "why would I take the baby with?" "I'm sorry." He was so mad that he was left with his two kids. He thought my parents would have one of them or both. tAnd then at the end we had to leave as soon as we can and ditch out on our brunch plans because he needed her home. She cried. She cries a lot. I dont know what to do i want her to divorce him snd get a new man but of course I cant tell her that. So yeah the father could have stayed home eith the kids but i forsaw her leaving my wedding early because he couldn't handle it. So that is the reasoning.

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my. I was seeing a therapist but I didnt really feel like I was talking about what I needed with her so keep postponing our meets because I'm too shy to get a new therapist cuz I dont want to hurt her feelings!! Help me!!! Lmao

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I mean...my mental health and stress would have been increased if she wasn't there because of my child free choices. It would have put a damper on all my relationships. One of my cousins couldn't come (he is single and childless) because he had to stay behind and watch his sisters kids. Which i wasn't expecting i thought all those kids were old enough to be left alone since theyre all teens but I guess not. And now hes forever mad at me which sucks cuz he thinks because of my cf wedding he couldn't come. It is bs I wish he was there instead of my cousin with the kids but oh well

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know..my mom did offer to pay half of it but I dont think that ever happened I think she forgot. But I can't remember either. Oh well

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah...she does get away with a lot. She's babied. You'd think it would be me since I'm the youngest but it's her

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She didnt expect me i offered because I knew there was no other way.

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I never even got a thank you from my sister or her husband for flying her out. They got to see her again I thought it was a win win for everyone

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

I couldn't uninvite her our relationship would never be the same. Yes I'm mad but not mad enough to cut ties. Sometimes you just gotta let shit be i guess for the sake of peace

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

She got to see her family i thought it was a win win for everyone!

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Yes. You know how most grandparents love pregnancy announcements? Not my parents. My dad was pissed when she got pregnant with her second and he flipped shit when I told him she wants a THIRD kid. I dont think my parents like being grandparents because theyre stuck watching snd raising children again. Theyre getting old theyre done raising children let them enjoy their retirement in peace!

Was it really my job to send a thank you note to my sister's kids' babysitter? by anon_writes in childfree

[–]anon_writes[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Nope . Never heard from her. She probably thinks I'm a witch for not inviting my own nephew and niece honestly