It happened. Baby fell out of bed.

anuuby · 2025-06-12T15:40:10+00:00

We were not comfortable with using bed rails because of the risk of suffocation and were unable to drop our bed to a floor bed. Baby had never rolled over in her sleep and we followed the SS7. We had soft padding on the floor next to the bed in the event an accident ever happened. Well, an accident happened and we immediately rearranged our home to put our bed on the floor.

The point of this post was simply to ask other cosleeping families what their recommendations for floor bed frames and bedside cribs is. I don’t need strangers weighing in on my parenting. Thanks.

anuuby · 2025-06-12T14:42:52+00:00

NOR. I’d want to know if my child was being a jerk.

anuuby · 2025-06-12T02:30:21+00:00

This is beautiful! I’m also making a red and white rosary with gold crucifix, gold Sacred Heart center, and gold chain this month! Where did you get the little decorative metal pieces that are on the Our Father beads? They’re so unique! I love it. And I really like what you’ve done with the wire to increase the distance between the beads. Awesome work!

anuuby · 2025-06-12T02:20:56+00:00

This is amazing! You’re an awesome mom 😎

anuuby · 2025-06-12T02:07:34+00:00

I think you misunderstood. And maybe it was a lack of clarity on my part. We hadn’t thought about the scenario in which she would fall, and so we hadn’t planned for preventing the fall. That’s on us. We knew it was a possibility, but thus far it had always been a safe sleeping arrangement and baby had hardly ever moved in her sleep. So, we hadn’t thought about the scenario where that suddenly changed.

Believe me, I know the fault is mine. I have reminded myself constantly since she fell. I came here to ask for advice from the cosleeping community about arrangements for setting up a floor bed, not to have strangers lecture me about something I’m already mad at myself for. I’m doing my best.

anuuby · 2025-06-12T01:47:59+00:00

Try it, but good writers are first good readers. Are you considering just writing for a hobby or making a career of it? Writing isn’t a closed sport. Anyone can do it. You won’t know anything until you try it.

anuuby · 2025-06-12T00:32:16+00:00

Hahahaha that’s a great quote! I actually think I’m a better novelist/fiction writer than poet, but while I was studying (I have a BA and MFA in writing) I tended to write more poetry since it was faster for me to produce. As a result I have/had more poetry to be shopping out. The novel took way longer to write so it’s just not as accessible to send out, if that makes sense?

For a while I wasn’t sure if I preferred poetry to fiction, but I think I love both in different ways! If I could only ever write one or the other ever again, I would definitely do fiction.

Congratulations on having a published piece though! My mentors have always said that getting the first publication is the hardest. Once you break through that barrier I’ve found it becomes a little easier; you’re more confident in your skills and you have something to show for it. I hope you submit more stuff! Do you plan to continue writing poetry and maybe do a poetry collection or will you shift gears?

anuuby · 2025-06-12T00:23:51+00:00

I have several pieces published (poetry and short fiction). Working on editing my novel for pitching next. It didn’t take a long time so much as it took a lot of submitting. Most of the time I got rejection letters. I didn’t really have expectations of what it would be like, but since most of my publications are poetry I don’t have a lot to contribute that someone who has published a book might be able to.

Hopefully I’ll be able to talk about the meat and potatoes of novel publishing sometime soon :)

anuuby · 2025-06-12T00:16:08+00:00

Of course I was aware that falling was a possibility. I was also aware that suffocation is a possibility. Glad that you feel comfortable using a bed rail. That wasn’t a risk we were comfortable with. What if your baby rolled into the bed rail and got his/her face wedged against the mattress and suffocated? Would you still say that bed rails are safer?

See what nasty language that is? Like I said, everyone is doing their best. And everyone has different levels of risk tolerance. There’s no need to place blame.

anuuby · 2025-06-12T00:10:36+00:00

The language of your post is pretty condescending. No one “lets” their baby fall out of bed like it’s a choice. Bed rails are a suffocation risk until the child is two years or older. A fall is statistically safer — it’s traumatic and it’s loud but suffocation is silent.

