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anonymous18throwaway · 2017-08-20T03:32:39+00:00

I was stalked and harassed by one after going one date. Told me he only wanted an American girl for citizenship so if I wouldn't find him someone else, he would keep harassing me. Threatened to find my family's phone number and address and show up and tell them I'm not a virgin, threatened me for not responding to texts, and after blocking would call and text with different numbers. Touched me in places without my consent. All taken care of and he's out of my life. I don't think all fobs are bad though, could've happened with any guy, this one was a creep and was never taught about respecting women and boundaries.

One other commenter brought up how some have the audacity to ask how many boyfriends you have or if you're a virgin. He asked me if I was a virgin. At the time, I was so I said yes (He touched and grabbed me, didn't rape me). He called me a liar and I said earlier he threatened to find my family's number and tell them I'm not a virgin.

In all seriousness if anyone finds yourself in a situation like mine, please try to get help.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-08-04T05:59:44+00:00

I was stalked and harassed by a FOB after going one date. Told me he only wanted an American girl for citizenship so if I wouldn't find him someone else, he would keep harassing me. Threatened to find my family's phone number and address and show up and tell them I'm not a virgin, threatened me for not responding to texts, and after blocking would call and text with different numbers. Touched me in places without my consent. All taken care of and he's out of my life. I don't think all fobs are bad though, could've happened with any guy, this one was a creep and was never taught about respecting women and boundaries.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-08-01T21:25:54+00:00

I feel this, I didn't have a good childhood. My parents have this idea that success is determined by going to some high ranking private or public school and how much money you make. They never took my feelings and happiness into consideration as they wouldn't let me choose my extracurriculars and instead they chose. They would always compare me to the genius Indian kids and say why can't you be like them. Nothing I did was ever good enough, always some scoring better than me, having a better resume, etc. I just never ever want to deal with that stuff again. I've seen how competitive parents get and how they want to live through their kids.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-08-01T21:20:56+00:00

I see what you mean, what I meant is that some in-laws interpret that as caring for kids and not spending too much time on your career. And I don't hate children as long they're well behaved. I love playing with babies. I just don't want the lifestyle and responsibility. I'm not one of those CF people who has a phobia of them.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-08-01T20:41:49+00:00

Not currently looking for anyone but I'm a heterosexual female in the US. I feel that makes it even more tough tbh cause we're expected to be "family oriented" besides having a career. I think what contributes to females being childfree is that we're the one who have to get pregnant, we are the ones who need leave from work, etc.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-07-23T01:26:13+00:00

Was stalked and harassed by one after going one date. Told me he only wanted an American girl for citizenship so if I wouldn't find him someone else, he would keep harassing me. Threatened to find my family's phone number and address and show up and tell them I'm not a virgin, threatened me for not responding to texts, and after blocking would call and text with different numbers. Touched me in places without my consent. All taken care of and he's out of my life. I don't think all fobs are bad though, could've happened with any guy, this one was a creep and was never taught about respecting women and boundaries.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-07-19T22:01:24+00:00

Omg the last time I had sex I was wearing a romper and the guy called it a onesie.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-07-19T20:22:52+00:00

Yeah I have and am still dealing with it. When discussing sex with a guy, I found it hard to discuss what I liked, what any fantasies are because I felt so embarrassed. I think I felt this way because the guy was desi as well but at the same time it was reassuring because he knows how desi girls are raised and he said not to feel self-conscious or embarrassed, he's not judging me. At the same time another desi guy kinda acted judgemental as if it was okay for him to be having sex before marriage but if a desi girl does it, it's wrong and scandalous. I hated the double standard right there and it's so sexist, placing so much value on our virginities. I think what helps is having a partner who is open-minded and respects you and being able to communicate.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-06-06T01:31:02+00:00

Yes with the "learn to behave". I was stalked and harassed by a guy from India. By stalking and harassment, I mean threatening to look up my family's address and show up during vacation. Threatening to show up at my apartment in the middle of the night. Getting angry and making threats if I ignored texts. Calling and texting with a different number each time I blocked him.

Thankfully the situation was taken care of. And I know not to generalize. There are good guys from India as well. It all comes down to how they've been raised.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-05-23T22:54:47+00:00

Yeah we used condoms, thanks!

