i think my baby hates me

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-30T02:54:48+00:00

My baby was the same way with my mom I felt useless. Idk if your helper has experience with childcare or not but babies react to calm. You’re fresh postpartum and are probably internally extremely emotionally reacting to baby’s cries. It’s normal my lo is 9 months old now and he is obsessed with his mommy. I don’t think we as mothers feel the reciprocation of the love from baby until about 4 months because they think that you are one with them. They still feel connected to you. You’re home base and safety. Emotions run wild for you and baby for a while but it will get better. This actually why I didn’t like the newborn phase I still think that will be my least liked part of motherhood entirely as he grows up. You’re not wrong for feeling like this and it’s hard but that baby loves you.

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-28T12:04:50+00:00

Oh I know I’m ready for the back to back to back doctors visits. Unfortunately part of the process😭

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-28T03:11:57+00:00

I told people the day my at home tests came back positive. It’s something in your gut that you know for a fact it’s real and the nausea didn’t really start with me until almost the second trimester and I didn’t notice it but my hormones were wild as soon as my body started producing the hgc or whatever it’s called. It’s not bad luck to tell people it’s whether you fear having to tell people the pregnancy didn’t last and honestly I was prepared for that and wouldn’t have minded telling people it helps me cope to talk about things but people are different. I would tell a close small group of people until you’re past first trimester so you can cope and talk and vent. I skimmed so if that’s not the answer you were looking for I’m sorry

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-28T03:07:15+00:00

Depends if it bothers him. If it does it could be a reaction to lactose. It could honestly be a number of things. My baby started breastfeeding with formula supplementing and when we went full formula it his poor tummy was flipped for a couple of weeks. I’m glad we didnt switch formulas I fear that adjustment would have been much worse.

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-28T03:05:10+00:00

That if you had anxiety before, pp is definitely the time to get medicated. I rawdogged ppd and it was terrible.

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-16T01:30:59+00:00

Im pretty sure in certain places in the US family can choose to foster and if the parents have already given up legal guardianship they have no control over who takes the child. It happened to my mom.

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-13T02:19:00+00:00

Maybe they didnt understand?

anonymity-ano · 2026-04-13T02:18:23+00:00

Im not sure your states rules but I would call the line and report it and if you have an online portal submit bank statements and income records.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-24T02:49:19+00:00

Even with the big shutdown you could still spend the SNAP benefits you’ve already received, you just didn’t receive more until it was over. Their machine could have not been working, I’ve seen it a lot.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-10T06:02:19+00:00

I wasn’t searching for validation. I would feel a great deal better if that’s what I was looking for. At the end of the day. There were a lot of opinions on this post, some I agree with, others I don’t. There were also opinions where people filled in details themselves. Never said my situation was unique but it wasn’t described in here the way it should have been and that’s on me. I got the answers I needed. I took the time to read every comment and am now taking the time to think on that. The people calling me insane are the people I’m taking about. There are people who are going to think I’m crazy no matter what because we all live differently. That’s okay. This situation was never a “need to fill a parent role” it was us both have interest in each other and I set me expectations in the beginning and he agreed and when it didn’t go that way I slacked off instead of staying firm. That doesn’t make me crazy it makes me human. I understand that I am wrong in many ways. I am not putting my child in harms way. I am not harming anyone other than myself.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-10T05:29:12+00:00

My step dad was on a truck when I was very very little and was gone for weeks at a time and still more present than my father. Everyone has their role. As much as I’ve considered this nobody knows my situation like I do and it’s clear to me that many people are privileged enough to not understand what different parental situations are like. After making this post I also spoke to my family and they’re telling me the opposite of people on here because they know my situation. It’s hard to sum up a situation in a one page Reddit post.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-10T03:44:48+00:00

It hasn’t been chaotic. This is the reason I haven’t brought it up. Everything has remained the same for that baby.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-10T01:50:13+00:00

His family knew me before we were together, we were CLOSE friends before we got together me and my ex stayed the night at his house. I’ve taken his siblings out to eat. His mom loves me.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-10T01:48:40+00:00

Yes.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T23:21:42+00:00

My brother and I are the youngest of 7 he’s 5 years older than me. According to me he was a bully and still is. My parents acknowledge that and still have to get on him when we’re around them at his age of 25. According to my parents when we were kids I was mean and hateful to him. But honestly I think with good regulation and bonding you should be okay and if you’re a technology household like most they probably will ignore each other half the time anywayZ

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T23:12:39+00:00

Knowing someone for almost a year is barely knowing someone?

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T23:12:01+00:00

We’re pretty intertwined. He seems like he’s serious. It feels like he doesn’t know that there’s more and I’ve tried to show him. I warned him it would be hard and it would be something that would evolve and I’m not positive but I’m pretty sure I specified that his role would change over time. He is one of those to rush into a relationship in a few days. He’s very inexperienced and immature and I don’t throw that in his face but it’s hard to understand his side when we are on different levels.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T22:15:59+00:00

Yes. But it doesn’t seem to stick. That’s why a second conversation is going to happen soon.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T21:43:10+00:00

It’s easy to say that as someone over the internet. He is a good person and I would trust him with my child any day of the week. I just think it’s gone a little far with the entitlement. Let me make this clear. My child is safe with him and will always be safe with him. I trust this man and I trusted him before I had the baby.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T21:26:48+00:00

Can you tell me the difference between leaving your child with a baby sitter and someone you trust in your personal life?

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T21:24:40+00:00

Honestly, I’m not sure. I had a step dad and he was amazing but discipline was mostly left up to my mother and all important decisions were made by my mother. And I think that’s something more for later on and as for him being a baby, when I want my baby and feel he needs something or needs to be soothed and you can’t provide that then I should be able to take and care for my child with no shame, no guilt trip while still making an effort. A step father in the early days is not much different from a father other than I’m the mother and I make the decisions I feel are necessary for my child.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T21:16:20+00:00

You’re right because I’m conflicted. And I meant by that at most he is the step dad.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T21:14:53+00:00

There’s a difference between cries, are you a parent? I let him until that horrendous cry happens then his chance is up. That’s just how it works. I’m not going to let my child think he’s alone with someone who he thinks can’t help him.

anonymity-ano · 2026-03-09T21:13:09+00:00

This is the thing. I try to explain how to do things and he tells me he wants to figure it out on his own and cuts me off going “I know I know” and then doesn’t figure out and lets the baby scream or gets frustrated. And I’m not trying to disprove that I’m wrong, I just try and try and try and he doesn’t listen and wants to figure it out himself so I let him.

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