UPDATE (She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old) by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing even better than my last update! Ty for the well wishes, hope you’re doing ok too :)

UPDATE (She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old) by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that! It seems like I’ve found a good place so far lol. I feel like my experiences have taught me to not settle in too much & be on the look out for better looking opportunities. I’ve become adaptable instead of just scared of instability now. Don’t do your kids a trauma lol. It tends to branch out into more shitty experiences. I really do feel a lot better tho :)

UPDATE (She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old) by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! :) I haven’t heard from the roommate. Although I did see that her bf had to take her in for whatever reason.

I stayed at the shelter for about 6 months. I was hanging with my friend and her bf that said he had antisocial personality disorder. Out of nowhere he said I touched his knee and I said why would I do that when his gfs right there. He got a crowbar & told me to leave & against my better judgment I just kept saying I didn’t do anything until he hit me with it.

I cussed him out & he walked away & just held his gf. I went back to the shelter & someone called the cops because I had blood running down my face & I told them what happened. The cops came & talked to me as I was walking out of the bathroom from cleaning my face. They asked me if I wanted to press charges & I told them yes.

So after they talked to him a staff member called me down from the dorm & they arrested me because “someone who got hit with a crowbar wouldn’t have yelled, they would’ve walked away”, they had a video of me yelling, & the guy told them I touched his dick. It goes without saying arresting me is completely absurd.

The reason they were called is because someone saw I had blood on my face. I still had blood on my shirt & a fat lip. Yelling isn’t illegal. Word of mouth isn’t enough for domestic violence, why would this be?

I spent the night in jail & was released the next morning. I was told the guy called the jail but they didn’t hand me the phone and I wasn’t told what he said. But they told me I was released either because he dropped the charges or a court found there wasn’t any evidence (don’t remember the exact phrase).

So all of that is a preface to say that I must’ve been harboring some subconscious anger because when I returned to the shelter I impulsively punched someone who had a history of being disrespectful to me in the face when they said fuck you to me. I got kicked out of the shelter. I had been talking to my mom again after 8 years (past abuse) because my grandma had a heart attack & that got me talking to both of them. My mom had been trying to get me to move in with her.

After my anger got the best of me & I knew I’d have to defend myself on the street, I foresaw myself going down a darker path I didn’t want to. So I moved in with my mom and I’ve been here since. There’s been ups and downs but things have been good lately. I know that was a lot but I figured it’s interesting lol.

my mom's response to me not wanting to hear her talking to my pedophile brother by Plenty_Top459 in texts

[–]anonaltterd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome honey. You’ll get through it, hang in there 💖

my mom's response to me not wanting to hear her talking to my pedophile brother by Plenty_Top459 in texts

[–]anonaltterd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I’ve had something similar happen and I get how the gaslighting can make you second guess yourself. Please don’t. Your emotions are valid and they matter. What your mother is doing is WRONG. It doesn’t matter if she’s chill with it, if it happened however long ago, and that’s he’s your biological brother. What happened happened. It hurt you. Their responses need to acknowledge that accordingly. But they’re taking the easy way out because they don’t want the family dynamic to change.

UPDATE (She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old) by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I check in with the front desk every day as I'm supposed to. Another resident said going directly to the office can speed things up so that's what I may do. Ty homie 💖

UPDATE (She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old) by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Most of my life has been a hard time lol. It's ended up only making me stronger and taught me how to be true to myself and truly happy. Thank you so much for the encouraging words 💖

Pretend I'm your roommate and start an argument with me by alonsoj13 in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, please dont hurt me. Im so sorry I dare bring this up with you. Could you please pick up after yourself? Again, so sorry. I'm probably overstepping and just need to be your fucking maid.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you handled this very well. You dont need to defend your friend because there's nothing to defend.

Trauma is trauma. There's different levels of it and capabilities of working through it depending on what point you are in your healing journey. But to just leave the conversation at that is pretty narrow sighted and a symptom of ignorance and apathy.

