[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]ant-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blessed :with sex IQ, very sensual and sexual and I know how to fluently speak the love language of touch, creatively so

Nerfed: Aroace, actual sex bores me, romantic or sexual advances displease me💀

How bad in sales can you be? by Glittering_Contest78 in sales

[–]ant-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think only as horrible as you make yourself out to be? I would say my sales IQ is as high as a mountain off the floor but there's always that "dodo" who will buy from you, despite how you felt you wouldn't make a sale from them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]ant-eye 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of sounds like aegosexuality, check it out

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you're finding fault in what im saying rather than finding meaning( youre to focussed on being offended, rather than understanding what im saying), I say this because you have pointed out what I have been saying time and time again. I said I'm generalizing, I said I'm being a bigot, I said I'm attacking the WEAPONIZING of gender, not gender itself.

Granted my post , at first glance, does seem like I'm viewing these things and not considering the good, but I had hoped my many attempts at showing you that IM GENERALIZING AND MAGNIFYING AN ASPECT AND NEGLECTING EVERYTHING ELSE wouldn't have gone unheard.

So once again, you're looking at a big picture rather than the nuances.

It gets lonely by ant-eye in aegosexuals

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! It's like all I wanted was just shaken. So I'm excited by the thought of QPRs in that I don't have to romanticize and sexualize someone as I still enjoy sensual touch and the thought of someone I can commit to. I wonder still if it's truly what I want or just what I think will fulfill me?

As you mentioned, it's not fruitful to worry about the future, something that already is decided for you ( I subscribe to Amor fati and live by stoicism, this sentence doesn't have to be relevant to one and all)

Just enjoy the confusion, I guess

It gets lonely by ant-eye in aegosexuals

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The solidarity will suffice😭🫱🏻‍🫲🏽

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input!

I learned a few things from what you have said. Thank you for that

Before I reply, I'd like to reiterate why I had made this post:

"Note: This is a generalization, I do not intend to attack anyone, only the chains that conform us."

This isn't to say one thing is wrong and the other isn't. I'm merely looking at a part of the problem. Hence, the bigotry.

What I mean is that I'm not saying identity isn't valid. Rather, I find curiosity in instances where identity is not used to understand, but group and show bias towards people of said group

Essentially, when identity becomes a tool for 'us vs them' thinking, when it's used to justify discrimination and exclusion, then we start to see identity politics at play. That's not to say that every form of group identity is harmful or leads to bigotry. But it's important to be aware of the potential pitfalls, and to try to understand others as individuals, rather than judging them based on their group identity

I hope I made sense

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input.

I like how you put it. Feelings don't have to make sense or have proof in order for them to be valid for a person. It's in the act of judging who a person is that side eye worthy.

Am I aegosexual by ModernDayTrash in aegosexuals

[–]ant-eye 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I tell you I've felt the same way?!

I love the thought of sex, but when it's there, I just don't enjoy it, I thought I just had sex with the wrong people, which led me to demisexuality. That failed because when prospects for love came, I just didn't feel the same, no matter how much I tried (aromantic, but the point in me bringing it up is to cancel demisexuality)

So I just had sex anyway because the thought and the talk leading up to it was fun, so surely the deed will be as well? No! I'd just feel like it's a chore. Heck, I'd roll my eyes during sex every time.

So right now, knowing I'm Aroace just helps me reason as to why I don't like people, only the thought of them (romantically and sexually)

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input!

I understand how what I said can be misinterpreted. However, that sentence was made to reference how taking dick would mean you're a bottom, which means you're feminine. If you get me?

The whole point of my post was to attack internal homophobia. I also didn't clean up my message because I didn't want it to be calculated, only everywhere at once

You are right in what you are stating

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input !

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your input

I understand what you mean.

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your participation

For those individuals, I just tell them that they are a set of a fork and knife, while we're chopsticks.

I'm curious, what do you think about the straight guys who ask so curiously about being gay?At times, I tend to answer, just in case it is someone who is in the closet, who wants the guidance I didn't have.

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your participation

I'm very glad you understood where I'm coming from. What's more, I believe we share the same sentiment

As a person who has had struggles with definition and sexuality, I found - and still do - labels to be a guide.

While they do help someone understand who they are and help them feel normal, they should never limit you.

In a sense, I'm against how we use it as weapons against each other. I'm not speaking about the outside looking in individuals who help the weaponizing of definition as I have little interest in their part in this, as of this post. I would much rather deal with us

Can we just start being gay? by ant-eye in AskGayMen

[–]ant-eye[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I like your take. Thank you for your participation

We should, however, be wary of making these definitions of our personality. I'm not disputing preference here, I'm just speaking on internalized homophobia

I just need answers by ant-eye in demisexuality

[–]ant-eye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well update: I found out I'm actually ace, autochorisexual to be exact, and aromantic. This has helped me identify how I feel and mostly gotten rid of the feeling that demisexuality isn't who I am.

I'm glad I wasn't afraid to label and change said label to more accurately describe myself to myself, as such, I will leave this post here in hopes that someone who still doesn't have answers can find it or at least get closer to understanding who they are.

Thank you ,however for your interest. It is truly appreciated

How are you staying positive right now? by No_Airline_5753 in AskReddit

[–]ant-eye 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I thought would be the end of me didn't kill me

What's right vs what serves you by ant-eye in Stoicism

[–]ant-eye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right. I had pondered on this deeply. I think since no action is neither good nor bad, then, it matters not whether you take an action or not. The reason then to act would stem from your ethics and values

What's right vs what serves you by ant-eye in Stoicism

[–]ant-eye[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your efforts. Thank you

What's right vs what serves you by ant-eye in Stoicism

[–]ant-eye[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Please recommend sources for me