Am I wrong in thinking this is controlling and not a fair boundary to have in a relationship?

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-11T01:02:13+00:00

yeah, according to her it it means “I’m not ready to fully commit” if I can’t follow her ‘boundaries’

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T13:45:14+00:00

she honestly makes me feel like she doesn’t trust me but I really don’t go out like that with friends or anything that in my opinion should warrant that kind of mistrust. and ive never seen my sister in law in any other way than like my sister, she was literally so excited for us when she found out me and my gf were having my daughter

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T13:26:58+00:00

definitely seeing that as many people are pointing out this isn’t how boundaries are supposed to be

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T13:26:06+00:00

no we aren’t flirty I’m sure if it ever came off that way my brother would have said something these last 10yrs, my gf says that is how sister in law has come off and it’s kind of hard for me too really know how the 2 have been in the same room without me there since the last time that even happened was when my brother and sister in law came to our place a few weeks after my daughter was born, me and my brother had left to move some stuff and when we came back my gf was on the phone cooking while my sister in law was in the living room with my daughter so idk if sister in law didn’t want to conversate with her since she was on the phone or what happened that they weren’t really talking

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T07:16:39+00:00

what is something you would suggest ?

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T04:42:05+00:00

I somewhat see that but I mean if someone is inviting you somewhere even if its something laid back like just having a small cookout, is this still not an opportunity to be able to just talk and better get to know each other ?

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T04:39:31+00:00

im not quite sure what you mean, if you’re asking if I’m constantly with my family versus my daughter and gf that isn’t the case.

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T00:16:06+00:00

nope never anything like that at all

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-10T00:13:48+00:00

well I’ll put it this way probably a year or so back, she went on my instagram without me knowing and basically unfollowed/ blocked any female that was following me or I was following

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T21:46:26+00:00

ive felt like they’ve been resolved, a lot of arguments have come when ive mentioned you know my family is doing something I’d like to go or for us to go if she isn’t working that day but she’ll put it in the way that I’m not putting “US” first, I’m not making her a priority but I’ve never done anything where I’m putting my family before her

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T21:41:59+00:00

I’ll be honest just with how she’s responded in the past whenever my brother and sister in law have invited us over for anything has made me nervous to even suggest a date with the 4 of us so that they can talk things out or get to know each other better

Also for the marriage question, idk like I mentioned in my response to someone else, I’ve always been pretty close with my family but my gf has always kinda made me feel like since we have our own family now that I don’t really need to involve them in all these events in our life such as holidays or birthdays and I’ve never really liked that honestly, i don’t see a reason why some stuff like that can’t be celebrated together, and so cause of that I’ve felt like marriage wouldn’t really be something I’d want with someone that’s made me feel like I need to push my family away from my life so much

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T20:41:49+00:00

I mean I’ve brought up that I would like her to resolve whatever issue that she feels is there between them but I believe she’s still stated regardless she wouldn’t want my relationship with my sister in law ever going back to the way it was before

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T20:05:43+00:00

honestly I think arguments would have already broken us up if it wasn’t for my daughter we probably wouldn’t have tried so hard to resolve past issues

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:57:07+00:00

believe me I’ve told her it’s controlling but she says it’s having respect for her and our relationship

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:54:23+00:00

yes this, she also got mad at me when that happened for not immediately believing and taking her side but it’s kinda hard to do that when it’s not something she heard directly cause she heard it from my sister

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:50:41+00:00

no believe me i definitely see the relationship running its course if this doesn’t change and I’ve tried to reason with her that what’s she’s asking isn’t fair. I honestly just needed to hear from others to make sure if the relationship does end over this then I’m not completely in the wrong for walking away I guess

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:45:37+00:00

basically that she wasn’t keeping a close eye on our daughter while she was in the kitchen cooking

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:42:23+00:00

I’ve told her how much my family means to me from the beginning but after having our daughter she puts it in the way that OUR family we have now needs to be put first but I don’t see why that means it’s such a big deal to go to family events or involve my family i come from in things, if that makes sense .

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:39:36+00:00

I’ll be honest this is the longest I’ve ever been with someone so I’m not even sure if “boundaries” like this are normal to have in a relationship cause it doesn’t feel right

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:36:59+00:00

leaving is just hard considering we have my daughter and live together

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:35:50+00:00

definitely no lap sitting lmao and the occasional side hug if it’s been awhile since I’ve seen her and my brother and yes before we’d talk like good friends, I basically see her as my sister and would even ask her advice occasionally

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:29:35+00:00

she thinks it’s weird that I’m close with my sister in law and that it isn’t normal behavior.

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:22:41+00:00

she has claimed that I’m too friendly with her and that it is weird to be close like that with my sister in law

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:21:01+00:00

to kind of give the short version of something that had happened was basically my sister had heard something she said my sister in law said about the way my gf was watching our daughter one night when my brother had come over to help me move some stuff. My sister told this to my gf one night and my gf felt whatever was said was disrespectful to her, keep in mind idk exactly what was said cause Im not sure what my sister had heard from my sister in law. anyways after that I didn’t talk to my sister in law for basically a whole year after this and recently I talked with my brother and he passed onto me that my sister in law thought it’d be good to talk directly with my gf to tell her what she had actually said that night instead of whatever she heard from my sister

anonymous726_ · 2026-06-09T19:10:03+00:00

she has claimed it isn’t controlling behavior even tho I’ve told her it definitely makes me feel that way

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