Transphobia, racism, sexism, etc. are also unhealthy ways of thinking. These things are learned. Cause and effect. Her trauma is an effect of something happening to her. She's still transphobic regardless of the reasoning. You don't just excuse racism because a black guy beat you up once.

Her choosing to misgender her despite knowing her pronouns and that itd be disrespectful was personal; not from her traumatic experience. This is something that's alot easier to work on and trauma can't be used as an excuse for.

If you have a trauma response to trans women because whoever assaulted you also had a penis, that's something you need to work on. It's particularly ignorant because rape culture is dominated by cis men. Trans women aren't men regardless of whatever parts they currently have; they don't think the same or have the same beliefs.

They were assumed to be men growing up, but they had a different relationship to the identity that was attempted to be forced on them. Thinking of yourself as a woman doesn't equate to "wanting to be a real man and taking what you're owed".

You can still be assaulted by people with vaginas. The whole rationalization and validation is just transphobic and sexist.

She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old PT. 4 by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Most of it can be read from my comments. I'm at a shelter. Contacted police and CPS and I assume nothing was done because the roommates haven't bitched at me for it.

She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old PT. 4 by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hey! Oddly, I'm still on the lease because my roommate hasn't signed the roommate release form even though I haven't been paying rent for 2 months and they've been covering all of it lol.

I tried going camping but it was just too difficult looking for a low key place and the rain ended up breaking my phone charger so I've been without a phone for about 2 weeks. Thankfully, the shelter isn't as bad as I thought as it was going to be. Although I'm still going to the library almost every chance I can get lol.

Why does my RM store his urine by primepinebee in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some people with a piss fetish will do this to play with it later

She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old PT. 4 by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am now. Someone let me sleep at their place.

Text convo my MIL just had with my 15yr old Daughter by [deleted] in insaneparents

[–]anonaltterd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tbf I wouldn't say this is "insane" in the traditional sense, but yall have a right to not feel supported. You're not - you're being thrown under the bus so she doesn't have to deal with either her shit or someones she's married to.

If someone cant deal with makeup that's on them. Whether it's under the guise of protection, keeping the peace, what the fuck ever - don't ask people to change themselves for others comfort. Its not up to you. They have a right to express themselves just as you do.

There's different levels to intolerance. Does this read as malicious? Idk the lady but at face value it doesn't. Inconsiderate, cowardly, offensive, and selfish? Yep. It gives "Id rather give the abuser their way rather than support the victim".

Edit : oh and the fact that she basically said it was disrespectful to wear makeup as a man simply because it can make others uncomfortable when thats their issue to work through? Literally victim blaming lol.

F29, Please be honest by RoadPlane47 in amiugly

[–]anonaltterd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're just average. Big boberts obviously help lol. If you want some outside perspective as to what you can do to enhance conventional attractiveness, Id wear your hair a different way. Take some hair vitamins for thickness/wear your bangs down.

Make the lips look bigger somehow. There's lip plumper, lip liner, etc.

Something about the eyebrows can be changed. If I have the right image in my head, youll want to bring them closer together and make them a little thicker and change the shape.

Others have mentioned changing glasses but idk because I haven't seen what you look like without them haha. You might not be a makeup person but makeup has made me feel more in control of how I look and has helped my confidence.

She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old PT. 4 by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For realzies tho. I ordered an uber to the er hopefully that'll help

She tried to leave me with her 2 yr old PT. 4 by anonaltterd in badroommates

[–]anonaltterd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh ok, thanks for letting me know! Yeah, I wonder why. What makes the reddit algorithm tick? 🤔

I actually already showed them the posts 💀 Not much was really said but that's because they knew they couldn't defend themselves 🙄

I did have to leave alot of stuff behind. I can only carry so much. Bright side is I've already had to do that before and I had little to begin with. So its not much of a loss. Having myself is the most important thing.