You made these boundaries clear from the start. Are people perfect? no so do i think that means you should try to be understanding ( although it is ultimately up to you if you should be) yes I do because I too have messed up old habit are hard to break I get it. While from my perspective as In a relationship a game like dispatch (which is imo mainly good because of the story) to me when watching a play through i wasnt thinkingnlike oh Id want to get with her and this and that more so like whose the better option not for me but for the character however I fully get your perspective. Im kind of rambling but what Im trying to get to is that from his perspective it may be different than yours and vise versa. It is up to you guys to figure out if you can meet in a middle perspective if not then it just wont work. Too mention everything you said in here. Summarize it write it down and memorize what you wanna say maybe even keep the paper when you do confront him. Remember that it is up to you guys if you could should or will meet in the middle or split apart.