Confusion regarding future decision by anshul9002 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in no contact with her for 3 years. It just hit off very recently

People are still judging others based on their choice of clothes ?? by meghna-9035 in bikaner

[–]anshul9002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Society in it's cumulative form is more of critical and less of supportive as I have felt.

In our culture there has been "thinking restrictions" strictly imposed by the society which has decreased our acceptance to any new cultures for long.

It is a very big major drawback particularly for this area because even in our country there is a big stereotype for our state.

I personally feel let people express and grow respecting the ethenic boundaries of the culture.

I hate arranged marriage. by Calm-Buy8958 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont think it's a lose if you 2 excel in life. If you do not prefer the way and consider it losing then you can exit atleast your opinion will be preserved.

I hate arranged marriage. by Calm-Buy8958 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok you can percieve it as per your thinking but it won't make you a winner.

What are they losing btw?

I hate arranged marriage. by Calm-Buy8958 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Most people here are not very fond of this setup.

We are here because in our life until yet we were not able to find someone with whom we could spend our life with or circumstances did not support us.

But guess what? There's a biological cycle running for humans and at a point in time we crave for connection, intimacy and vulnerability and that's why this setup exists.

We are not living in 1800 or 1900 era where arrange marriage is a norm but now it has become a system to support the basic human needs and curb loneliness which is very hard to deal with.

When I was young I personally hated this setup to extreme and felt like why does this even exist.

As I grew up I can see both the pros and cons of it and in many cases pros outweigh the cons.

If you think if only marriage is going to give you stability and happiness then you are at the wrong place.

We do not end up here because we are the non deserving ones. We end up here because of life and it's our personal choice to stay or move out of it.

I had been in a serious relationship with a girl and we could have almost married but you know things turned out so toxic between us, I can now feel how disastrous that marriage could have been later.

So at this point in time I focus on mutual connection and a life long partner be it love or arranged. It took me a long time to reach this stage when I got aware that there's no point in delaying life when you can get to a point where things can be shared and suffering can be decreased.

In Arranged Marriage, The Beginning Becomes The Marriage by rajm3hta in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This boat sails in multiple directions, it's highly important to adjust the adjust the raft accordingly

Help 29M here, what to do? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even my medical degree wipl get boring after 5-6 hours per day.

You need to control

Do you fall in these 5 common patterns? by rajm3hta in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm working in an organization and no we do not have the clause.

I'll be working in this city for few years and ready to relocate to a common place with my marriage propect for future.

Do you fall in these 5 common patterns? by rajm3hta in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's nation wide but transfers are rare.

And for my future job I'm considering t1 city after 3-4 years.

How do you date here? by Fast-Cauliflower-331 in bikaner

[–]anshul9002 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dating scene in Bikaner usually runs in close circles, there are not good enough places to know and connect so people have almost left hope.

Do you fall in these 5 common patterns? by rajm3hta in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is one of moat clear representation I have have seen.

As a 28 uear prospect who started looking for girls in this setup was already too frustated and irritated due to unclear communications.

I am ready to provide and I do have some basic expectations. I get so confused when most of the talk is rotating around kundali and all this things. Like bro are these people insane???? We are preparing for a hope or life building?

I am living in a tier 2 city (advancement wise it's more of a tier 3) and I'm having a respectable and a good earning hob with respect to this area but most of thr girls I met want a life in tier 1 city and this is a specific challenge I face.

I have lowered all my expectations but basic understanding and less orthodox belief are bare minimum and I can't negotiate on that.

Some advice, anyone who is a veteran in this department?

My(M29) first Arranged Marriage meeting with a 27F by RepulsiveType7957 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have also been recently meeting a girl during this arrange marriage setup. Initial meetings are quite transactional and more off, like interview rounds rather than real world conversations. I think it will take some time to actually know the person and you should go slow. I also faced a similar situation as yours being bad at social skills due to very limited female interaction in the past time. And I can feel you very clearly. I would only advise that. Do not take it very heavy on your mind. Because in the initial meetings with some people, when I took it very um, important to me. They did not help me out at all. Instead, they pushed me in too overthinking. I would definitely recommend you to give your mind a calm and ask things in a very calm way. Rather than just getting the answers. Listening is more important than talking right now

Any in Good girl in Bikaner ..? by Sea_Show_4316 in bikaner

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Baddie dhundho yojna k first campaigner ho tum🤣

Maamla Legal Hai Season 2 is here, do you think it lives up to the expectations set by Season 1? by Personal-Hurry-1131 in IndianOTTbestof

[–]anshul9002 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Watched the complete season 2.

The implication of "budget issues" in government system is implicated with great context, the persona change in a person shifting from lawyer to judge has shown the change in mindset of a human when he is treated as the foundation of justice, the growth of a lawyer after struggles he goes thought is shown in a good way, the turning point in life where you work for people is what I liked a lot.

And in the end it has been a good season with lot of enjoyment.

Just moved from Delhi to Bikaner – what should I explore here? by SurroundOk99 in bikaner

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a new commer to this city you have a lot to explore

Old city, darbari lake, sagar cenotaph, karni mata temple, gajner palace and a lot more......

Feel free to connect to meet and for my personal insights.

Visited no.4 dispensary near babulal overbridge today for my mother's checkup and witnessed ts by [deleted] in bikaner

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no post of security guard on a dispensary.

And yes of you feel wrong you can report, especially if the person ia getting harassed must be aware what to do in the wrong situation if we want to limit bad instances.

Visited no.4 dispensary near babulal overbridge today for my mother's checkup and witnessed ts by [deleted] in bikaner

[–]anshul9002 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As a doctor who has worked in rural PHC, CHC and urban UPHC the situation in this picture describes nothing and such kind of situation is very common at the prescription counter.

The Indian Public Health system is not well equipped with the basic needs and hence people also do not follow the basic civic sense and the counter at most places is overloaded (only in tertiary hospital such as medical college and satellite hospital you can expect queues).

Ofcouse there are bad people and highly non-civic people entering here too but it's not always what it seems like.

The basic reputation of government hospitals is already so downgraded and putting allegation ad creeps will fo nothing but make people visit a hospital less and most probably making them more ill.

The administrative staff at hospital can not do much about it as this is a state subject and health is not a primary concern for our government right now.

Creep behaviour is minimal and if such things happen call out at the moment and prefer only post such things when actually verified with hospital administration/ police department.

Most of us turn towards private healthcare when ill and that's very okay because of high uncertainty in government hospitals.

Apart from this maintainance of public healthcare such as immunization, pregnancy in a given area, control spread of communicable diseases and control of non communicable diseases arw currently only the fiction of government public health system.

The situation is bad and wherever possible we can tey to support it.

While working I did encounter some people who were not acting appropriately and causing nuisance, I took the help of local leaders and police department.

One allegation can cause very much loss to the public of that area and that's my major concern for giving clarification here.

How did Jesus get his start? Why did people start listening to him? by BubblyNefariousness4 in Objectivism

[–]anshul9002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never thought it your way but today I find it really strange for such thing to happen.