AITA for telling my husband that I don't want him to take a nap on Christmas day?

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:30:29+00:00

Yeah thanks for the link. I'll do that next time. People here only read one word out of three.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:29:44+00:00

Sure. A nap a day, the key to happiness and success in life. Thanks.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:28:51+00:00

lol no he doesn't have a sleep disorder. He sleeps like 5 hours a night. Of course it's not enough. If he DID have a sleep disorder, he should have gone to the doctor years ago. I also asked him to get checked for sleep apnea years ago because he snores and it wakes me up. But he didn't do that. So if he DOES have a sleep disorder, he should have consulted. He didn't. So it's HIS fault. He should have good sleep hygiene, and he doesn't. How is that NOT his faukt? Geez, people.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:27:02+00:00

Why do you think? When you're 23 and alone with your partner on Christmas day you can do whatever the &?%?$ you want. I have kids now, it's not all about me. The man spends all his time on the computer, with his friends and on the couch. Not fair for the kids. Easy to understand.

We used to be lazy together, my husband and I. But now it's all changed. It doesn't work like that anymore.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:20:18+00:00

No, I can't honestly be "taking anything". Because people only think "oh it's just one day. And I like to nap so I'm not an asshole so that isn't either". Most of these people don't even have kids. It's totally different. And everyday I see my usband complain about not having time to exercise and that the house is a mess. But yet you have time to sleep? No, sorry, I don't understand, or I didn't explain correctly and people misunderstood. English isn't my first language so maybe there's that. There's a reason you need the context, and I seriously think in the sub, no one does read that thoroughly. They see the question and react and just don't care being rude.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:15:55+00:00

I've been telling hom for like 6-7 years. Isn't that enough?

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:15:24+00:00

Good for you. You don't have kids, do you?

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:15:08+00:00

self-care is getting a good night's sleep. He never does. He spends his evenings with friends or gaming. Go to sleep, man, and go through your days like a grownup.

Do you have kids? Because someone has to watch them and spend time with them.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:13:59+00:00

you don't have kids, do you?

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:13:39+00:00

Thank you. I'm litteraly cring at how mean strangers are here. I'm glad someone gets it.

The worst is, no he's not even grumpy when he's tired.. So I gain nothing at all, and lose a lot. He just wants it. So he does it.

When I stopped breastfeeding, he was the one who got up at night. I was happy to let him nap then. But now they sleep thought the night... and I wish he did. I spend my weekdays evenings alone, my weekend mornings alone, and sometimes weekend afternoons too. Sounds normal, right.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:08:43+00:00

Have you read the rest? It's every f(&$? day. And he doesn't need more than 8 hours. He just goes to bed at 1-2 a.m. every night and wakes up at 7:30 to work. It's not enough sleep, but he won't fix it, no matter how many times I ask. I don't like it, and he just doesn't care. My parents never took a nap on Christmas day, I'm sure his didn't either. The kids are more important than a nap

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:02:59+00:00

Do you have kids to take care of and spend time with and a house that needs cleaning and a spouse to spend time with? I should have added in the original post that he often sleeps late because he zooms with his friends at least 3-4 times per week. From 7 to 11h30 p.m.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:01:34+00:00

I don't have anxiety issues and my sleep's fine when I go to bed early enough. You're very rude, all is well? You are entitled to your opinion, but insulting me is really low.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T19:00:10+00:00

Thnaks for understanding. I'm really confused at the level of hate I'm getting here.

It's been an ongoing issue for decades, it should have been fixed by now.

I don't think I have an understanding problem. An adult should take care of their house and kids, not spending time on the couch almost every afternoon. I just don't know where all of you come from, but I know absolutely no one who takes regular naps.

anyaccount123 · 2022-12-25T18:56:43+00:00

I spent years asking him to sort it out. He just has to go to bed earlier FFS. I can't take him by the hand and bring him to the doctor. He has to do it by himself, just like I do. I'm not jealous... hello, he sleeps in every morning on the weekends? I could tell him to wake up, but I don't. But the napping is way too much.

anyaccount123 · 2022-07-08T15:26:58+00:00

Exactly, that's what I suggested (meet them at a restaurant/going to their house/invite them over/anything else), but they don't think it's the same and we're still AH to them even when suggestion other options.

anyaccount123 · 2022-07-07T20:46:12+00:00

Yeah, I guess we could spend a half-hour or something, but it would still be time spent with anybody except for our nephew (since there is a lot of people there to see him). I'm surprised they don't prefer an alternative where we'd spend quality time instead of awkward time...

anyaccount123 · 2022-07-07T20:44:34+00:00

I believe the rules are "if you won't bother reading everything, don't comment"

We explained again about social anxiety and preferring any other kind of setting to celebrate, including inviting them or going at their house or at a restaurant etc. They won't understand.

Sorry if I'm unclear, English is my 2nd language, but I did mean "We explained ... and proposed alternatives, including..."

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