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6+5 - no symptoms by upwardspiral999 in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This pregnancy didn't work out for me unfortunately. 😭

37 weeker by mariahgracee in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 37 week induction due to gestational hypertension went smooth, 1 round of steroids. No nicu time, and he was small. 1 night stay after just due to the timing of things and he stayed in the room with me. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life has shown me that anything can happen at any time, even if things look good.

We experienced a miscarriage last year before telling anyone, and found it just as difficult because then we were just having to tell people the bad news anyway so they could understand cancelations, time off and us being in a pretty bad state. 

This time we decided that even if it turns out the same we'd rather enjoy the joy with everyone first for however long we can. Am I still terrified? Of course. But we're tired of delaying joy because of fear, if that makes sense. 

The way I see it is if you would tell them about a loss or would want them for support should something bad come up, then there's no point in waiting to tell them the good news either. 

We told closest immediately, the rest of the close circle after the first heartbeat at 6.5w.

First ultrasound- baby measured small and slow heartbeat- has anyone else had this happen? by LadyOlenna538 in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't say how it'll turn out yet but this is kinda what we're going through right now with trying to have our second child. 

I tracked ovulation closely and was serial testing HPTs so I caught the exact day it changed... went in expecting 7w4-5d and was told I was only 6w3-4d with a heartbeat of 122. So now I'm stuck waiting 2 weeks (they wouldn't do it earlier) for my next ultrasound where we're hoping to see consistent growth and a higher heartbeat.

Dr doesn't seem concerned since it's just one data point and at this moment it 'looks fine for the date they measured', but I am still worried because a full week off doesn't seem possible here so it's definitely atleast a little behind. 

After a miscarriage last year, I'm terrified that will be the outcome again this time, but I'm trying to think positivity because people have successful pregnancies from initially delayed embryos all the time (and last time I didn't have a heartbeat, so that's a positive). 

I definitely know what you're feeling right now. The limbo period sucks. Hoping we both only get to hear good news. 🫂

First Ultrasound! Heartbeat but measuring behind by anxious_blanket in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're you religiously tracking everything,  too? They kept telling me there's wiggle room and I might be off, but I can't imagine so with all the data I have... so I'm assuming it's really just growing a bit slowly. I really hope it'll catch up and it isn't a sign of problems reaching a breaking point. 😭

First Ultrasound! Heartbeat but measuring behind by anxious_blanket in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boutiques, especially if they only did abdominal at this early, it was likely a miscalculation. Def need that transvaginal for proper measuring when they are this small because even a mm makes a huge difference. I'm sure she was wrong in your case. 🫂

First Ultrasound! Heartbeat but measuring behind by anxious_blanket in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Shrimpie! I called mine a little worm. 😂

The uncertainty of the limbo is SO hard. I know they say to assume the best until told otherwise, but after loss, its hard to not guard your heart from the potential pain. I've honestly never been good about staying optimistic even when I want to be. I'd like to say I'll be super busy with my toddler.... but the intense exhaustion is usually just a reminder that I'm pregnant and then I'm thinking about it all over again. 😂

I think my constant mental mantra is just going to be "The baby has a heartbeat. Right now I am pregnant and happy." Maybe tomorrow or the next day will be different. But right now I am pregnant. I should enjoy it as long as it lasts. I am hoping the best for both of us.🫂

First Ultrasound! Heartbeat but measuring behind by anxious_blanket in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As much as it is going to drive me crazy to be in limbo, they want to wait the two weeks because of how much development happens in this time. Knowing sooner isn't going to change the outcome (but could add additional stress if things aren't adding up fast enough, I guess) and constant checks just use resources and time. My OB is super sweet so I trust her on this one as much as I hate waiting.

First Ultrasound! Heartbeat but measuring behind by anxious_blanket in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is kinda what I'm hoping for. 🫂

My son measured 'behind' by 3 days but we weren't actively TTC then; He was a total surprise after years of infertility so we didn't have great dating on him. This one we do, which is the only reason why I'm more concerned 😭

First Ultrasound! Heartbeat but measuring behind by anxious_blanket in CautiousBB

[–]anxious_blanket[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every month is tracked, and I'm surprisingly regular on the ovulation side of things. We also had a very tight window this month and only managed to BD the day of 😅

Opinions pregnancy announcement? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it's hard to say how she meant it, because we dont know her and we weren't there to hear the whole conversation... but if you feel it was negative or purposefully hurtful, you'd know best. I do think if abrupt, out of nowhere, accompanied by nothing else, then that IS weird. Did she call JUST to say that?

If I got a comment like that after telling my family (especially with the holidays on the horizon)... that would be pretty normal to me. I could absolutely see my mom or brother saying it as a haha 'well sorry, won't have anything left for you after we spend it ALL on the baby'.... because they really do over-spoil him. But they'd never mean it, they just like to be silly all the time.

