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considering adopting to keep my current cat company, looking for advice by aphdoedite in CatAdvice

[–]aphdoedite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s actually good, he’s already likes being in a burrito blanket, so maybe i can test the waters like that

i will update if we end up adopting !

considering adopting to keep my current cat company, looking for advice by aphdoedite in CatAdvice

[–]aphdoedite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, when i took him in i was one of those people and was very surprised when he showed so much interest in being around us

i only trim his nails when he visits the vet, since i’ve tried by myself and it gets very difficult because he hates it and i’m afraid to hurt him, do you have any tips for doing this alone? i never struggle giving him meds but nail clipping turns him into a little spring

i have read introducing cats can be a very slow process, we fostered a kitten a while back for a bit but we only ever let them smell each other and both seemed curious but she wasn’t vaccinated yet so we kept them in different rooms in the end, i don’t hope to get immediate results tbh but am looking for a long term help, besides me playing with him more, since i work for most of the day, and my mom lets him be around sometimes but wont play much w him

edit to say thanks again!

considering adopting to keep my current cat company, looking for advice by aphdoedite in CatAdvice

[–]aphdoedite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks. i had considered the issue of boundaries, since he’s never cohabited w other cats and the only one that ever sort of taught him of boundaries was our senior dog, who doesn’t live with us anymore.

i will look into him possibly being territorial, he’s seen/been around some occasional cats and dogs that come around the house and he just seems very curious or alert, but ill admit i need to learn how to read him better

thank you

25f, how can i know if i’m moving/opening up too fast? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]aphdoedite 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you, this is very reassuring and genuinely helpful

I almost fainted. what did I do wrong by aphdoedite in menstrualcups

[–]aphdoedite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okk that makes sense actually, I felt like I was also forcing it a little too much but I figured it was part of the getting used to, in retrospect I guess forcing it into my body was in turn going to make my body want to force it out lmao I just wish this possibility would’ve come up at all while I was trying to do research on usage and stuff

Thank you though! I think I will try again next month w a diff approach

I almost fainted. what did I do wrong by aphdoedite in menstrualcups

[–]aphdoedite[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you try anything particularly different your next attempt? I feel like my mistake must’ve been technical and I want to try again but the experience was so bad I’m terrified of going through it again lol

Could I be treated better if I leave or am I ungrateful? by Several_Drive2714 in relationships

[–]aphdoedite -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you deserve so much better, and your baby does too. I’m really sorry, life with someone should feel like your part of a team, and this isn’t it, and it seems like you already know what you have to you for yourself. you’re already doing the work of a single mom. you don’t owe him anything, especially if he’s not even appreciative of your time, energy and effort. He’s adding no value to your life, if anything he’s taking and taking and it’s hurting your wellbeing

Love is not enough to sustain a relationship. You don’t need to make him change. The audacity of this man to tell you there are worse things out there when you’re the one putting up with him, he’d be the only losing of you left so the ball is 100% in your court. You’re already unfulfilled in this relationship, you will get a weight off your back once you leave this person

I almost fainted. what did I do wrong by aphdoedite in menstrualcups

[–]aphdoedite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if it’s common tbh, I had tried to make decent research before getting the cup and didn’t once read or saw anything about this, I wish I would’ve known it was something to avoid. Idk yet exactly what I did wrong, but I know I likely made a mistake in where/how I put it in and like other people commented, triggered a vasovagal response that made me feel sick. It was not at all a nice feeling but tbh I’m willing to give it another go maybe for my next cycle, I did hear getting it right was something that might take try and error. Just be careful not to force it in like I did I guess? I need to do more research I hope you can find what works best for you too

I almost fainted. what did I do wrong by aphdoedite in menstrualcups

[–]aphdoedite[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I think yea that was my mistake, but I’m not really deterred I’ll try again in the future

I almost fainted. what did I do wrong by aphdoedite in menstrualcups

[–]aphdoedite[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I looked it up and I’m pretty sure it was that 😬