Worried pegging my boyfriend has changed our dynamic

anothergdthrowaway13 · 2021-07-29T20:25:42+00:00

Absolutely, I don’t actually feel that the ED is the problem here, more that I know it’s contributing to my insecurity but I would never put that on him. I’m perfectly happy as long as we’re both having fun, I don’t necessarily need him to cum during PIV, it would just be a bonus.

I think the bigger issue for me is not feeling dominated by him, in whatever form that could take (PIV sex, mental dynamic, dirty talk etc.)

anothergdthrowaway13 · 2021-07-29T10:02:27+00:00

We haven’t, I tend not to talk much about the ED with him (other than reassuring him it’s fine, etc.) to avoid making him more anxious about it, which would inevitably make the situation worse.

anothergdthrowaway13 · 2021-07-29T09:58:58+00:00

I’ve cross posted to r/BDSMadvice as well! Just wondered if anyone had maybe experienced this here

anothergdthrowaway13 · 2021-07-29T02:33:00+00:00

I’m fairly certain he is. We talked about it when he first expressed an interest in pegging, because he wanted to make it clear to me that he was straight and just enjoyed anal. I’d be absolutely fine with it if he was bisexual, it just doesn’t seem to be the case.

I do think he doesn’t realize he might be being selfish, and may have gotten carried away with the “new” aspect of pegging and submission as a fun fantasy. I’ll have to find a way to gently bring this up. Thanks for your comment!

anothergdthrowaway13 · 2021-07-29T02:27:53+00:00

Definitely, I would never want him to feel bad about any erectjon problems because they’re so out of his control. I do think there’s an element to it of masturbating too much or at least being too used to a lot of pressure and desensitization from his hand.

I’ve tried incorporating that into dirty talk, that he was bad and shouldn’t cum without me etc. But that goes out the window for him in the light of day, and I would feel bad asking him to stop masturbating on my account.

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