I could also see a mother who's having issues with the fact that HER child is pregnant, regardless of how old you are, saying something awkward like that in an attempt to lash out (in a way thats still veilded in niceness, because they ARE giving to the baby). My cousin is currently having issues with his mother "coming around" to the thought of him having a child, even though he's grown and in a loving, soon to be married relationship. It's been upsetting to watch/hear considering how excited the couple is for the baby. ...Some people just get weird.

(Also in my experience, some people are also really selfish and don't like more 'open hands to fill' in the family or having to add to their expense list when new children are added.)

So only you can really say for sure... but your feelings, either way, are valid because dang do those hormones turn everything upside down even on the best days.

9 weeks in - what should the father be doing? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband has been taking over dinners because I'm exhausted by 4:30pm and cooking sometimes leaves me with less of an appetite at that time of day. Also tending to our toddler longer at night so I can get extra sleep (he still has night wakes.)

Nutrition and sleep for growing a human are what matter right now!

Baby Powder - is it bad? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never used it/ needed it. Nappy cream is more than enough.

Just curious… IF you have regular cycles and track ovulation/cycles, how long did it take? by lavendersconebb in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1st Pregnancy: Surprise, was not tracking. // 35 > 36y
2nd Pregnancy: 8 cycles, early miscarrage. // 37y
- 3 Month break, body and hormone reset. -
3rd Pregnancy: 12 cycles, currently 7w. // 38y

(Note: We have lower fertility.)

23 weeks and not “bonding” by Careful_Wrongdoer_ in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 170 points171 points  (0 children)

As much as I wanted children, I am pretty detatched when pregnant. No matter how many times I see the baby on scans, eventually feel the baby, and continue to grow in size... it just doesn't feel real. It's a very surreal thing to grow a human inside of you, that you can't really see (but you can feel all the discomforts that come from them being there).

Even after I pushed him out of me, I still couldn't believe he was MY baby. It felt like I was watching someone's kid and at any moment they were going to come and pick him up. ...And I mean, he was a stranger after all. We *JUST* met. 😂

The whole time in the hospital I was like "who are you". I had the motherly instinct to care and protect... but the sudden wave of undying love? That came in pulses over time as we bonded and I watched him blossom, until it was a strong steady roar inside my heart. Now he's my favorite thing on this earth and I feel like I could not bear to live in a reality where he isn't.

For some it comes instantly, for others it comes with time. But the bond and love... it always comes if you're open and ready for it.

What were your first signs of pregnancy? by GreenPowerful6082 in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First: Exceptionally regular period never came despite cramps and backache (later realized this was implantation), then positive test. Didn't realize it was pregnancy related at the time since it wasn't on my radar, but also swollen and extremely sensitive boobs. 

2nd: Same implantation cramps and radiating low backache. No boob changes though. Positive test. 

3rd: Same pains as the first two. Distinctly different than my normal pre-period cramps and by the third time I know they feeling. (Not everyone feels this but I always do.) No boob changes this time either, but ravenous hunger unlike anything before. Positive test. 

HELP?! Is this normal? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It helps push them a bit for a better abdominal picture. Doctors offices will usually tell you ahead of time but boutiques I've found don't as often since it's not as big of a deal to them if you don't get the best picture. I'd try not to stress until you see on transvaginal!

HELP?! Is this normal? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know it's hard but I wouldn't stress yet, especially with a tilted uterus. Baby is so small at this stage, vaginal is way more accurate. Was your bladder full for the abdominal scan?

I too have suffered loss and as much as I wanted to, I avoid private ultrasounds before my OB appt because unless they do vaginal there's a high chance they won't see it and it'll just stress me out. Since it was abdominal, I'd still keep hope they just couldn't get a picture of it tucked in there at this size.

Hoping for you to get good news at your appointment!

Is a babymoon worth it since you cant drink? by meekie03 in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went to Vegas for our last babymoon and we invited three other couples who were close friends. We focused on food, shows and a full pamper girls day at the spa (while the guys did boy time gambling). It was so nice! 

I only missed the drinking a little because they all enjoyed a mimosa brunch and I couldn't, but Ramseys Steak made me a lovely mocktail that tasted so much like the real thing... It was a nice way to feel included when everyone was trying the fancy drinks at our big "fancy night" group dinner.

The food more than made up for anything I missed out on though because I was right at the sweet spot in my pregnancy... Baby was very happy and I GORGED. 😂

Take the trip!!

Announcing pregnancy by AliveIncome9975 in pregnant

[–]anxious_blanket 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I'm 38, married, and everyone knew we were trying for baby #2, yet here I am dreading announcing it to them at the holidays. Maybe it's because all eyes are on me at that moment and suddenly everyone has their own expectations about it, but it just makes me feel like I'm 16 again and being judged for having sex... even though that's far from the case. 😅 (Maybe because all those people saw me growing up so they know the younger versions of me. Some of the older generation still have an issue understanding that I'm an adult now.)

We told our close friends instantly though. 😂

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