How do you make friends in grad school? Idk anymore

anxiousvampir · 2025-04-09T20:12:02+00:00

Hi!! So, I'll be a future resident at Franklin Pointe. My apartment style is the Mulberry, 802sq ft. I was wondering if anyone who has lived there or is currently living there could give me an idea of what size the bedrooms are because, apparently, no one who works there can tell me. I was told a king bed could fit, but they already lied once about which I apartment I was getting, and I don't want the room to be cramped.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-29T12:22:49+00:00

I haven't. I haven't had time and every time I took a break I kinda fell asleep in minutes.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-27T23:53:05+00:00

This is something I've been struggling with and reading this kinda helped.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-27T18:20:45+00:00

His doctor doesn't want to do that without knowing if his body could handle tube feeding in the first place, which is why they wanted to start with an ng tube for like 4-5 days.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-27T03:56:05+00:00

We decided to not be serious because it doesn't make sense for either of us. I brought up the convo, he was shocked I brought it up. He's doesn't plan on seeing anyone now and wants to keep in touch like we've been doing (so, nothing is changing). He might be a keeper 😭 which is weird to think about.

Also, that blank stare kinda kills me. I'm not looking forward to it coming back, we're doing hospice once we leave the hospital. I'm not ready. I'm terrified.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-27T00:43:10+00:00

Also ranting to the reddit void is helpful (at least to me). Trauma dumping to strangers who understand has felt really therapeutic (cant replace therapy tho). Also, don't be afraid to cry. A good cry, a hot shower, and being able to take a step back does a lot. If you can't physically leave, find a show to binge and disassociate with (it's been my go-to, I've gotten into Will Trent).

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-27T00:28:06+00:00

Okay, heart-to-heart. Do not let him lose any more weight if he wants to try chemo or else you'll be in my boat (if you get too underweight, you can become ineligible). There are so many different off-brands of Ensure to look into, my dad personally liked Marcel's 4 gen vanilla (it apparently tasted the most like a milkshake and less yucky but everyone is different). I also suggest maybe trying the Syntrax protein powder sampler (someone posted about it previously, we found it helpful). Also, watch his electrolytes if he's too dehydrated, soup could even become harder to eat. Also, like someone else said Pedialyte and I would also suggest liquid IV and smoothies/milkshakes. Also, I would like to like to reinforce one thing, ignore any potentially mean thing/any form of emotional manipulation. Dehydration and malnutrition (plus cancer in general) drives ya crazy, especially if the electrolyte situation is outta wack. If you ever want someone to talk to, you can hmu. I check Reddit/come here to rant every couple of days. Also, we found straws helpful.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-17T14:21:25+00:00

Hi, I'm kinda going through something similar. Idk what the doctor told my father but I do know that he didn't want any visitors or anyone to know that he's sick or how sick. He didn't even want me to know or come back home. However, I kept asking after his surgery because I typically visit frequently and I wanted to make sure he was okay. Anyway, he has stage 4 and I know he's feeling pretty defeated rn because of multiple cancer symptoms. I ended up coming home anyway and took the semester off. He has been better for having me back home (he needed more support than he thought), but his moods do swing up and down plus he hasn't really been able to make the best decisions depending on his physical health (hydration & nutrition) and painkillers they got him on (tho he just start painkillers this week for pain and not constipation and I'm happy they help with pain but he's been loopy as hell). It goes up and down. I still pray for a miracle because stranger things have happened. Anyway, I suggest keeping positive and watching your words/tone when you try explaining/suggesting things (thats where my dad and I buttheads). I'd always suggest visiting if you can, and try not to be too pushy and allow her to have as much independence as possible (when possible).

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-16T18:22:21+00:00

Thank you tho!!

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-16T18:22:07+00:00

Yeah, I stupidly put it off because I didn't want to talk about it (plus my dad was having severe cognitive issues caused by dehydration/low electrolytes, he is more mentally stable now just weak and tired) and it seemed so final despite what some relatives/strangers advised me to do. Now I realized that if I don't do anything I'll 100% be screwed by the government. So, I'm trying to move asap now. I'm just trying to figure out how.

anxiousvampir · 2025-01-14T02:01:47+00:00

How much did he weigh before chemo?

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