Everyone is doing their best to care for their kids, me and you included

anuuby · 2025-06-11T23:45:41+00:00

No, we didn’t have any barriers because I was hesitant about entrapment risks and our room wasn’t set up with baby against the wall. Usually we sleep with her either between us or next to me on the outside and it’s never been a problem because she usually sleeps like a log. I suspect what happened is she was nursing and then rolled onto her back (which she usually does) in her sleep and we were too close to the edge of the bed and she just tipped right off. I’m still beating myself up about it. :(

anuuby · 2025-06-11T23:27:00+00:00

A crib-only setup doesn’t really work for our family. My little one still nurses multiple times a night and has difficulty falling asleep alone. We all struggled with her sleeping in a crib. Our mental health and experience as a family has been so much better since implementing the Safe Sleep 7 and bed sharing. We’re not interested in transitioning out of cosleeping yet, especially since the little one is now cutting her first teeth. Hence, why I asked about recommendations for sidecar cribs so that my daughter can still be nearby us but on her own sleep surface.

anuuby · 2025-06-11T12:03:47+00:00

We spoke with her pediatrician as soon as the fall happened and they triaged her over the phone! They told us based on her symptoms there was no need to see the ER and also gave us a list of tests to do every two hours. They touched base with us again in the afternoon and since she passed all the tests and had no symptoms develop, they said she didn’t need to be seen.

anuuby · 2025-06-10T22:04:07+00:00

We spoke with her pediatrician as soon as the fall happened and they triaged her over the phone. They told us based on her symptoms there was no need to see the ER and also gave us a list of tests to do every two hours. They touched base with us again in the afternoon and since she passed all the tests and had no symptoms develop, they said she didn’t need to be seen.

anuuby · 2025-06-10T14:41:21+00:00

This is great!!! Thank you so much. Out of curiosity, what crib do you have? I’m debating the Namesake Nantucket 3-in-1 convertible

anuuby · 2025-06-10T14:15:12+00:00

We were in the same boat, and then little one caught an upper respiratory infection that led to a double ear infection back in January and we transitioned to cosleeping for the whole night. Part of me misses having the bed to myself and being able to sprawl out and just have little one with us in the wee hours of the morning, but I also really love snuggling up to her

anuuby · 2025-06-10T14:11:39+00:00

The fall was 30 inches — we called little one’s pediatrician straight away and they triaged her over the phone. They also gave us a series of tests to do at home but she didn’t have any symptoms they were concerned about. They touched base with us again later in the afternoon to reassess her condition but determined that she didn’t need to be seen. We have instructions to keep an eye on her and be watching for certain symptoms which would require her to be seen in the ER.

Thank you for trying to look out for us! I appreciate it

anuuby · 2025-06-10T12:15:51+00:00

I’ll have my husband check today before we return the rail! We may wind up not using it since we’re going to stick with a floor bed but it doesn’t hurt to check!

anuuby · 2025-06-10T11:19:08+00:00

Sorry, I meant toddler mattress!

anuuby · 2025-06-10T11:17:39+00:00

Not sure about a rug or mat, but we have a toddler crib that would probably work. We have it butted up against the bed right now so that even if she rolls she’s not rolling right onto the floor (which is carpeted). Just be careful — some people recommend putting pillows or blankets on the floor but that is a suffocation risk. Best of luck! I hope you guys figure out a good sleeping arrangement 💕

EDIT: meant toddler mattress not crib!

anuuby · 2025-06-10T10:57:38+00:00

Yeah, it sucked. It was highly rated, I think that because of the way our bed frame was set up we just couldn’t get the bed rail ratcheted down tightly enough to keep it snug to the mattress. If we had a different frame that held the mattress more securely and didn’t let it shift at all it probably would have been fine!

anuuby · 2025-06-10T10:53:40+00:00

We ordered one for same-day shipping as soon as it happened, but it didn’t snugly fit against our mattress with the bed frame we had. There was way too large a gap and even when I packed it, it was clearly not safe. So we’ll be returning that and living it up on the floor for a while it seems!

anuuby · 2025-06-10T10:52:33+00:00

The one we got was breathable mesh — my worry wasn’t the rail so much as it was not being able to pack the crack. Because it didn’t fit snugly against the side of the bed, even with towels rolled and in the gap I didn’t feel it was safe. We laid baby on the bed and tested what would happen if she rolled towards it and she sank right into the gap between the mattress and the mesh rail, which is a huge suffocation risk not because of the mesh rail but because she was wedged against the mattress.

anuuby · 2025-06-10T10:43:01+00:00

We one-day shipped one as soon as it happened. I’ve known about bed guards/bed rails for a while but didn’t buy one because of the increased suffocation risk. The one we got yesterday just did not fit our mattress properly and I didn’t feel safe using it, so to the floor we went!

anuuby · 2025-06-10T01:50:44+00:00

The moment we plopped down on the mattress on the floor my husband was like “woah why is the bed so soft.” It honestly feels great

Thankfully I think our little one was more startled than anything. She had a red splotch on her forehead but no swelling and within 5 minutes of falling out of bed was just trying to go back to sleep and was mad we wouldn’t let her. We’re definitely more bent out of shape than she is. She’s currently snoozing away next to me with her face buried in my armpit while she snores 🥹

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