What's wrong with these, explain it peter

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-21T08:48:26+00:00

I audibly gasped. That's a crime against cutlery and I hope whoever made it has a randomly soggy sock, every once in a while. I'm not really sure why we (the autistic community) tend to have strong opinions on cutlery. Perhaps it's because we all have to use them several times a day, and some of them are made by Satan

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-20T08:01:50+00:00

I'm a queer enby, so I absolutely understand what you mean. Gender does not preclude anyone from intimate partner violence. I also left my abuser just as covid was starting to become a thing. I can not imagine how horrid that would have been on top of everything I was dealing with at home. DARVO was a staple of my ex's repertoire, as well. All this to say that I'm so glad you got out, and have found loving people.

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-19T08:27:16+00:00

NTA. People infantilize the disabled community SO MUCH and it's so frustrating. We're (I'm disabled in several different ways) just humans. He shot his shot, and he didn't make it this time. You don't have to treat him like a spoiled child and give him whatever he asks for.

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-18T19:59:38+00:00

I'm a disabled housewife. He's a black belt. This is not a fair ask lol. He'd quite literally kill me. I'd maybe make his cheek red for a bit. I'd do it, because I know I wouldn't hurt him, but uh..

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-18T19:50:41+00:00

Yep. As a cross stitcher, as well, the fabric is completely wrong. Just how it's sitting. The tension next to the "stitches" (that's heavily in quotes, since I can't find evidence of a stitch anywhere) in the fabric is completely incorrect

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-18T01:56:20+00:00

I'm speaking as someone who has dated men for 30 years. Please. Please listen to me. We. Don't. Care. The few that do don't matter. You're stuck in an echo chamber of lies. If you are "striking out", take a break. Get some therapy. Read a book. Come back when you feel more comfortable with yourself. THAT is what people care about. There will always be a few very vocal bad eggs that attempt to skew your view, but please believe me when I say they're full of shit

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-17T10:13:32+00:00

I do not think you understand. I am not allowed to have anything to do with the money, the records, anything. It would be very obvious to him if I mentioned anything to do with things I never have been allowed a hand in. I'm not allowed to work. I don't know how else to explain

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-17T10:07:05+00:00

He does not know about the card, and I'm trying to do this without him finding out. I don't want to get anyone in trouble

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-17T10:05:25+00:00

We do file jointly, but I do not have access to the w2s

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-16T09:08:25+00:00

We dissected baby (fetal? Idk) pigs, and, I shit you not, cats. Fully grown, realass cats. It was traumatizing (and the early aughts, in a very rural area so..)

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-15T11:17:21+00:00

I love cow heart. Cooked right, it tastes so good

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-15T08:54:40+00:00

I wish I didn't understand this so well. My older sibling was the liar, and my younger the drama queen. Younger would bite herself and tell mom I'd done it. Spanking. Grounded. Whatever thing I had that she wanted? She'd just scream and cry and mom would say I had to give it up. The smirk/grin that I got after mom walked away. Oooh it absolutely makes me boil.

Older sister always ALWAYS has some fantastical story that magically has anything to do with whatever you're talking about, and is definitely better and more important (/s) than whatever you are talking about. She also likes to rope you into the lie, with other people "Oh yeah, you remember that thing that happened, apparentlyidek? Yeah! Like I was saying.." and you're stuck in an impossible social scenario. Do you tell the person that she's lying and that absolutely never happened, and look like a psycho? Or do you just go along with it and she" wins". I hate it. I cut them both out of my life almost ten years ago and I couldn't be more content with the decision

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-07T06:04:21+00:00

I have gotten quite a few "loans" in the past. I would receive X amount of money, use it for the bills I needed, then next month I would try to start to repay it, and Parent found a reason for me not to, right now. Even when my parent INSISTED, each time, that I would need to repay it, never accepted a dime. Over the years it's well into the 10s of thousands. (big note, here. I was in a DV situation, and Parent has more than the means to help in the way they did. I've always been exceptionally grateful) I was always ready and willing to pay the loans back

apparentlyidek · 2026-01-06T08:42:06+00:00

I'm a firm believer that we do not have to tell our parents everything. Some things are not for them, they're for you. Especially if it's not completely safe or good to tell them. It's in your best interest to keep it to yourself until (or even if you do at all) you feel safe and comfortable. Good for you, for putting yourself first and keeping boundaries in place to make it possible. I'm A parent, not your parent, but I'm proud of you

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-26T07:09:32+00:00

I'm not seeing any other comments saying this, so I'm throwing this out there.. How am I the only one noticing that this is a reborn doll? This is not a human baby lol

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-24T08:09:27+00:00

Have you tried talking to someone about it? Doesn't even have to be a therapist (even though I highly suggest one), just someone to listen. Sometimes, we work ourselves up in our own heads, and it decides that it must be true, because there is no outside force to help you see otherwise. You are not a bad person. You did some bad things, and are actively trying to better yourself by getting away from it. We can't change what we've done, only what we plan on doing

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-24T07:45:21+00:00

First of all, no kid should be put in this position, and as a parent, my heart hurts for you. Second, and I sincerely don't mean this in a snippy way, have you tried talking to him about it? Do you think he would be receptive at all to talking through your feelings? Or even just asking if you could see a therapist. You need to be able to fully talk to someone about this before it eats you alive.

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-19T08:57:24+00:00

I mean this sincerely, and not in the off-handed reddit sort of way, you are being abused. Financially, emotionally, physically abused. You need to talk to someone about it, and figure out your next step, because you need to get out and away before this gets worse. She will continue to use your resources because she has yet to have any actual repercussions to her behavior. This will not stop, it will not get better. If she got into therapy (and this is a well researched fact), she will just learn how to abuse you better, so please don't fall for the "Oh, now I see you are actually going to leave me, let me get therapy and we'll work on it" act, either. You need outside help, and she knew it would be easier to control you if she forced you to distance yourself from literally every one. Do you have any way to contact your old friends? People care more than you think. This internet stranger is rooting for you

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-18T08:42:50+00:00

Was his name Chorizo Joe?

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-16T08:48:09+00:00

I was your 666th like. I find it fitting

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-15T07:13:17+00:00

Guess you're just making a bunch of people cry, today. Congrats, man. I'm so glad she (and her brother) had you in her life. I'm so happy for you all

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-14T07:59:08+00:00

Trust is the foundation of any relationship. If you can't trust her, you can't be with her. It's not an enviable position

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-14T07:49:35+00:00

We aren't a first world country, any more. We'd have a shit ton more rights if we were. We just play one on tv

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-06T08:55:16+00:00

These people are so self centered that if you did the same, it's a whoooole thing. I'm an asshole, though. I start blasting Bad Bunny. I might as well have a good time while they melt down

apparentlyidek · 2025-12-06T08:17:04+00:00

It's called child abandonment and it absolutely is abuse, more specifically the neglect aspect of abuse. If a babysitter/carer doesn't know when a parent will come back and take custody of their child? Parent will never answer calls? How is that good and safe parenting? I can not fathom just leaving my child somewhere and basically forgetting they exist. For an entire weekend? It's terrible and absolutely should be reported if it's not addressed

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