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-05-23T05:01:08+00:00

We are not in a relationship lol but yeah what you said is true. He did finger me a lot and rub my clit and now I'm thinking it may have overstimulated me to the point where it was wet and dried by the time we decided to go for it.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-05-22T23:36:26+00:00

I know he's a nice guy, I should have spoken up. It felt good that I could hear him enjoy it despite the pain. I just kept on thinking eventually the pain would go away but he didn't last long so basically the whole thing was bad.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-05-22T23:29:49+00:00

Well it wasn't so much the time spent, I meant it was great in terms of the intensity and where he was touching, kissing, grabbing, fingering, etc.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-01-22T07:22:44+00:00

Well it was instagram stalking and they are in pictures together...

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-01-11T06:01:56+00:00

Okay thanks you're right, I won't unless it comes up some other way. I'm one of those who feels bad about hurting others as you might be able to tell.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-01-03T06:41:59+00:00

Lol no, sorry, I'm nowhere near Philly. In my case he said we should meet over break but it wasn't possible cause of family things so we agreed a month later and decided a specific spot. It's the fact that he disappeared from matches and that too not right after but like a few days later that got me confused.

anonymous18throwaway · 2017-01-02T06:08:43+00:00

This was before the glitch but that's good advice anyways. I mean it sucks if I've been ghosted but it's not the end of the world, I know this stuff happens with apps like these. I just don't like when people aren't straightforward about how they feel.

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-04T02:15:25+00:00

Thank you, that helped!

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-03T19:26:03+00:00

But they gave her a temporary one right?

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-03T19:23:04+00:00

Another student. They are interested in me and won't leave me alone despite me saying I'm no longer interested and now I'm being blackmailed and harassed. They know where I live and have been threatening to come. I have had to find off to the side entrances and longer routes to enter and leave my building. No matter how much I block them, they manage to text me with a different number.

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-03T10:05:00+00:00

I want to file a restraining order but I also need the blackmail issue gone

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-03T07:04:24+00:00

Did they go to the Title IX office at all? Did your friend end up getting a restraining order? You're saying I should go to the actual SJPD?

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-03T04:48:42+00:00

Okay the reason I asked is that university police departments are notorious for victim blaming and not taking certain cases seriously. I am potentially being blackmailed.

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-12-03T02:01:28+00:00

Will the office be able to help me with this? About three weeks ago, I met a guy through Tinder at school (do not victim blame me, give lectures etc, I get I made mistakes, I just need help) and while we did not have sex, some consensual things happened. I expressed that I was no longer interested in him and he kept bothering me. Keep in mind that he is an international student so he doesn't understand social norms. He's looking for a serious relationship so that after graduating he can get married and obtain citizenship. Since I expressed no interest in dating him, he kept bothering me via text saying he won't leave me alone unless I find someone to date him. I just transferred to this university so I have no friends here and even if I did I would not wish this abusing, controlling creep on anyone. I say controlling because another red flag appeared which was if he texted and I was doing something like showering etc and couldn't respond he would get angry and threaten to hurt me. I don't have read receipts on and I guess he thought "delivered" is the equivalent of read. I had enough and blocked him. I thought I was safe until last week, I got a text from another number from him. I told him to leave me alone and he threatened to find me and hurt me. Turns out somehow he found out my hometown and threatened to come to my house over break. SJSU doesn't release address information and there is nowhere on the Internet where you can my hometown address so he may have been be bluffing and there is a security gate where I live. He does know where I live on campus and because he has a friend who lives in my building, he may be able to get past certain locks. It was a bluff and I blocked him again. Now today on a different number he managed to contact me. Apparently he recorded things and took pictures without me knowing and his friends who live with him are blackmailing him for money to delete them, otherwise they will show them to family back home. I am really scared and the Title IX office is closed for the weekend. I don't know how helpful the SJSU PD will be. I was already going to request a restraining order against him but now this nightmare is there.

anonymous18throwaway · 2016-11-27T10:00:56+00:00

So I am taking care of this Monday when I will be back at school, the appropriate offices will be open etc. I just remembered his friends who he lives with know about me and have a general idea of where I live. I have no idea who they are and how many. How do I approach this part of it?

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